Bad girls, you're breaking my heart
Never could get over you
Marriage is about love. I don't wanna waste time.
You're it. Let's do this. Either you wanna marry me or you don't.
I'm very ready to get married, and my partner is not,
so I'm open to seeing how someone else
can show that they are willing to choose me 100%.
I think I'm falling in love
At the end of this experience,
I'll either leave here engaged to my partner,
I'll leave here alone,
or I could even leave here with someone else.
Let's go
Go ahead, get nasty
Get the mound wet.
-Your eyes are literally piercing my soul. -Thank you.
Where would you like me to put my dirty fingers?
Tell me
This is all it has to be
This experience has changed my life.
First time in my life… to feel understood.
You are literally exactly what I prayed for.
We know there's a connection between us. We know there's something there.
It's definitely possible to fall in love with two different people.
How can you be in love with somebody else?
My heart is shattered!
You put words in my mouth.
What!?
There's proof that you and Dayna
are fucking.
Lesbians are fucking brutal.
I can't believe I wanted to marry you.
I want romance.
My worst fear was that I was ready
and you were falling in love with someone else.
Now it's happening.
Can we be done?
Take me up
Everything looks better From the top, yeah
I could be getting engaged or leaving here alone
and starting all over.
This will change the course of our lives forever.
It's all come down to right now.
Lost in the world Didn't know what I was looking for
It is so frustrating that AJ is not jumping
at the idea of marrying me.
I've been showing up. I've been that partner.
It does bother me. I'm not gonna lie.
I would like to be married. I want a family.
Hi. It's us.
It feels pretty black-and-white. Marry me or I move on.
No matter what I do
I do think an ultimatum is pretty extreme,
but giving this ultimatum
is going to give me the answers that I need.
Hello.
-Hi. -How's it going?
I am JoAnna Garcia Swisher, and this is The Ultimatum.
You all came here as couples.
One of you is ready for marriage
and the other one of you… maybe not so ready yet.
Britney, you issued AJ the Ultimatum.
Yeah, I'm ready to get married.
I feel like I've always been a very goal-oriented person in my life,
and I'm at the point where I met most of them.
-I love that. Congratulations. -I feel like… thank you.
So, yeah, marriage is honestly the next step.
I tell Britney all the time, it's like, her beauty is just so radiant.
I feel like the stars literally try to combust just trying to compare with you.
I love everything about you,
but I do have a lot of hesitation.
Britney has done a lot in her life.
Putting herself through school, getting her degrees, house, car.
Pushing herself beyond bounds and limits that anybody has ever placed on her.
So someone like this deserves everything.
Before I take the next step,
I just want to be in a position to give her that.
Even though we're in two different places individually… I don't care.
To me, marriage is more about love
and being ready to commit ourselves to each other
versus checking all these boxes and having everything in order.
I feel we can grow with that.
I just deserve someone who's ready to just go all in
regardless of whatever is going on, and I am willing to walk away.
Haley, you issued Pilar the Ultimatum.
I love everything about Pilar.
I love that we can look at each other from across the room
and just one glance and I'm like, "I was thinking the same thing."
Aw.
It's more than a third of our lives together.
There's just no one that knows each other like we know each other.
But I do know that there is one more deeper step that we could take,
and I want it.
There's a lot of emotions.
We got together when we were 18.
You know, I hid my relationship for eight years,
and when I came out to my family, our relationship's never been the same.
And my mother hasn't talked to me since.
I always pictured that wedding, you know, your dad walks you down the aisle,
your family's there.
I don't know if I can give that to you.
If you're not ready, I would be willing to walk away.
I will say, I've lost both my parents in the past couple of years.
The one thing that has, like, resonated with me in my grief
is that the family that I've built, my husband and my children,
is really actually what carries you through.
I'm not in a queer relationship, but I understand
that there are different complications.
The conversations are different.
But at the end of the day, I am an old married woman.
And I do believe in love in every form.
Thank you.
Okay. The terms of the Ultimatum are very clear.
You will either leave here engaged,
alone,
or possibly find love with someone new.
Tonight is your last night together as a couple.
Tomorrow, you will accept the Ultimatum.
You will break up, and you will be exes.
Over the next week, you will date all of your new potential partners,
and that is everyone in this room.
There's gonna be a lot of excitement, a lot of new things happening.
