WEBVTT 00:13.520 --> 00:15.719 -[Cian] Hello. -Hi. 00:15.799 --> 00:17.560 Wow, you look great. 00:17.640 --> 00:19.360 I love this. [chuckles] 00:19.439 --> 00:21.439 -[Cian] Shall we get started? -Yes. 00:21.520 --> 00:23.160 Are you looking for love? 00:23.240 --> 00:25.200 Uh, yes. Unquestionably so. 00:25.279 --> 00:29.040 I don't want to be single forever, no. 'Cause I don't wanna feel lonely. 00:29.119 --> 00:32.280 I haven't dated in 33 years. 00:32.360 --> 00:33.280 [sighs] 00:33.360 --> 00:35.360 It's… It's really hard. 00:35.440 --> 00:37.520 To have a lovely lady, 00:37.600 --> 00:38.680 oh my goodness, 00:38.760 --> 00:40.160 I'm all for it. 00:41.160 --> 00:42.040 Ah. 00:42.120 --> 00:44.640 [narrator] Finding love can be hard for anyone. 00:44.720 --> 00:47.000 Keep looking for that fish in your pond. 00:47.080 --> 00:48.360 You're in competition with 00:48.440 --> 00:50.320 -all the other young men. -[groans] 00:50.400 --> 00:53.680 [narrator] And for some people, it can feel like an impossible dream. 00:53.760 --> 00:56.160 Uh, let's change the topic. Can we change the topic? 00:56.239 --> 00:59.320 You find your Prince Charming. I find my Cinderella. Bam! 01:00.160 --> 01:03.160 [narrator] This series follows people on the autism spectrum… 01:03.239 --> 01:05.600 I dub thee Sir James. 01:05.679 --> 01:07.800 Through this process, he might find love. 01:07.880 --> 01:09.200 -Oh yeah. -[woman] Yeah. 01:09.280 --> 01:13.080 [narrator] …as they navigate the confusing world of relationships… 01:13.160 --> 01:14.720 I really like how you hold my hand. 01:14.800 --> 01:15.880 [narrator] …and dating. 01:15.960 --> 01:17.479 Do you wanna be my girlfriend? 01:24.479 --> 01:26.759 -[Cian] Hello. -How's things going? 01:26.839 --> 01:30.160 -[Cian] Good. How are you? -I'm doing fine. Thank you so much. 01:30.240 --> 01:32.560 -[Cian] So you're ready for this? -Um, you bet. 01:32.640 --> 01:34.119 My name is Dani. 01:34.200 --> 01:35.839 I am 26 years old. 01:35.920 --> 01:39.440 You could say I have a mixture of six different nationalities. 01:39.520 --> 01:42.640 So mostly Mexican, Caucasian, and a smidge of Asian. 01:42.720 --> 01:46.720 I am single, and I am on the autism spectrum. 01:46.800 --> 01:49.320 -[Cian] Are you looking for love, Dani? -I am. 01:49.399 --> 01:54.119 [sighs] Unfortunately, it's just so hard to find a boyfriend. 01:54.199 --> 01:55.839 It's… [sighs] 01:55.920 --> 02:00.000 You could imagine, I have to kiss many frogs to find the right guy. 02:00.080 --> 02:01.800 It's not just about the looks. 02:01.880 --> 02:05.399 I'm looking for somebody who is motivated and has really great hygiene, 02:05.479 --> 02:07.960 because I don't like bad breath. 02:14.320 --> 02:17.960 [narrator] Dani lives in Los Angeles with her aunt and uncle. 02:18.040 --> 02:20.360 -Serve you some coffee. -Thank you. 02:20.440 --> 02:23.840 [narrator] She's lived with them since she was 11 years old. 02:23.920 --> 02:27.360 It's hard for me to find the right person who is so much like me. 02:27.440 --> 02:32.840 -I've been desperate to look for love. -[aunt] Don't be desperate, Dani. 02:32.920 --> 02:34.480 I want somebody with a career 02:34.560 --> 02:38.000 who can win good bucks, good salaries. 02:38.080 --> 02:41.400 I need somebody who's financially secure, who can maintain a company. 02:41.480 --> 02:43.280 [Cian] You're not a gold digger, are you, Dani? 02:43.360 --> 02:45.320 -Yeah. -[chuckles] "Yeah." 02:45.400 --> 02:46.799 Know what a gold digger is? 02:46.880 --> 02:50.239 Gold digger means they're trying to look for guys who are rich. 02:50.320 --> 02:51.600 -[uncle] Yes. -[aunt] Is that you? 02:51.679 --> 02:54.400 -Pretty much, but… -[both laugh] 02:55.400 --> 02:58.880 Yeah, I think where that comes from is her dad. 02:58.959 --> 03:03.600 My sister, which is her mom, and her husband were married. 03:03.679 --> 03:04.640 He didn't work. 03:04.720 --> 03:09.080 So he was always at home with the girls while my sister was working all the time. 03:09.160 --> 03:10.679 So she doesn't want that. 03:10.760 --> 03:12.560 It's called a dysfunctional upbringing. 03:13.080 --> 03:16.600 Yeah, but you turned out just fine. Both you and your sister, right? 03:17.480 --> 03:18.600 -Right? -Yes. 03:19.880 --> 03:23.080 I wanted to find somebody special, somebody who can depend on me. 03:23.160 --> 03:25.040 We want to depend on each other, 03:25.120 --> 03:27.880 and work together to have a sustainable living. 03:27.959 --> 03:29.760 My aunt would tell me, 03:29.840 --> 03:33.040 "There's many fish in the sea. You'll eventually catch a big one." 03:33.120 --> 03:34.679 "You'll eventually catch a whale." 03:34.760 --> 03:36.399 Well… [laughs] 03:36.959 --> 03:38.040 It's a metaphor. 03:40.160 --> 03:42.000 You remember your practice boyfriend? 03:42.079 --> 03:43.920 Well, um, I do. 03:44.000 --> 03:46.079 [Cian] What's a practice boyfriend, Dani? 03:46.160 --> 03:49.799 A practice boyfriend is, um, somebody that you, um, use for practicing. 03:49.880 --> 03:51.320 [both laugh] 03:51.399 --> 03:53.480 [Cian] What kind of things did you practice? 03:53.560 --> 03:55.280 Kissing and, um… 03:55.359 --> 03:56.720 To her, it was just practice. 03:56.799 --> 03:59.839 To him, it was like, "I have a girlfriend." [laughs] 03:59.920 --> 04:03.200 I didn't say, "It's a practice." I never mentioned that. 04:03.720 --> 04:06.079 -[aunt] So you crushed his heart? -Yeah. 04:06.160 --> 04:09.040 Because she wanted to learn how to kiss, 04:09.119 --> 04:12.679 so we looked up a YouTube video about how to learn how to kiss, 04:12.760 --> 04:16.159 and they used a cupcake to show how to kiss. 04:16.240 --> 04:20.279 So then she picked that up and started using that with boys. 04:20.360 --> 04:22.000 But how do you do it? 04:22.079 --> 04:24.920 Hold up a cupcake, like you're licking the icing. 04:25.560 --> 04:27.960 [aunt and uncle laugh] 04:28.039 --> 04:29.000 [uncle] So romantic. 04:30.160 --> 04:31.599 [aunt and uncle] Uh… 04:31.680 --> 04:33.800 -[uncle] No. -[aunt and uncle laugh] 04:33.880 --> 04:36.080 [aunt] Okay, you're grossing out Uncle. 04:36.160 --> 04:38.880 [chuckles] Patrick, you're so sensitive. 04:39.400 --> 04:40.760 [aunt laughs] 04:50.520 --> 04:55.560 I'm Abbey, but my real name is Abigail, but people call me Abbey for short. 04:56.160 --> 04:58.400 -[Cian] You are on the spectrum, Abbey? -Yes. 04:58.479 --> 05:02.000 Speaking of, autism makes me feel like not human. 05:02.080 --> 05:03.160 [Cian] Why is that? 05:03.240 --> 05:06.560 I don't know. It's just because I feel like Ariel in The Little Mermaid. 05:06.640 --> 05:09.240 When I can't get my words out, I feel like Ariel. 05:09.320 --> 05:12.680 It's like how I want to be typical, Ariel wants to be a human. 05:12.760 --> 05:15.800 And she becomes human, she can't talk. That's how I feel. 05:20.840 --> 05:22.200 -[Abbey] Hey, Cian. -[Cian] Hey. 05:22.280 --> 05:23.520 This is my room. 05:23.599 --> 05:24.960 A lot of stuff in it. 05:25.760 --> 05:27.680 These are my lions and all that. 05:29.560 --> 05:32.880 I love princesses, but I do not like the villains. 