So really focus and really concentrate on the qualities
that you are looking for in a spouse.
Because at the end of the week,
we are all going to meet again at The Choice
and you will each choose a new partner
and you will move in together for three weeks in a trial marriage.
And then at the end of that, you will do it all over again
with the person that you came here with.
Bridget, I looked at your face and I'm like, I need to know what is going on?
I think it's just kind of hitting me and washing over me
that we're living with someone we're meeting tonight for the first time.
We have provided a selection of engagement rings
that you may use if you choose to propose when the Ultimatum comes to term.
It's pretty crazy. Yeah. It's, like, very real.
Take a deep breath because
your lives will forever be changed by this experience.
Here we go.
I will see you all back here in one week
for a very important decision
at The Choice.
Cheers to each of you, and cheers to love.
-Cheers. -Cheers!
-Cheers, guys. -Cheers.
It's time to step outside And introduce yourself
I issued the Ultimatum to Magan but…
if someone's not willing to give you
what someone else is willing to offer, who wouldn't take that instead?
You're thinking all these things, who is my partner gonna like,
who am I gonna like, who'll like me?
It's so weird.
Mel caught my attention.
I do feel like there is, like, a attraction between us.
This is who we are
Come on, let's celebrate
This is who we are
Come on, let's celebrate
This is who we are
Yeah, we were born this way
This is who we are
I know.
Sit with me.
I need to take my shoes off so bad.
My feet are killing me.
-I've been in these for hours. -I can get 'em off.
Thanks.
So what'd you think?
-Um… -Did you think anyone was cute?
How you gonna ask me that?
I can't ask you that? Why?
No, you can ask me that. I mean, I don't think…
Honestly, I don't think anyone's my type.
Do you know who, like, reminded me of you was Pilar and Haley.
I feel like Pilar was in the same, like, scenario as you.
I almost started crying when she was talking.
I feel I've been ready to marry you
like six months after knowing you, honestly.
I come from an Arab household.
I'm Lebanese.
My family doesn't want me with a woman.
In the community, portraying yourself in a certain way is very important.
Nobody's out and proud.
I'm giving Magan the Ultimatum
because I need security that we have a future together.
I want you to take into consideration, we come from different places.
I think it's hard for me because it's like a reality check for me,
like the things that were leading you to an Ultimatum with me…
-Straight up saying like… -Yeah.
"This isn't enough for me,
-I will walk away." -Do you take it serious?
Yes, of course I take it seriously.
-So it's hard. -Do you want to, like, end this together?
Like, do you feel like that's a point you can, like…
-Of course. -…reach?
Of course.
I'm gonna try my hardest because I do want to be with you.
My whole life changed since dating you.
It's been literally the best thing that's ever happened to me.
But I also, like, have my own set of circumstances, and it's like…
while I do want to 100% change where I'm at
in a family perspective, I also want to know, like… how fast the change is.
What I come up with and then I present to you
is gonna be honest and then, you know, you can decide whether
that's enough for you. And if not, like, I respect it.
I feel like I've put you first a lot in my life,
like since I met you.
You've always, like, trumped everything and everyone.
So, like, I want to feel the same.
I don't want to feel I should question myself because you do.
I just want you to be brave.
You're so confident in so many areas of your life, you're overly confident.
So it's like I want you to have that behavior, like "F you," in this.
-I love you. -I know. I love you.
If she can't stand up to her parents and demand respect,
I will absolutely walk away.
Beautiful
What do you want to drink?
-Champagne. -Okay.
Wow. Unexpected.
We met on a dating app.
I'd just moved to LA.
My first weekend there, we went on our first date.
We hung out about five times that week.
Yeah, we did.
I remember, when we left each other on Saturday,
-we made plans immediately for Tuesday… -Yeah.
…but then the next day you texted me and you were like,
"Tuesday feels really far away." I was like, "I was thinking the same."
So we saw each other the next day and then again on Tuesday
-and pretty much the rest of the week. -Yeah.
And so on.
You know, we've talked about what I see in the future,
and you know that marriage is…
an important part of that, so… I am issuing you an ultimatum.
This is something that I realized that I wanted.
Being with you helped that.
And so it sucks that you're not there.
I don't want to do something that I'm not totally behind.
If it were just up to my heart, I would do it.
I know, and that's, I think, why… we're here.
Because…
-I just think you want me to just jump… -Your mind is getting in the way.
I'm not asking for that.
I just feel like you're not even open to the idea.
It's hard for me to see how the level of commitment
I've already given you isn't enough.
I love Kyle, and I can't imagine my life without her.
She adds so much to it.
But marriage, it was never something that I thought was super important to me.
I don't ever want to do it just to do it,
and I just feel like I'm already showing up
and I'm already really committed.
I don't really know what marriage would add to that.
I think I want to understand better, like, why it's so important to you.
If it matters that much to you, it must be pretty different
than just being… girlfriends.
I want you to realize, like, how serious I take our relationship.
It's something that I picture in my future.
I want to, like, show my family
that I have a partner that I'm committed to.
I just hope you realize how, like, important this is to me
and how important… you are to me.
Yeah.
I know.
If this experience can't really shift my perspective,
then… I don't know what can.
But I know this won't last long
I'm on the outside
Why're you following me down?
I want to break out
You were the one who overcome
I feel like nothing set in 'til tonight.
I know.
You know, I'm giving you this Ultimatum
-because I want to marry you. I really do. -Aw.
You're like a rare find in the world.
But you just have, like, wandering eyes all the time.
I don't understand it.
My wandering eyes are only because, like,
I'm trying to figure out what's best for me
and, like, if staying in this relationship means I feel empty,
then I am curious.
I mean, it's normal to be curious about…
Well, I know, but…
Other relation… Like, I'm not getting the love that I need.
I feel like I've given my entire heart and soul to you,
and for you… to not really see that
or feel it…
-Honey, I do. -Or appreciate it, like, I just…
-You know I love you, you know I'm-- -I know.
You have a huge heart, and I do appreciate and love everything that you give me.
I think that there's more that you could do.
You know, I reach for the stars and, like, you know me, I overdo everything.
I know, that's where it's tough.
And that's what I want from you before we get married.
It's just hard sometimes, like, I feel like I'm doing enough.
Okay, baby. Well, I mean, we're just gonna have to… see how it goes individually.
You do know and realize, like, what's at stake, right?
Yeah.
If you feel like you can't marry me, I am ready to just… walk away from this.
My heart is breaking We've gotta face it
I'm asking one last time
What would you do for love?
Love
I am issuing you this Ultimatum, but the anxiety is real.
I'm hoping everyone's nice.
-You know? -So you're excited to date?
I'm excited to… mingle.
I feel like that's where I'm at right now.
Dating to marry.
You helped me pick my bathing suits out so…
That's the worst part. You'll be three feet away from me
in the bathing suit I picked.
-Like… -Oh, goodness.
Can you believe yesterday was our four years?
No shit. Four years.
Four years!
I honestly… I had never seen myself with anybody for four years,
so the fact that it's you and the fact that it's us, it made me really happy.
But also I think that the past few years,
being that our food truck shares our anniversary,
it's something that we've overlooked a little bit.
It overshadows. It absolutely does, like…
And maybe that's, like, a big part of why I feel so
put… to the side.
-Is that why this is so important to you? -For sure.
That you have the title and the…
For sure. I want to start a family and…
have the finality of it all.
In the back of my head, I have this, "She gave me an Ultimatum,
like this is, it's now or never. It's do or die."
And then it's like, at the same time…
I feel like I'm so strong-minded and so willed as to what I want
that it's just hard to fight… Like, the two are always clashing in my head.
I don't want marriage, and I don't want kids,
mostly because I have a really big fear of just fucking it all up.
When I grew up, I didn't really see around me a successful, happy marriage.
I had four different women in my life that I called Mom.
As soon as the relationship ended or something went wrong,
they were never heard from again.
Separating is very scary and very real, but I… would leave.
Will I be able to work with you at the food truck anymore?
Everything will change. Will I have to get a different job?
Today could be the start of me building a history with somebody else.
Right?
And never again will I Give it away like I did
Give you my heart like I did
Yeah, totally absurd.
-Mm. -I love you.
This is really happening.
Is there anything that makes you scared to marry me?
I don't have fear.
I feel like I could marry you tomorrow and I'd be completely okay with that.
I'm afraid of not being, like, a knight in shining armor, like…
That one day you'll wake up
and not see me as the person that you love anymore.