05:32.960 --> 05:34.080 Villains are kind of… 05:34.160 --> 05:36.320 I think more boys are interested in them. 05:36.919 --> 05:39.080 Girls seem to like stuffed animals and all that, 05:39.160 --> 05:42.280 and I bet the Disney princesses love stuffed animals. 05:43.440 --> 05:45.359 [Cian] So, Abbey, are you looking for love? 05:45.440 --> 05:46.280 Yes. 05:46.359 --> 05:50.200 'Cause I wanna be like a princess, like Cinderella going to the ball. 05:50.280 --> 05:51.880 [Cian] And have you been in love before? 05:51.960 --> 05:54.160 Yes, I have. In school, in high school. 05:54.240 --> 05:56.359 Being in love made me feel romantic. 05:56.440 --> 05:59.760 I felt safe, and it meant a lot to me. 06:00.919 --> 06:03.880 I'd like to go on a date with a boy who has things in common with me 06:03.960 --> 06:05.680 is what I want, is the most important thing. 06:05.760 --> 06:07.720 So he could understand my autism. 06:07.800 --> 06:10.200 We could do things. We could go to water parks. 06:10.280 --> 06:12.520 We could go to the beach, the zoo. 06:12.599 --> 06:15.640 Maybe we can go on a double date with another autistic couple. 06:15.720 --> 06:16.599 Double date! 06:22.000 --> 06:24.160 You're so cute! You're so cute! 06:24.240 --> 06:27.919 [narrator] Abbey lives with her mom, Christine, and her brother, Ben. 06:28.000 --> 06:30.240 Peel and then put it in there, okay? 06:30.320 --> 06:31.440 Okay. 06:33.680 --> 06:36.599 -[Christine] This is messy. -This is a little bit complicated. 06:36.680 --> 06:38.720 This is a mess. 06:38.799 --> 06:40.760 Well, how can you clean it up, girl? 06:40.840 --> 06:41.919 It's hard. 06:42.520 --> 06:45.160 I saw how Abbey was with her first boyfriend, 06:45.680 --> 06:49.200 and it was truly one of the most beautiful things. 06:49.280 --> 06:51.560 And I want that for her. 06:51.640 --> 06:54.120 And I know she wants it, but she's a little scared. 06:55.160 --> 06:57.240 [Cian] When was Abbey diagnosed with autism? 06:57.880 --> 06:59.479 [Christine] She was maybe two, 06:59.560 --> 07:02.799 and she was putting everything in her mouth, running around… 07:02.880 --> 07:06.320 It was a chore. I remember thinking, "I can't wait till this stage is over, 07:06.400 --> 07:08.359 'cause this is really awful." 07:09.599 --> 07:12.000 But then I put her in a pre-- preschool 07:12.720 --> 07:15.560 and four days into it, the preschool called me and said… 07:16.080 --> 07:17.159 [whimpers] 07:19.400 --> 07:21.560 [crying] "We can't have your kid in here." 07:22.840 --> 07:24.960 So the journey began. 07:25.039 --> 07:28.400 I took her in, I got her diagnosed, and I didn't want to believe it. 07:28.919 --> 07:30.080 And on a good note, 07:30.159 --> 07:32.000 what she's doing now, 07:32.080 --> 07:36.159 I could have never imagined she would be capable of doing. 07:36.799 --> 07:39.000 -Abbey, which one is that? -It's Moana. 07:39.080 --> 07:40.880 -That's a Disney thing, right? -Uh-huh. 07:40.960 --> 07:42.440 Oh, wonderful. Okay. 07:42.520 --> 07:45.159 -All right, how was your day today? -You know, it was great. 07:45.239 --> 07:48.120 You know the actress who does the voice of Moana is Ben's age. 07:48.200 --> 07:50.440 -[man] Okay. -[Cian] Who's this gentleman here, Abbey? 07:50.520 --> 07:52.440 -This is Mike. -Yes. 07:52.520 --> 07:55.320 He's like my stepfather. He has a husband named Bob. 07:55.400 --> 07:56.320 They're together. 07:56.400 --> 07:57.560 We live in the back. 07:57.640 --> 07:58.799 The guesthouse. 08:00.080 --> 08:01.000 [Mike] Dinner's ready. 08:02.159 --> 08:03.200 Oh, Clemmy's here. 08:03.280 --> 08:04.400 She's waiting for-- 08:04.479 --> 08:05.799 [Christine] She's waiting for us. 08:06.840 --> 08:10.120 Anything that drops on the ground is Clem's, right? 08:10.200 --> 08:13.000 [Christine] So why don't you tell Bob and Mike what you're doing, Abbey? 08:13.840 --> 08:17.560 -She is gonna start going out more, right? -[Abbey] Yeah. 08:17.640 --> 08:19.320 [Christine] Maybe go on a few dates. 08:19.400 --> 08:22.440 -Where would be your dream place to go? -A cruise in Africa. 08:23.039 --> 08:24.640 -[Christine] A cruise. -[Abbey] Yeah. 08:24.719 --> 08:27.239 -[Christine] I've not ever been-- -Mm, and an indoor water park. 08:27.320 --> 08:31.479 It would be nice to see her go out with a nice boy. 08:31.560 --> 08:34.120 What do you think, Ben, about your sister going on a date? 08:34.199 --> 08:36.480 -[Ben] If she meets the right person… -[Christine] Right? 08:36.559 --> 08:39.520 …that'd be good. I still get those brotherly instincts once in a while. 08:39.600 --> 08:40.799 I know, right? 08:40.880 --> 08:43.400 So what else do you want to find in a boyfriend? 08:43.919 --> 08:46.160 He needs to understand my autism. 08:46.240 --> 08:48.199 And he'd have to be funny, like us. 08:48.280 --> 08:51.640 -'Cause, you know… -And handsome, like someone at the table. 08:51.720 --> 08:53.680 -[Christine laughs] -You guys! 08:53.760 --> 08:56.840 [all laugh] 09:00.520 --> 09:04.160 -[Cian] Hello there. -Oh, yes, hello. How are you doing today? 09:05.079 --> 09:08.040 My name is James. I am 34 years old. 09:08.120 --> 09:11.400 I have Asperger's syndrome. I do not allow it to limit me. 09:11.480 --> 09:15.480 It does not define me, and yes, I am seeking love. 09:15.560 --> 09:18.839 I'm seeking to find a partner, you know, a soul mate 09:18.920 --> 09:20.800 with whom I can spend my life. 09:21.320 --> 09:22.959 At the time that I was diagnosed, 09:23.040 --> 09:27.720 society did not have a great understanding of Asperger's syndrome or autism, 09:27.800 --> 09:31.199 so, sadly, help-- It was difficult to find help. 09:31.280 --> 09:36.120 Mm, as sad as it is, other students mocked me and bullied me. 09:36.199 --> 09:38.839 That did have an effect on my self-esteem. 09:38.920 --> 09:42.760 I would always be terribly nervous being in large crowds 09:42.839 --> 09:46.040 or being outside my house for any significant duration. 09:46.120 --> 09:48.560 With practice, though, I overcame that. 09:48.640 --> 09:51.360 Now I have no problem at all, becoming more confident 09:51.440 --> 09:54.440 in being around other people, being in large crowds. 09:56.440 --> 09:59.560 [narrator] James lives with his family in Massachusetts. 10:02.040 --> 10:06.720 All these stones I have over here are certainly not for any practical use, 10:06.800 --> 10:08.520 but they're interesting conversation pieces. 10:08.600 --> 10:10.480 They add character to the room. 10:10.560 --> 10:13.560 This here is a type of glass called fulgurite. 10:13.640 --> 10:15.560 It happens when lightning strikes sand. 10:15.640 --> 10:18.720 This is a preserved alligator head from Louisiana. 10:18.800 --> 10:19.920 [blows] 10:20.000 --> 10:21.240 Isn't that something? 10:21.959 --> 10:24.800 I have a Japanese katana and a European longsword. 