As you know, my parents have been married for 30 plus years.
And… watching their love… grow
and just all, like, the love that they show,
it's always everything that I've always wanted in a partner.
Whoever I marry, it has to be the right one.
I guess this is a very concentrated way of figuring out what's best for us.
Do you think you can fall for someone else?
There is a chance that you or I could fall in love with someone else.
Like, I brought us here because I want you,
and now I'm losing you to hopefully gain you forever.
Listen, do you miss me Do you miss me at all?
I just hope that me bringing you here wasn't a mistake.
Yeah.
Me and AJ live together. We have fur babies, our families are merged.
I am scared. There is a lot to lose in this experience.
But then there is a lot to gain.
I deserve someone who's ready now to get married.
I want that assertiveness. I want that sureness.
-You have everything? -I got everything.
-Are you okay? Yeah? -Yeah. I will be.
Yeah.
I love you so much.
See Promise I can almost see
Tell me that you'll never leave
I love you.
Oh
Here we go
It's just begun
The best is yet to come
I just hope that we don't necessarily lose each other.
But if that happens,
it better be for a damn good reason.
Five, six, seven, eight
H-O-T-T-O-G-O
You can take me hot to go
H-O-T-T-O-G-O
You can take me hot to go
It's pretty crazy to think on my first day being single in ten years,
I'm gonna be going on ten different dates.
-What's up? -I will say,
you are my most handsomest date…
Back at you, baby.
Baby, don't you like this beat?
I made it so you'd sleep with me
-Nice to meet you. -You are gorgeous.
You are gorgeous as well. Oh my goodness.
H-O-T-T-O-G-O
Snap and clap and touch your toes
H-O-T-T-O-G-O
I am in this thong-kini.
My whole booty is out.
There's a bunch of single women around me, so I'm excited!
-You're single! So am I! -I know!
What's it take to get your number? What's it take to bring you home?
Ashley gave me the Ultimatum, and it's gonna be weird
to see Ashley talk to other women,
but I'm just excited to be dating again.
H-O-T-T-O-G-O
-You're a hopeless romantic, right? -I am a hopeless romantic.
Tell me your perfect date.
I think there should be a little scavenger hunt.
I feel like my brain is so scattered that I would have to leave notes for myself
to remember where I put them for you.
I'm looking for someone to show me the love and romance
that I've given to the girls that I've loved in the past.
The romantic antics that I do for my partners.
Like, I feel like it's a cry for help.
-Like, I want that. -Yeah. I'm not that kind of person.
I… think I deserve more.
I woke up this morning just, like, optimistic and happy.
So, just excited to get to know the other women.
Ooh, hello, who's there?
Magan's gonna be pissed when she sees this swimsuit.
When we were packing, she was like, "None of those."
I'm gonna pretend she's not there. I don't even know that girl.
-I'm Mel. -Nice to meet you. I'm Dayna.
-Dayna? That sounds scary. -Yeah.
-Why? -Daynas are trouble!
I've never heard that in my life.
That's 'cause you're a Dayna. They can't tell you.
Okay. So is your full name Melanie?
Oh! Close. Mel is short for, obviously Melissa,
but also melodrama, 'cause I'm just so dramatic all the time.
-Really? -Yeah.
Are you, like, sensitive dramatic or are you, like, sassy dramatic?
No, I'm like the,
if you stand me in the sun for 10 minutes, I'll be like, "I'm gonna die here."
-Oh, cry baby. Oh, okay. -Shut up! No. Okay.
-So your ex is… Magan? -Magan.
-Okay. And you issued? Right? -I issued the Ultimatum. Yeah.
Yeah, what are you looking for with that? Like, what are you…
I need the security that, like, you are like 100% like ready
-to go all the way there with me. -Okay.
She comes from a family that, being who she is, being gay,
being out, being proud, is just not okay.
And I don't know that she's ever gonna get the ability to truly commit to this life
without, you know, sacrificing her family.
-So, like, I need to know. -Right. You would make her choose?
I want her to choose between herself and being who she is
-and the people holding her back. -Right.
What's your family like? Is your family supportive?
I'm not close with my family at all.
I have my chosen family who I am very close with.
And you're okay with… that?
Yeah, I've been… I lived on my own since I'm 16. So…
Oh my God. I know you were issued the Ultimatum.