10:24.880 --> 10:26.680 This is a cheap display unit. 10:26.760 --> 10:28.640 This one could not be used in battle, 10:28.720 --> 10:31.079 but this sword is actually fully functional. 10:31.160 --> 10:34.040 I got it at King Richard's Faire from one of their blacksmiths, 10:34.120 --> 10:35.959 and the blacksmiths there assured me 10:36.040 --> 10:38.600 that everything they forge, though, is fully functional. 10:38.680 --> 10:42.400 So, yes, I mean, in the rare chance I ever had to use it in battle, I could. 10:43.000 --> 10:44.880 "A good friend will bail you out of jail, 10:44.959 --> 10:47.320 but a true friend will be sitting next to you saying, 10:47.400 --> 10:49.079 'Damn, that was fun!'" 10:49.160 --> 10:51.720 Yes, I really like that plaque a lot, and… 10:51.800 --> 10:54.760 Oh, these are stamps with classic movie monsters. 10:54.839 --> 10:57.400 These are stamps with classic American aircraft. 10:57.480 --> 10:58.600 I'm never going to use them. 10:58.680 --> 11:00.959 I'm just keeping those there as conversation pieces. 11:01.480 --> 11:03.959 [Cian] Who comes in here for the conversation pieces? 11:04.040 --> 11:06.199 Um, actually, nobody really. 11:06.280 --> 11:08.839 This is… It's just… I guess it's for my own benefit. 11:10.680 --> 11:14.400 I've made myself accounts on various online dating services. 11:14.480 --> 11:15.600 There have been times 11:15.680 --> 11:19.120 where I… match with… with a… with a woman on the site, 11:19.199 --> 11:22.240 and none of them have ever agreed to meet me in person, 11:22.320 --> 11:23.800 as sad as that is. 11:25.360 --> 11:26.199 Oh, yeah, see? 11:26.280 --> 11:27.320 This cane here 11:27.400 --> 11:30.440 is made out of bullet casings that have been welded together. 11:30.520 --> 11:32.240 Pretty cool, wouldn't you say? 11:32.320 --> 11:34.959 Show them the cane that belonged to your great-grandfather. 11:35.040 --> 11:36.199 This one? 11:36.280 --> 11:38.719 Oh, yes, this belonged to one of my ancestors. 11:38.800 --> 11:41.719 -He died in 1943. -Okay. 11:41.800 --> 11:43.640 This is my father, Lawrence. 11:43.719 --> 11:45.440 -[Lawrence] Where's Mom? -Oh. 11:45.520 --> 11:47.320 -Come on over, Mom. -[James] Oh. 11:47.839 --> 11:48.800 -Hello. -[James] Uh, yes. 11:48.880 --> 11:51.760 -This is my mother, June. -[June] How are you doing? 11:51.839 --> 11:53.760 -I'm feeling slightly nervous. -Can I sit? 11:53.839 --> 11:57.560 Of course. Oh, yes, that's right, Mom, King Richard's Faire will be open soon. 11:57.640 --> 11:59.240 Yeah! You were telling me. Wanna sit? 11:59.320 --> 12:02.400 -I'm gonna invite my friends. -What are you going to wear? 12:02.480 --> 12:06.959 Oh, yes, I'll wear my full… all my medieval regalia, as I so often do. 12:07.040 --> 12:08.760 -[Cian] Can you show it to us? -[groans] 12:08.839 --> 12:10.520 I guess so. Please wait a moment. 12:12.839 --> 12:15.480 -[chuckles] -Okay, so how does this look? 12:15.560 --> 12:17.760 -Isn't that something? -[Lawrence] Yeah. That's great. 12:18.280 --> 12:21.839 -Now, you need a cane, a formal cane. -[June] Don't you have your own cane? 12:21.920 --> 12:23.600 -What about this one? -Yeah, that's good. 12:23.680 --> 12:24.959 Yes. [chuckles] 12:25.040 --> 12:26.240 What do you think? 12:26.320 --> 12:28.880 [June] It goes great with your dungarees! 12:28.959 --> 12:34.000 Oh, mm, yeah, well, I don't have time to change into all the clothing, you know, 12:34.079 --> 12:35.839 but it's still pretty cool, isn't it? 12:35.920 --> 12:37.240 -[June] It's very cool. -Yes. 12:38.240 --> 12:40.079 Yes. I'm going to put these away. 12:40.160 --> 12:41.880 -Please wait a moment. -[Lawrence] Okay. 12:43.000 --> 12:44.079 [James] Oh. 12:44.160 --> 12:45.959 All right. Please wait a moment. 12:46.040 --> 12:49.760 He's a very family-oriented young man, 12:49.839 --> 12:54.959 and, uh, uh… we want… we want the best for him, you know. 12:55.040 --> 12:56.400 Like any parent does. 12:57.440 --> 13:00.280 He's got a very… a very kind heart. Um… 13:00.360 --> 13:03.199 He would do anything for a friend or family. 13:04.040 --> 13:06.160 We can't wait to see you with a lovely lady. 13:06.240 --> 13:08.680 -Oh, yes. Thank you very much. -[chuckles] 13:11.199 --> 13:12.160 [June] You know what? 13:12.240 --> 13:13.800 We love your hair, James, 13:13.880 --> 13:16.320 but I think, because of the two different colors, 13:16.400 --> 13:20.959 it might be a really good idea to professionally have it cut and colored. 13:21.040 --> 13:22.000 I do plan to do that. 13:22.079 --> 13:25.560 That way, when you first meet someone, you're gonna make a better impression. 13:25.640 --> 13:27.440 [James] Yes. Yes, of course. 13:27.520 --> 13:32.320 You know, as a young man, it's expected of you to attract a young lady, okay? 13:32.400 --> 13:35.320 And without looking at your watch all the time. 13:35.400 --> 13:36.400 -[groans] -You know? 13:36.480 --> 13:41.040 I'm sorry. Well, I am glad I'm so young from your perspective. 13:41.120 --> 13:43.400 You're in competition with all the other young men 13:43.480 --> 13:45.320 who are trying to pair up 13:45.400 --> 13:46.560 -with a young lady, okay? -Yes. 13:46.640 --> 13:49.199 So, it's important for you to make yourself 13:49.680 --> 13:51.440 -attractable, okay? -[James] Yes, I know that. 13:51.520 --> 13:54.120 [Cian] So, James, we've got a date lined up for you on Saturday. 13:54.199 --> 13:57.680 -Oh, really? That's pretty great. -[June] Oh, wow! 13:57.760 --> 14:01.400 Do I get to come to the restaurant and hide and peek and watch? 14:01.480 --> 14:04.760 Give me a break, Mom. I'm 34, okay? 14:04.839 --> 14:06.800 I'm kidding. I'm kidding, sweetie. 14:07.400 --> 14:08.280 [groans] 14:10.000 --> 14:10.839 [dog barks] 14:10.920 --> 14:14.400 [Christine] Clementine, do you need a treat again? 14:14.479 --> 14:16.680 This dog could eat all day long. 14:16.760 --> 14:18.160 Is she gonna be a fat dog? 14:18.240 --> 14:21.520 This is LA. You cannot be a fat dog in Los Angeles. 14:21.599 --> 14:22.440 [laughs] 14:24.479 --> 14:26.280 [Cian] What's the hardest thing about dating? 14:26.360 --> 14:29.760 You have to talk to your boyfriend a lot, and that can be hard for me. 14:29.839 --> 14:32.400 Like when I was dating Garrett, he was kind of… 14:32.479 --> 14:34.959 He was interested in history, and I wasn't. 14:35.599 --> 14:37.640 But he did like Star Wars, and I like Star Wars. 14:37.719 --> 14:39.079 We had that in common. 14:43.280 --> 14:46.599 [narrator] Autism expert Jennifer Cook is visiting Abbey 14:47.199 --> 14:49.319 to help her in her search for love. 14:50.920 --> 14:55.079 I was identified as being on the spectrum about ten years ago, 14:55.160 --> 14:58.640 and it made everything beforehand in my life make sense. 14:59.479 --> 15:00.319 [Abbey] Hi. 15:00.400 --> 15:02.800 -Hi, I'm Jennifer. -Hi, I'm Abbey. 15:02.880 --> 15:04.479 -Nice to meet you. -Nice to meet you too. 15:04.560 --> 15:06.160 [Jennifer] Autism really means 15:06.240 --> 15:11.360 it's a constellation of behaviors and challenges and aptitudes, 15:11.439 --> 15:13.800 but we're all dealing with sensory sensitivities. 