I was.
My ex is in the same boat where she wants the commitment,
but for me, I'm scared of that.
What are you scared of?
Everything you say when you get married.
"In sickness and health. For rich or for poor."
That's all the shit that scares me.
But I definitely bring security.
-I'm a realist. Like, I'll be like… -Same.
I'm so like real about everything.
I feel like you remind me of myself.
-Really? -I don't know why.
Mel has a lot of the qualities I desire.
She gives me the, like, confident,
real person that, like, I kind of feel like I would go for.
And I think Magan's so different in that aspect
where she cares so much more about how other people
are gonna feel about her.
-How are you? -How's it going? I'm Pilar.
-I'm Magan, nice to meet you. -Magan, nice to meet you.
I just refuse to stay in this waiting game of expecting people
to accept her or us when she hasn't demanded that.
Like, I know what I came here for.
Something's got to be worth it for me to, like, make a change.
I've never really been without Dayna.
So like, breaking up is just a weird concept for me to grasp.
I feel like I do have a bit of jealousy with Dayna dating other people.
Like, I'm just trying to feel everything out,
and it's hard to do that right now.
I know you have family stuff going on.
I'm half Nicaraguan, half Filipino.
-Very conservative, very Catholic. -Oh.
Yeah, and no one's gay.
Yeah, I know how it is. It's hard.
Going here and, you know, being issued the Ultimatum, like, I…
-Feel like it's a double whammy? -Yeah, exactly.
It's like, you're trying and, boom, you got slapped with…
Sometimes I feel like Dayna is pressuring me to make a decision.
A hundred percent.
I'm constantly trying to please everyone.
-Trying to please my partner, my family. -Yes.
-No, yeah. -It's like, what do you do?
It took me eight years to come out to my family.
It's been three years they haven't spoken to me.
-Really? -Yeah.
Do you feel like, with marriage,
-it's the publicity of the marriage? -Yeah, 100%.
-That's how you feel? -Yeah. I feel like I'm very committed.
We have a dog, you know, we live together… that next step…
You know, I just feel I don't want to take this baggage with me into a marriage,
and it's not that I don't love her, obviously, you know.
It's just I feel right now I need to…
-It's also not fair for her too. -Yeah.
-That's how I feel. -Yeah.
Then I feel more guilty that I'm not brave enough
to be that person.
I just like, I don't know why, I just feel like…
I feel like I'm gonna cry.
Yeah.
Yeah, no, it's a lot.
Yeah.
Ah.
Yeah, it's just a lot.
Definitely like a breath of fresh air was with Pilar.
We go through the same stuff,
so it's just nice to know that I'm not the only one.
So good to meet you.
I just feel like I'm really overwhelmed.
So, yeah. Sorry.
-You're okay. -Yeah.
-So you issued the Ultimatum? -Issued the Ultimatum to my ex. Yeah.
-You guys have been together… -Two and a half years. Yeah.
-It's like the best relationship ever. -Yeah.
Um… But I've started to think about the future more than she has.
Bridget, for some reason,
it's hard for her to make that level of commitment.
It seems like she's so afraid of things going wrong.
-Yeah. -She wants things to be perfect.
I feel like it's made us stuck.
And you were issued the Ultimatum…
I was issued the Ultimatum. We were together for a decade.
That's so long.
She was actually my first girl experience.
-And so… yeah! -Wow.
It was, like, one and done.
I, yeah, I was dating men before.
And it was her experience as well, first girl.
First time.
Is there any worry about like, "We've never been with other people"?
Yeah, 100%. Yeah.
She's all I've ever known, you know,
-so is there this… -Don't know what else is out there.
I don't know what's out there, you know?
-Yeah. -And I'm kind of that personality.
I'm very, like, free-spirited.
-Adventurous. -Really?
Wow. What kind of things do you like to do?
Very much, like, a big hobbyist.
That Haley, you know, sometimes will be like,
"You need to not get another hobby." I'm like, "No, but it's exciting."
"I want to take up glassblowing. I wanna do this."
You'll get along with Bridget. She's the same way.
Yeah, I'm definitely loosening up.
I feel I was really nervous, like, at first,
but honestly, every single date,
it has been more natural, and doesn't feel awkward.
-Hi. -Hi! I'm Pilar.
-Nice to meet you. I'm Bridget. -Nice to meet you.
I don't know what there is outside of Haley,
and so having this experience of going out and spending this time
with other people that are so different from me and our relationship
will ultimately bring us to the path of being together or not.
How old are you?
-I just turned 29. How about you? -Okay. Yeah, 29.
I… want to hear other people's…
why they're either ready or not ready to commit…
-Yeah. -…because I think there are some things
that come with marriage
that I think Kyle really likes the sound of it,
-but maybe isn't sure of what those-- -Mm-hmm. Totally. Yeah.
Nobody really knows what those requirements are until you're married.
I'm also… almost like scared
of the monotony of
-what that looks like, you know? -Yeah, yeah.
-I know, like, keeping things alive-- -Yeah.
I don't know how you already, in such a long relationship,
are able to do that.
I want to still feel, like, that spontaneity…
-Totally. -…and I want to feel, like, wanted,
and I don't want to let those things…
-No, never. -…slide.
And I think, like, with a more routine, steady lifestyle,
I worry that that would slip away.
Yeah, what do you do for work?
Um, I am, like, a creative. So I do freelance writing.
-Dope. -I am an artist, and I work at a bar.
-Oh, dope. -So, I'm cobbling everything together.
It's not like I have like a… secure…
Sometimes I'm rich, sometimes I'm poor.
I can't… I'm not good at saving.
-That's part of the issue. -Yeah, no.
That was funny. When I was speaking to your ex,
she was like, "You remind me of Bridget. You have the same energy."
-I was like, "I'm also, I produce music…" -Yeah, really?
I like side hobbies.
I'm like, there's so much world to live out there, so many things to do.
-I want to blow glass… -Oh my God, I want to do that too.
-I'm down for it. -That's crazy. Me too!
-I heard you do pottery in Glendale. -Yes, yeah.
I'm from Glendale.
Oh, you are! Okay.
-I go to GCC and I do pottery there. -No way!
-Yeah. -So crazy.
I really want to take a ceramics class.
-That's crazy. -Yeah.
Bridget is just so opposite of Haley.
I'd say, physically, Bridget is my type.
She's super cute,
and I wasn't expecting myself to feel, like, nervous.
It was definitely a new feeling.
But then like Kyle is a really attractive girl,
and she's a really vibey person and it was easy to talk to her.
I never thought I would find myself torn between a couple.
So it's definitely like, "Ah, what am I doing?"
-Haley. -Hey.
-How are you? Nice to meet you. -How are you? Nice to meet you. AJ.
-How's it going? -It's going good.
I have to say, your eyes are absolutely gorgeous.
Thank you so much.
I'm having the most fun. I am super excited right now.
And your girl's getting it in right now.
A bit about me, I'm a military brat.
I've literally been to 22 public schools.
-My God. -Two middle schools, one high school.
It definitely taught me how to be, like, a chameleon,
how to be adaptable
-in certain situations. -Yeah.
That's so funny that we're talking and our exes are talking.
No way--
That's wild. I just looked over and I noticed.
Had to pull single AJ out the closet, dust her off a little bit.
-You look great. -Thank you.
-So do you. Here… -Thank you.
Now I'm ready to rock.
How many, like, serious relationships have you had?
-This is the third. -Okay.
I mean, I don't think I'm ugly, but like, at the end of the day…
No, you're not. Definitely not.
Thank you.
But yeah, like, I'm so used to being somebody that jumps into something
-super quick physicality-wise. -Yeah. I am kind of too.
-Really? -Same way. Yeah.
The odds look like they're really in my favor.
I'm single as fuck right now!
Gosh, you're gorgeous.
Wow, thanks! Oh my God, you too!
Super gorge.
God. Don't play, don't start.
So wait, where are you from? Where do you live now?
I live in Orlando.
-Oh! Wow. I live in Orlando. -Yeah.
Really?
-Swear to God. -You lie.
-I swear to God. -Bought a house there.
You bought a house? That seems--
-You were issued the Ultimatum? -I was issued the Ultimatum.
-So you bought a house… -Well, she bought the house.
-Mm. -She's the doer.
It's not a competition.
You know, she was at a place in her life where she didn't have it all,
and when I came in, I just felt like, "Well, I have a lot to give. I can give."