15:13.880 --> 15:16.479 We're all dealing with challenges with social cues. 15:16.560 --> 15:19.000 -Hi. I'm Jennifer. -Hi, Jennifer. I'm Christine. 15:19.079 --> 15:21.479 -Nice to meet you, Christine. -Nice to meet you. Welcome. 15:21.560 --> 15:23.920 But I can promise that what's going on in the inside 15:24.000 --> 15:26.839 often has nothing to do with what's shown on the outside. 15:26.920 --> 15:29.760 [Abbey] Your hair reminds me of Ariel in The Little Mermaid. 15:29.839 --> 15:31.079 -Thank you. -[chuckles] 15:31.160 --> 15:32.880 I really understand Ariel, 15:32.959 --> 15:36.040 because when she was singing her "Part of Your World" song, 15:36.120 --> 15:37.560 she couldn't get the words out. 15:37.640 --> 15:40.439 And when I can't get my words out, I feel exactly like that. 15:40.520 --> 15:42.520 That's why I like her so much. 15:42.599 --> 15:44.199 -Abbey, you want to know something? -Yeah. 15:44.280 --> 15:45.479 I'm on the spectrum too. 15:45.560 --> 15:47.240 -I have autism too. [chuckles] -[gasps] Ooh. 15:47.319 --> 15:48.800 And all three of my kids do too. 15:48.880 --> 15:51.560 So how could you have kids if you're on the spectrum? 15:51.640 --> 15:54.680 -You can do anything you want to. -[Christine] It's up to the individual. 15:54.760 --> 15:56.640 -It has nothing to do with autism. -Exactly. 15:56.719 --> 15:59.599 -Exactly right. I know that's-- -Do you take pills? 16:00.160 --> 16:01.880 -You know what? I do. -Hmm. 16:01.959 --> 16:05.079 -[Jennifer] I do take medicine. Mm-hmm. -Do they make pills for pets? 16:05.680 --> 16:07.040 They do make pills for pets. 16:07.120 --> 16:09.400 [Christine] We can take left turns in the conversation. 16:09.479 --> 16:11.920 -I know. I know. -So I'm just giving you that heads-up. 16:12.000 --> 16:14.199 No, I get it, and that's okay. 16:14.280 --> 16:15.560 Do you like Mike Myers? 16:15.640 --> 16:17.479 -[Jennifer] I've never met him. -Me neither. 16:17.560 --> 16:20.079 -What were you thinking about before? -[Abbey] I don't know. 16:20.160 --> 16:23.079 -It just popped into my head. -Okay. That's fine. That's fine. 16:23.599 --> 16:25.199 Tell me about your dating history. 16:25.280 --> 16:27.599 Dated a boy named Garrett in high school. 16:27.680 --> 16:28.959 -Okay. -[Abbey] I loved it. 16:29.040 --> 16:30.400 -[Jennifer] Okay. -I had fun. 16:30.479 --> 16:32.160 So when you're going on a date, 16:32.240 --> 16:35.640 what you're really doing is you're trying to make a friend, okay? 16:35.719 --> 16:40.439 We want to ask questions as well as give answers. 16:40.520 --> 16:43.920 And there are some things that I know you like to talk about 16:44.599 --> 16:47.319 and some things that maybe your date would like to talk about. 16:47.400 --> 16:51.199 So what are the things that you like to talk about the most, do you think? 16:51.280 --> 16:52.560 Candy Crush. 16:52.640 --> 16:55.160 -Okay. -[Abbey] Going to the zoo. 16:55.240 --> 16:56.199 [Jennifer] Great. 16:56.280 --> 17:00.240 I like watching African safari animals and sea animals. 17:00.319 --> 17:02.400 -Documentaries… -[Jennifer] I love documentaries. 17:02.479 --> 17:04.159 …about wild animals. 17:04.240 --> 17:06.040 Cool, so what we want to do is, 17:06.119 --> 17:08.760 if this is sort of like your conversation during your date, 17:08.839 --> 17:12.079 then what you want to do is make sure that we leave enough room 17:12.159 --> 17:15.079 for what your date might want to talk about, so maybe your date… 17:15.159 --> 17:18.000 Let's come up with some things that he likes to talk about. 17:18.079 --> 17:20.919 Maybe he likes to talk about music, gaming. 17:21.000 --> 17:22.599 -[Abbey] Video games? -[Jennifer] Mm-hmm. 17:22.680 --> 17:24.640 -Ooh. -[Jennifer] You like video games too, huh? 17:24.720 --> 17:26.919 Candy Crush is like a video game. 17:27.000 --> 17:28.680 You just did something really good. 17:28.760 --> 17:30.240 -Do you know what you did? -What? 17:30.320 --> 17:34.280 You just found your first common interest, because if this is your conversation, 17:34.360 --> 17:37.200 you gotta make sure that, with all that you want to talk about, 17:37.280 --> 17:39.320 we have to make sure there's room in the air 17:39.399 --> 17:41.000 for somebody else's words too. 17:41.080 --> 17:43.760 Come on over here with me on the floor. I'll sit over here. 17:43.840 --> 17:47.520 Perfect. So I'm gonna roll this to you, but I'm gonna roll a bunch of them. 17:47.600 --> 17:48.680 -Ready? -Yeah. 17:48.760 --> 17:50.480 So what do you like to do? 17:51.240 --> 17:53.240 -What's your favorite color? -My favorite-- 17:53.320 --> 17:55.399 -Do you like dogs? -Yes. My favorite color's-- 17:55.480 --> 17:57.840 -What'll you do tomorrow? -That's a lot of questions. 17:57.919 --> 17:59.360 It is a lot of questions! 17:59.440 --> 18:02.200 When somebody asks you a lot of questions like that, 18:02.280 --> 18:05.320 it's hard to figure them out and listen to what they're saying, 18:05.399 --> 18:08.600 which means I didn't get to know anything about Abbey. 18:08.680 --> 18:09.720 -Right? -Yeah. 18:09.800 --> 18:12.720 Okay, so let's try something different. 18:12.800 --> 18:14.440 Will you roll the balls back at me? 18:14.520 --> 18:16.520 What's your favorite thing to do? 18:16.600 --> 18:20.280 I like to play with my dog. 18:20.800 --> 18:22.680 What's your favorite thing to do? 18:22.760 --> 18:24.399 Work out and swim. 18:24.480 --> 18:26.080 Roll it back to me. Okay, great. 18:26.159 --> 18:29.560 -What do you like best about swimming? -'Cause mermaids swim. 18:29.640 --> 18:31.840 I don't wanna go too far. There's dangerous animals. 18:31.919 --> 18:33.440 Roll it back. Good answer. 18:34.120 --> 18:36.840 Yeah, that's true. Sharks can be scary, right? 18:36.919 --> 18:40.360 Speaking of sharks, I've been watching a movie called Soul Surfer. 18:40.960 --> 18:42.080 Tell me more about that. 18:42.159 --> 18:47.120 About a girl was surfing with her friend, and a shark bit her arm off. 18:47.200 --> 18:48.280 Bethany Hamilton. 18:48.360 --> 18:49.520 Yes. I saw her. 18:49.600 --> 18:51.560 She did amazing things all around the world, 18:51.640 --> 18:53.480 even though she had one arm. 18:53.560 --> 18:54.399 How? 18:55.679 --> 18:58.520 Well, I think a lot of determination. Do you think so? 18:58.600 --> 19:00.800 -Yeah. -Do you know what you just did? 19:00.880 --> 19:03.200 -What? -You just had a conversation with me. 19:03.960 --> 19:06.360 -Oh my gosh! -[Jennifer laughs] 19:06.440 --> 19:09.360 You stayed on the topic. That made perfect sense to me. 19:09.440 --> 19:10.960 And we talked about it together. 19:11.040 --> 19:12.360 May I shake your hand? 19:12.440 --> 19:13.720 -Yes! -Yes! 19:13.800 --> 19:16.240 -Yes! -That was awesome. 19:16.320 --> 19:19.240 Abbey's primary challenge, I think, is going to be staying in the moment. 19:19.320 --> 19:23.720 She's changing topic because her mind is catching so much interest. 19:23.800 --> 19:25.520 It's being able to put words to that 19:25.600 --> 19:28.280 in a way which also brings the other person along, 19:28.360 --> 19:29.679 so if she can do that, 19:29.760 --> 19:31.760 then all of her flight of thought 19:31.840 --> 19:34.399 is actually gonna be great and interesting and fun 19:34.480 --> 19:35.679 and make for a great date. 19:35.760 --> 19:37.600 It was really nice to meet you. 19:37.679 --> 19:39.480 [Abbey] It was really nice to meet you too. 19:39.560 --> 19:40.840 [Jennifer] Thank you very much. 19:40.919 --> 19:42.080 -Thank you. -Thank you. 19:42.159 --> 19:44.679 -It was great to meet you. -Yeah, really nice to meet you too. 19:44.760 --> 19:47.399 -Thank you so much. -I can't wait to hear how it all goes. 19:47.480 --> 19:48.560 Bye. 19:48.640 --> 19:49.640 Bye. 19:49.720 --> 19:50.760 Thanks again. 19:51.880 --> 19:54.080 Okay, Abbey, do you want a sandwich? 19:56.280 --> 19:58.880 Animation is my greatest passion. 19:58.960 --> 20:00.440 [Cian] Tell me about your company. 20:00.520 --> 20:06.800 I got the inspiration from Satoshi Tajiri, the creator of Pokémon. 20:06.880 --> 20:09.760 And he's on the autism spectrum, which is amazing. 20:09.840 --> 20:12.880 He started his company, Game Freak, when he was 17, 20:12.960 --> 20:16.159 so I started my animation company at age 14. 20:16.240 --> 20:18.960 It was fully launched with the help of my… 20:19.040 --> 20:20.360 with my aunt and uncle. 20:20.880 --> 20:23.040 [Cian] So you teach animation to people on the spectrum? 20:23.120 --> 20:26.200 That is true. It's good to see their work shine. 20:28.600 --> 20:30.360 -[Dani] Ready? -[Cian] I'm ready. 20:31.440 --> 20:33.360 This is my office. 20:34.520 --> 20:38.200 Right here is my collection of all kinds of achievements 20:38.280 --> 20:40.600 that I've, um, earned over these years. 20:40.679 --> 20:44.880 These are the flyers that I passed out when I was at San Diego Comic-Con. 20:44.960 --> 20:48.080 [high-pitched voice] "Hi, everybody. Mindy Da Vinci Lavender here." 20:48.159 --> 20:50.440 That's Mindy's voice. She's named after my dog, 20:50.520 --> 20:55.200 and her personality is pretty much based upon my optimistic, happy self. 20:55.960 --> 20:59.000 Best of all, there's even Bachelor's of Fine Arts, 20:59.080 --> 21:01.000 Master's of Business Administration. 21:01.080 --> 21:04.040 The more awards I get, I think I need a bigger house. 21:05.679 --> 21:09.880 My ideal partner would be somebody who is running another company. 21:09.960 --> 21:13.440 Not only we see each other like lovers, but also work partners. 21:13.520 --> 21:16.080 [Cian] So it sounds like you want your love life and your work life 21:16.159 --> 21:17.800 to almost be entwined. 21:17.880 --> 21:18.840 Into one. 21:19.360 --> 21:21.800 Like a helix of a DNA structure. 21:25.480 --> 21:29.800 [narrator] In Hollywood, Dani is meeting her good friend Devin for a drink. 21:29.880 --> 21:30.880 Bonjour. 21:30.960 --> 21:33.560 Oh, hey, how are you? 21:34.240 --> 21:36.080 Nice to see you. 21:36.159 --> 21:39.320 -How are you? -Good, fine, thank you so much, Devin. 21:39.399 --> 21:44.760 Wow, this place is like… it reminds me of art, of France. 21:44.840 --> 21:46.280 But did you know in France, 21:46.360 --> 21:49.200 they have the biggest animation festival in the whole world? 21:49.280 --> 21:51.399 You talk about animation nonstop. 21:51.480 --> 21:52.600 It's so funny. 21:52.679 --> 21:54.720 I want to hear about your dating life. 21:54.800 --> 21:56.679 -Okay. -How has that been going? 21:56.760 --> 21:58.840 I'm about to start dating again. 21:58.919 --> 22:01.159 [Devin] I know. What made you decide to start dating again? 22:01.240 --> 22:03.720 'Cause the last real one was maybe a few years ago or… 22:03.800 --> 22:07.200 Yeah, it's because, um… oh, I felt so lonely. 22:07.280 --> 22:09.720 I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. 22:09.800 --> 22:14.600 A lot of people on the autism spectrum think I'm too smart and too motivated, 22:14.679 --> 22:18.880 while neurotypicals think I'm too strange. 22:18.960 --> 22:22.919 Just wanna be sure they're motivated enough and have a good sense of hygiene. 22:23.000 --> 22:26.200 And you're looking for a guy with pretty much no facial hair, right? 22:26.280 --> 22:27.120 Yeah. 22:27.200 --> 22:29.679 I take insult to that. What is wrong with facial hair? 22:29.760 --> 22:33.600 -I don't like the bushy stuff. -Oh my God! 22:33.679 --> 22:35.480 How has your dating life been? 22:35.560 --> 22:38.399 I got myself a fourth date coming up. 22:38.480 --> 22:39.880 -[Dani] Oh, wow. -Same girl. 22:40.480 --> 22:41.600 This is fabulous. 22:41.679 --> 22:42.960 I know. 22:43.040 --> 22:46.399 What are you hoping, eventually, when you do find love? 22:46.480 --> 22:49.960 'Cause I know it's gonna happen. Are you wanting to get married, have kids? 22:50.040 --> 22:55.320 I've always wanted to get married and hopefully have a surrogate child. 22:55.399 --> 22:58.280 So you're not ever gonna get pregnant in your life? 22:58.360 --> 23:02.640 Yeah, because I can imagine labor's gonna really hurt. 23:02.720 --> 23:04.960 [laughs] 23:05.040 --> 23:07.159 -Oh, thank you so much. -Thank you. 23:07.240 --> 23:09.399 Cheers to us autistic people 23:09.480 --> 23:11.800 that are coming over leaps and bounds 23:11.880 --> 23:16.640 through our crazy lives growing up, to now possibly one day finding love. 23:16.720 --> 23:19.040 Cheers. You find your Prince Charming. 23:19.120 --> 23:21.080 I find my Cinderella. Bam! 23:21.159 --> 23:22.040 Bam! 23:23.480 --> 23:24.320 Mm. 23:28.600 --> 23:33.159 [narrator] Abbey is getting ready to step out on her first blind date. 23:33.240 --> 23:35.520 This is getting all over the place here. 23:36.040 --> 23:39.679 -You're starting to look like Bette Davis. -No, I don't look like a witch. 23:40.280 --> 23:43.720 -It won't come off. It's like supersonic. -I want to look like a princess. 23:43.800 --> 23:46.360 -[Christine] Come on, princess. -I want to look like a princess. 23:46.439 --> 23:48.480 [Christine] Stand up. Look in the mirror. 23:49.080 --> 23:50.159 What do you think? 23:50.840 --> 23:52.120 Pretty good. 23:53.439 --> 23:55.080 Do a fashion pose. 23:55.159 --> 23:56.320 [laughs] 23:56.399 --> 23:58.760 -Are we ready to rock and roll? -[Abbey] Yeah. 23:58.840 --> 24:01.720 -[Christine] Here we go. -[Abbey] Let's go. Ah! 24:09.960 --> 24:11.600 [man] Hey, western screech owl. 24:11.679 --> 24:13.560 Hoo, hoo, hoo. Hoo. 24:14.760 --> 24:16.360 [narrator] Abbey is meeting David. 24:17.280 --> 24:18.560 He likes lions 24:19.080 --> 24:20.640 and being in a car wash. 24:21.439 --> 24:23.320 He doesn't like horror movies 24:23.399 --> 24:24.600 or clowns. 24:25.280 --> 24:27.000 -[Abbey] Hey. -Hey. 24:27.080 --> 24:30.040 Hey, it's nice to meet you. Oh, I like your shirt. 24:30.120 --> 24:32.040 I see you have sharks on your shirt. 24:32.120 --> 24:32.960 Thank you. 24:33.600 --> 24:35.600 -That's so cool. What's your name? -David. 24:35.679 --> 24:37.240 -Nice to meet you. -What's yours? 24:37.320 --> 24:39.679 -I'm Abbey. Nice to meet you. -Nice to meet you too, Abbey. 24:39.760 --> 24:40.880 It's so nice. 24:41.480 --> 24:42.840 What's your favorite animal? 24:42.919 --> 24:44.360 The African lion. 24:44.439 --> 24:45.760 [Abbey] Me too! 24:45.840 --> 24:49.840 You know they made a live-action version of The Lion King and… with Beyoncé? 24:49.919 --> 24:51.320 Wow, I did not know that. 24:51.399 --> 24:53.439 Yeah, she has an amazing voice. 24:53.520 --> 24:56.480 I've been to Africa, since winter break. 24:56.560 --> 24:57.640 -You have? -Yes. 24:57.720 --> 24:59.240 [Abbey] Oh, I'm so jealous. 24:59.320 --> 25:00.760 I want to go too. 25:00.840 --> 25:03.600 Going to Africa costs a lot of money. 25:03.679 --> 25:05.399 -It's too expensive. -[David] Yeah. 25:05.480 --> 25:08.360 My mom can't afford it just yet. She doesn't have enough money. 25:08.439 --> 25:10.399 I know, but she's working on it. 25:10.480 --> 25:13.439 -If we're a billionaire… -Yeah. Mm-hmm. 25:16.439 --> 25:18.199 I was wondering, how old are you? 25:18.280 --> 25:20.880 I'm 26. How about you? 25:20.960 --> 25:22.640 -Twenty-three. -Wow. 25:22.720 --> 25:24.640 -We're both in our twenties. -Yep. 25:24.720 --> 25:26.159 You're not far from my age. 25:26.240 --> 25:28.760 What's your favorite thing to get at In-N-Out? 25:28.840 --> 25:30.800 Only a plain cheeseburger. What about you? 25:30.880 --> 25:34.159 -I went to In-N-Out yesterday. -What did you like to get from In-N-Out? 25:34.240 --> 25:37.080 I like the cheese fries, but I just don't eat them every day 25:37.159 --> 25:39.199 'cause I know it's not good for you. 25:39.280 --> 25:40.439 [David] Mm-hmm. 25:43.080 --> 25:44.159 Where's the owl? 25:44.240 --> 25:45.320 [David] It's right there. 25:45.399 --> 25:47.640 They call it the western screech owl. 25:47.720 --> 25:50.159 [Abbey] Aw. Hi, owl! 25:50.240 --> 25:52.080 Let's go look at some animals. 25:52.159 --> 25:55.439 Great. Can't wait to take pictures of the ones I like. 25:56.040 --> 25:57.399 [Abbey] Oh, a big snake. 25:57.480 --> 25:59.480 Ooh, I'll add that to the collection. 25:59.560 --> 26:02.240 [Abbey] Aw! Look at the little monkey! 26:02.320 --> 26:04.480 They're called the common squirrel monkeys. 26:04.560 --> 26:05.720 [Abbey] Oh, they're so cute. 26:07.120 --> 26:08.320 There's a lemur. 26:08.399 --> 26:10.399 [David] Aw, lemurs! 26:10.480 --> 26:11.520 They're so cute. 26:12.919 --> 26:15.080 [David gasps] Look at the porcupine. Wow! 26:15.159 --> 26:16.360 -Porcupine. -Yeah. 26:16.439 --> 26:18.439 [David] Be careful. Their quills are spiky. 26:19.040 --> 26:21.120 Oh, look at the big birds. Those are eagles. 26:21.199 --> 26:22.320 [chirping] 26:22.399 --> 26:24.919 -[David] Wow. -They kind of look a little aggressive. 26:25.000 --> 26:27.280 Yeah. Only when they're on the hunt. 26:27.360 --> 26:30.280 -And their claws are as big as my hand. -Wow. 26:30.360 --> 26:31.480 -Almost. -Yeah. 26:32.800 --> 26:34.720 Is he trying to use his words? 26:34.800 --> 26:36.480 'Cause they can't talk. 26:36.560 --> 26:37.960 Maybe they want something. 26:38.040 --> 26:39.880 At least they can do a screech. 26:40.399 --> 26:42.960 -Yes, that's how they communicate. -[David] Wow! 26:43.040 --> 26:45.240 -Oh, he pooped! -Ugh. 26:46.159 --> 26:47.760 [Abbey] What's your favorite bird? 26:47.840 --> 26:49.159 [David] I love all birds. 26:49.240 --> 26:52.040 -Do you like storks? -Mm-hmm. 26:52.120 --> 26:53.240 -Herons? -Yes. 26:53.320 --> 26:55.320 -But do you like falcons? -[David] Yes. 26:55.399 --> 26:57.159 -Pelicans? -Yes. 26:57.240 --> 26:58.760 -Parrots? -[David] Yes. 26:59.360 --> 27:00.280 Me too. 27:00.960 --> 27:03.919 [David] Look at them falling in love with each other. 27:04.000 --> 27:04.840 [Abbey] Cute. 27:04.919 --> 27:06.640 Hello, you two adorable kitties. 27:06.720 --> 27:08.240 -[Abbey] I love cats. -[David] Mm-hmm. 27:08.320 --> 27:10.280 I am a cat person. 27:11.080 --> 27:12.199 [Abbey] Me too. 27:13.919 --> 27:15.360 This is so fun. 27:15.439 --> 27:16.439 Yes. 27:16.520 --> 27:18.360 I love this place. 27:18.439 --> 27:20.880 Thanks. So do I. 27:22.600 --> 27:25.480 Let's just sit on the bench and just enjoy. 27:26.840 --> 27:27.960 Ah. 27:34.840 --> 27:36.960 [Cian] Can you describe your ideal partner? 27:37.720 --> 27:42.040 I would like a woman who is similar to me, but not an exact copy, obviously. 27:42.120 --> 27:45.480 I wouldn't expect to find a woman who was a radiant, unearthly beauty, 27:45.560 --> 27:49.240 but, obviously, I want a woman who is still fairly attractive. 27:49.320 --> 27:52.120 A woman who's attractive to the point that when I see her, 27:52.199 --> 27:55.520 I do not feel a desire to avert my gaze, you know? 27:55.600 --> 27:56.760 And a woman who is, 27:56.840 --> 27:59.320 you know, who is very big on hygiene and well groomed. 27:59.399 --> 28:02.360 I don't think that's asking too much, is it? 28:02.880 --> 28:03.800 I hope not. 28:08.520 --> 28:11.800 [narrator] As he readies himself to get back into the dating world, 28:11.880 --> 28:15.240 James is meeting his younger brother William for dinner. 28:15.320 --> 28:16.439 Hey. How's it going? 28:16.520 --> 28:18.919 -Good seeing ya. -I'm doing just fine. How are you doing? 28:19.000 --> 28:20.320 [William] Good. Good. Doing well. 28:20.399 --> 28:21.320 Okay. Good. Good. 28:21.399 --> 28:22.840 Glad to hear that. 28:22.919 --> 28:24.000 How was your day? 28:24.080 --> 28:27.040 Oh, Nothing out of the ordinary happened, which is how I prefer it. 28:27.120 --> 28:28.919 -Yes. Yes. -Oh, that's a good thing. 28:29.000 --> 28:30.560 So what's been going on lately? 28:30.640 --> 28:35.640 [splutters] Oh, well, actually, I have a date on Saturday night. 28:35.720 --> 28:37.280 -Really? -I'm quite excited about that. 28:37.360 --> 28:40.840 Hopefully she'll have a good personality, and hopefully I'll get along with her. 28:40.919 --> 28:42.439 Yeah, that's exciting. Good for you. 28:42.520 --> 28:47.800 So I don't know if you've heard yet, but Uncle Henry has a new girlfriend. 28:47.879 --> 28:49.679 -Oh, really? -Yes. Yes. 28:49.760 --> 28:52.399 He apparently met her online, so he's had… 28:52.480 --> 28:55.480 Despite his age, he's had more success with online dating than I have. 28:55.560 --> 28:58.560 Well, hey, maybe you and he will both have new girlfriends at the same time. 28:58.639 --> 28:59.840 That would be something. 28:59.919 --> 29:02.040 It's definitely, uh… Look at that. 29:02.120 --> 29:04.520 A mai tai for you, and the food is on its way, okay? 29:04.600 --> 29:06.560 -Cool. Thank you. Appreciate it. -Nice. Thank you. 29:06.639 --> 29:09.480 That's right. Cheers to your date this Saturday. 29:09.560 --> 29:10.480 That's amazing. 29:11.120 --> 29:11.959 Ah. 29:12.040 --> 29:14.639 When you're asking her questions and things like that, 29:14.720 --> 29:17.520 make sure it's not like you're just going through a checklist, 29:17.600 --> 29:19.520 -like asking one, asking the next. -Certainly not. 29:19.600 --> 29:21.919 Ask a few different questions, a few follow-up questions, 29:22.000 --> 29:25.919 like, you know, so that way it kind of really shows that genuine interest. 29:26.000 --> 29:27.480 You do a good amount of talking, 29:27.560 --> 29:31.280 but at the same time, make sure that she's able to contribute just as much. 29:31.360 --> 29:32.199 Yes. 29:32.280 --> 29:35.320 Basically like, very much a fifty-fifty interaction. 29:35.399 --> 29:37.199 It's a way for her to build confidence. 29:37.280 --> 29:40.399 It helps, you know, say, "Okay, this guy really truly is interested in me." 29:40.480 --> 29:41.840 -Fish tacos. -All right. 29:41.919 --> 29:43.120 Look at that. 29:43.199 --> 29:44.080 And the grilled… 29:44.159 --> 29:46.240 -Very nice, thank you very much. -Wow. 29:46.320 --> 29:47.600 -You guys enjoy. -Thank you. 29:47.679 --> 29:49.760 -That looks good. -Ah. Yes. 29:50.360 --> 29:54.439 So if you were to say what you, uh… what you're looking for in a girl, 29:54.520 --> 29:56.280 what would you say? 29:56.879 --> 29:59.760 Someone with whom I feel a close special bond 29:59.840 --> 30:03.320 and someone whose presence enhances my life 30:03.399 --> 30:08.280 and makes life feel more vibrant, more energetic, and colorful. 30:08.360 --> 30:09.399 That's good. 30:09.480 --> 30:11.199 May I have some of your french fries, please? 30:11.280 --> 30:13.000 -Sure. -Oh, yes, thank you. 30:18.600 --> 30:22.399 I suppose maybe it would probably be okay, you know, 30:22.480 --> 30:24.679 on a first date, to give someone a compliment 30:24.760 --> 30:26.639 on their clothing or jewelry or whatever, 30:26.720 --> 30:30.360 but it might not be so good to comment on their hair or body, 30:30.439 --> 30:31.919 I'd have to imagine. 30:32.000 --> 30:34.520 [laughs] No, probably not. 30:34.600 --> 30:37.080 If a woman told me she didn't like my hairstyle, 30:37.159 --> 30:41.240 I probably wouldn't want to have a second date with her, for instance. 30:41.320 --> 30:42.800 [laughs] 30:46.159 --> 30:49.000 [Abbey] The topic we're gonna talk about is sea creatures. 30:49.080 --> 30:50.159 Oh, yes. 30:50.240 --> 30:52.840 What's your favorite creatures that live in the sea? 30:53.360 --> 30:56.040 I like mermaids, but they don't exist. 30:56.120 --> 31:00.959 Like, I really understood the story of The Little Mermaid when I was younger. 31:01.480 --> 31:05.120 But now I don't need to apply… that no longer applies to me. 31:05.199 --> 31:08.399 -Wow. -'Cause I've come so far since then. 31:08.480 --> 31:09.560 The Little Mermaid is one 31:09.639 --> 31:12.280 -of the list of my favorite movies. -Me too. 31:13.560 --> 31:14.720 [Abbey] Hi, owl. 31:14.800 --> 31:16.320 -Hi, guys. -Is he a mean owl? 31:16.399 --> 31:18.120 She is actually very nice. 31:18.199 --> 31:20.120 [both] Hoo, hoo, hoo. 31:20.199 --> 31:23.840 [chuckles] Now these guys are one of the largest types of owls in the world. 31:23.919 --> 31:25.360 -[David] Hi, big owl. -[laughs] 31:26.320 --> 31:29.080 -[woman] What do you think? -It seems gentle. 31:29.679 --> 31:31.720 What do you like to do for fun? 31:32.840 --> 31:34.520 Oh, so they don't speak human. 31:34.600 --> 31:37.159 When you're turning your head, we have seven neck bones. 31:37.240 --> 31:38.320 These guys have 14, 31:38.399 --> 31:40.600 so they have twice as many as us. 31:43.679 --> 31:45.439 -[woman] Ready to meet a sloth? -[Abbey] Yeah. 31:45.520 --> 31:48.080 -Let's talk about sloths. -[woman] Come with me this way. 31:48.159 --> 31:51.159 So sloths hang upside down their whole entire lives. 31:51.240 --> 31:53.280 They're never right side up like us. 31:53.800 --> 31:58.000 They sleep all day long. They sleep between 15 and 20 hours every day. 31:58.520 --> 31:59.600 [David] Hey, sloth. 31:59.679 --> 32:01.439 [Abbey] Look at the tiny little fox. 32:01.520 --> 32:03.439 [woman] Those are our fennec foxes. 32:03.520 --> 32:05.040 -[David] They're-- -[Abbey] Do they yip? 32:05.120 --> 32:08.199 -They make high-pitched screeching noises. -Like, "Ah!" 32:08.719 --> 32:11.159 -Yes, a bit like that. -They're from the north of Africa. 32:11.240 --> 32:13.120 -[woman] Have you been to Africa? -[David] Yes. 32:13.199 --> 32:16.879 And I'm gonna go there again in a heartbeat. And Abbey? 32:16.959 --> 32:19.520 Me too. My heart will be beating, but it always does. 32:19.600 --> 32:21.320 If it weren't, I wouldn't be on Earth. 32:21.399 --> 32:22.760 -[David] Yeah. -Very true. 32:22.840 --> 32:24.879 How would you like to come to Africa with me? 32:24.959 --> 32:28.320 Yes, I would love that. My heart's gonna beat so fast. 32:30.879 --> 32:33.520 [David] I really had fun seeing the animals with you. 32:33.600 --> 32:34.439 Me too. 32:34.520 --> 32:37.240 I had a total fun blast with you. 32:38.399 --> 32:39.240 [David] Bef… 32:39.840 --> 32:43.000 Before you go, I think I have something special for you. 32:43.080 --> 32:43.919 What? 32:44.480 --> 32:45.560 Here you go. 32:45.639 --> 32:46.840 Okay. 32:46.919 --> 32:47.879 What is it? 32:49.280 --> 32:50.320 [gasps] 32:50.879 --> 32:54.719 -What is it? -It's a flamingo bracelet. 32:54.800 --> 32:56.800 -I got it from San Clemente. -Oh my God. 32:57.320 --> 32:59.320 You did? Is it in Africa? 32:59.399 --> 33:03.919 -Like from Africa. -Oh my God, I love it so much. 33:04.000 --> 33:05.439 Allow me to get that for you. 33:06.879 --> 33:07.719 Thanks. 33:10.840 --> 33:12.760 [Abbey] It's got a flamingo. I like it. 33:13.360 --> 33:14.639 I'm glad you do. 33:15.199 --> 33:16.360 Thanks. 33:16.439 --> 33:17.719 Will I see you again? 33:19.159 --> 33:21.120 Maybe one day. I'll think about it. 33:21.199 --> 33:22.360 I'll let my mom know. 33:22.439 --> 33:23.760 Take all the time you need. 33:23.840 --> 33:24.679 -Okay. -Bye. 33:24.760 --> 33:25.600 Bye. 33:30.439 --> 33:31.360 Bye. 33:34.800 --> 33:36.840 [Cian] Do you believe in love at first sight? 33:36.919 --> 33:40.399 I do. It's like, wow, this could be the greatest opportunity 33:40.480 --> 33:41.919 to get to know the person more. 33:42.000 --> 33:43.320 I'm hungry for more. 33:43.399 --> 33:46.560 It's the power of, um… power of love. 33:52.520 --> 33:54.719 -[aunt] Are you going to… -Put on my makeup. 33:55.360 --> 33:58.560 [narrator] Dani is getting ready to head to downtown LA 33:58.639 --> 34:00.040 for a first date. 34:00.560 --> 34:04.199 -[Cian] How are you feeling, Dani? -I am doing great. 34:04.280 --> 34:06.959 Just putting on the magical touches 34:07.959 --> 34:09.560 to show my dream boyfriend. 34:10.560 --> 34:13.600 [Cian] Can't guarantee he's your dream boyfriend, but you never know. 34:13.679 --> 34:14.600 [Dani] That's right. 34:14.679 --> 34:15.760 [aunt] You ready? 34:15.839 --> 34:17.319 [Dani] I am ready, Sandy. 34:18.080 --> 34:19.280 A little nervous. 34:19.360 --> 34:22.159 -Maybe you should have a shot of tequila. -Thanks, Sandy. 34:22.239 --> 34:24.760 -Thanks for your suggestion. -So you could relax. 34:24.839 --> 34:25.880 Okay. 34:25.960 --> 34:26.920 [Sandy] Just one shot. 34:28.120 --> 34:30.520 Here's to your first date in two years. 34:30.600 --> 34:31.440 Okay. 34:33.679 --> 34:35.239 -[chuckles] -[sighs] 34:35.319 --> 34:36.159 [Sandy] Yep. 34:38.040 --> 34:41.480 Looks are a bonus, they're beautiful, but it can also be a bit seductive, 34:41.560 --> 34:43.360 so I try to be very careful. 34:43.440 --> 34:48.000 I always get attracted to some people with long hair, shoulder-length hair. 34:48.080 --> 34:50.679 Especially some androgynous-looking guy, that I really love. 34:50.760 --> 34:53.960 [Cian] Do you find that sometimes you can find yourself attracted to someone, 34:54.040 --> 34:57.080 but you think, "Hang on, Dani, that person isn't right for me 'cause--" 34:57.160 --> 34:58.160 Yeah. 34:58.240 --> 35:00.680 He could be lazy or manipulative. 35:00.760 --> 35:02.360 [overlapping chatter] 35:11.280 --> 35:12.960 Adjust my hair, adjust that. 35:13.040 --> 35:14.040 [sighs] 35:16.960 --> 35:19.000 [narrator] Dani is meeting Solomon. 35:20.080 --> 35:21.560 He likes writing poetry 35:22.240 --> 35:23.640 and good vibes. 35:24.240 --> 35:26.400 He doesn't like messy eaters 35:26.480 --> 35:27.799 or aggressive birds. 35:36.920 --> 35:38.839 -My name is Solomon. -I'm Dani. Nice to meet you. 35:38.920 --> 35:39.839 Nice to meet you too. 35:39.920 --> 35:42.080 -These are for you. -Oh, lovely flowers bouquet. 35:42.680 --> 35:45.200 That's so wonderful. Thank you so much. 35:45.280 --> 35:46.520 Any time. 35:46.600 --> 35:47.560 So how are you doing? 35:47.640 --> 35:49.000 I'm doing fine, great. 35:49.600 --> 35:50.920 Sorry, I'm kind of nervous. 35:51.000 --> 35:52.080 [both laugh] 35:52.160 --> 35:54.080 -Yeah. -I'm nervous too. 35:54.160 --> 35:55.520 Yeah, so, um… 35:56.280 --> 35:58.040 I'm sorry, I'm just kind of nervous. 35:58.120 --> 35:59.280 [chuckles] 35:59.360 --> 36:02.120 -Have you ever been on blind dates before? -I haven't, no. 36:02.200 --> 36:03.080 Same here. 36:03.160 --> 36:05.360 So what are your interests? 36:05.440 --> 36:07.640 My interests, I do animation. 36:07.720 --> 36:10.480 I teach animation to youth on the autism spectrum. 36:10.560 --> 36:13.400 That's really cool. How long have you been doing that for? 36:13.480 --> 36:16.680 I guess I've been doing animation ever since 14. 36:16.760 --> 36:17.680 -A long time. -Wow. 36:17.760 --> 36:19.160 -Fourteen? -Yep. 36:19.240 --> 36:20.520 That's a good passion. 36:21.440 --> 36:25.319 Well, I just finished, you know, my AA degree at Santa Monica College. 36:25.400 --> 36:26.240 [Dani] Oh, wow. 36:26.319 --> 36:29.120 I'm majoring in Communication, like, Studies, 36:29.200 --> 36:32.680 so I'm gonna be working with kids, like, that have disabilities 36:32.760 --> 36:35.280 and just teaching them, like, how to do the right stuff and-- 36:35.360 --> 36:36.799 This is perfect. 36:36.880 --> 36:39.120 Yeah, yeah. I just want to teach them my perspective, 36:39.200 --> 36:42.720 and, like, what I went through, and how I became the person I am today. 36:42.799 --> 36:46.560 And I got into the Law of Attraction. You know what that is? 36:46.640 --> 36:48.480 Law of Attraction? What's this about? 36:48.560 --> 36:51.120 So it's about when you spread good vibes, 36:51.200 --> 36:53.920 like, you attract that good energy and they give it back to you. 36:54.000 --> 36:54.839 [Dani] Oh, wow. 36:54.920 --> 36:56.680 It's very powerful. 36:56.760 --> 36:58.440 I tried it with friends and family, 36:58.520 --> 37:01.280 and my relationships are through the roof now. 37:01.359 --> 37:03.680 I really want to find my soul mate, 37:03.760 --> 37:07.120 and that's why I started the Law of Attraction as well too, 37:07.200 --> 37:11.040 to, like, actually, you know, find that abundance in my life, so… 37:11.120 --> 37:12.160 [Dani] Wow. 37:12.680 --> 37:13.600 Thank you. 37:14.200 --> 37:15.280 Thank you so much. 37:15.359 --> 37:17.359 -[waitress] Of course. Enjoy. -Yeah, thank you. 37:17.440 --> 37:18.480 Do you like anime? 37:18.560 --> 37:20.920 Yeah, I watch some of it. Not all the time though. 37:21.000 --> 37:23.960 Have you ever been to San Diego Comic-Con? 37:24.040 --> 37:25.640 -I have, yeah. -[Dani] You did?! 37:25.720 --> 37:26.920 Yeah, it's really nice. 37:27.000 --> 37:29.240 Oh my goodness. 37:29.839 --> 37:32.640 I gotta use the restroom for a second. Be right back. 37:33.160 --> 37:34.120 Okay. 37:36.520 --> 37:38.040 [Dani] What are your first impressions? 37:38.640 --> 37:41.359 Solomon. Oh, he is so attractive. 37:41.440 --> 37:43.960 I mean, not just attractive from the looks, 37:44.040 --> 37:46.560 but also, like, we have something in common. 37:46.640 --> 37:50.720 Helping people of different disabilities, including autism, be themselves, 37:50.799 --> 37:53.680 and it's like, oh, I'm just so nervous, and… 37:54.359 --> 37:56.560 Oh, by the way, I'm just… in love. 37:56.640 --> 37:58.440 We also share lots of hobbies. 37:58.520 --> 38:00.680 -[Cian] Did you just say you're in love? -Yes. 38:01.839 --> 38:03.120 Hey, I'm back. 38:03.200 --> 38:04.040 [Solomon] Hey. 38:06.560 --> 38:07.799 I'm just very… 38:07.880 --> 38:10.200 so authentic about spirituality 38:10.280 --> 38:13.960 and just with the Law of Attraction. Like, I just love it so much. 38:14.040 --> 38:15.400 [both chuckle] 38:17.680 --> 38:18.560 So… 38:18.640 --> 38:21.040 -Let's enjoy our drinks. -[Solomon] Mm-hmm. 38:22.040 --> 38:23.080 It's really good. 38:24.720 --> 38:26.359 So have you tried online dating? 38:26.440 --> 38:30.560 Well, I did, but I was just a little too nervous. 38:30.640 --> 38:32.960 I kind of… It kind of creeped me out. 38:33.040 --> 38:34.080 -Yeah. -No, no, no, no, no. 38:34.160 --> 38:35.640 Bad idea. Bad idea. 38:35.720 --> 38:37.760 With me, online dating didn't go too well. 38:37.839 --> 38:40.120 -Yeah. -'Cause I feel like I just get judged. 38:40.200 --> 38:42.520 You gotta get to know the person for who they are. 38:44.040 --> 38:46.440 You know, I told you I'm into spirituality and all that. 38:46.520 --> 38:48.640 [Dani] Yes, you sure do. Tell me about that. 38:48.720 --> 38:49.600 I love it. 38:49.680 --> 38:52.280 It's like, literally, I listen to… You okay? 38:52.359 --> 38:53.839 I am in love with you. 38:53.920 --> 38:54.760 Huh? 38:55.600 --> 38:57.120 I think you are so hot. 39:02.440 --> 39:04.839 -[Cian] What's up, Solomon? -I wanna take a little break. 39:04.920 --> 39:06.120 -[Cian] Yeah, sure. -I'm sorry. 39:06.200 --> 39:08.200 [Cian] If you need to take a break, take a break. 39:09.319 --> 39:11.040 -I'm sorry. -It's okay. [chuckles] 39:18.160 --> 39:21.120 Okay, maybe the situation's a little awkward. 39:21.640 --> 39:24.319 I think I might have frightened him off. 39:26.359 --> 39:27.280 [sighs] 39:28.480 --> 39:30.160 [suspenseful music playing] ned him off.