And, um, it got to a point where she was hitting milestones,
and in hitting those milestones,
I didn't really realize, like, I'm kind of…
-Now I'm not the giver. -That's insane that you say that,
and I'm probably gonna cry. Literally, my…
-No, go for it, I'm here. No! -No, we're not crying, no.
-My ex and I… -Talk to me.
…Mel, we opened a business together.
-Okay. -And the food truck was like…
That was her dream,
and it was very much like okay, like, "I love you."
-"Like, I want to see you happy." Exactly. -Support you. Yeah.
I don't know, it's like, at some point,
I feel like it was just a very give, give, give kind of thing.
-Mm. -Like I felt more like I had to be there…
-Yeah. -…more so than like I… wanted to be there.
It's very, um… one-sided.
I feel like my biggest strength is trying to bring out what's the best in you,
and if you can love the things that I love about you,
then you will start to see yourself in how I see you.
You meet me halfway, I promise it's definitely worth it.
You're so sweet. That was very unexpected.
AJ is quite awesome.
See a lot of myself in terms of kind of helping their partner
achieve their goals and kind of getting lost in that motion.
And AJ made me feel very considered,
which is something I personally feel like I lack from Mel.
I would love to see AJ again
and kind of just feed off of that vibe
and that energy that was quite transparent.
Come hug me! Oh my God. I'll see you later.
-All right. You too. -My heart!
-Don't break too many hearts out here. -No, please, no. No, no, no.
Baby, stay a while
It has been very weird seeing my ex, which is also the love of my life,
just sitting there talking to other women.
So tell me about you.
I'm not liking it, to be honest.
And I couldn't help but, like, just see who she's talking to,
and how much fun are they having?
I'm trying to block it out, so I don't focus on that too much.
So, Orlando.
Yeah, we both are from Orlando.
-That's wild. -I know.
This is weird. You live with AJ, right?
-AJ? -Yeah.
I can't believe we've never, like, crossed paths.
-We gotta do the lesbian chart. -Who's your ex? That might be mine too.
I don't know. Yeah.
How did you and your ex meet?
I went up to her. I was just being bold that day.
-Hell yeah! A couple shots in you? -Yeah!
I love that. I like your confidence.
-Thank you. Thank you. -For sure.
It took a while to get here. Um…
-And you got issued the Ultimatum though. -I did.
-Why is that? -I think I'm just nervous.
I'm nervous to, like, once the title's on it, once all that's on it…
-Mm-hmm. -…it might turn sour.
Maybe it's my own fears.
That's probably me talking to myself saying…
So I'm basically here to… hopefully have my mind changed.
My ex and I own a business together, which is… sticky right now.
I am also a business owner.
-Okay, wow, fire. I love this. -Thank you. Thank you.
Are you, like, independent? Do you rely on your ex a lot?
Very self-sufficient. Never needed anyone,
and still don't, necessarily,
but my ex wants to be able to provide
and come to the plate with everything equal,
if not more than what I currently have…
-I understand. -…before marrying.
-You think it's a pride thing, almost? -I think so.
Pride's a big thing for a lot of people.
-So I get that. -Yeah.
Not me siding with your ex on a date with you.
So, what would you say you're looking for in a trial marriage partner?
It has to be somebody driven with work, which you very much described.
I like that they want me but don't need me.
Britney is gorgeous, for sure.
And I think that she is independent,
which is something that is important to me.
Marie and I, it's like, we wake up together at the same time.
We're together all day, we go to sleep together.
Like, I don't like my partner all over me, on top of me at all times.
I think that Britney and I found a lot of common ground.
I feel like we connected. Hopefully she says the same.
-Marita! -Hi!
What's up?
-Oh, not much. Just dating everyone here. -Right.
And so you're in the same boat as me as far as the Ultimatum.
-Yeah. Ashley wants to get married. -Okay.
I just want to make sure the person I do marry is, like, the one for me.
I think I deserve more,
and romantically, I bring a lot to the table.
-I am a hopeless romantic. -Like what?
Like what? What do you bring to the table?
You're talking to a hopeless romantic right now.
I wrote a 98-page story of me and Ashley's relationship.
-Handwritten with pictures. -Ninety-eight pages!?
-I know. Yeah, I hand-wrote it. -That's not a story, girl, that's a novel!
-I know! -Like, what the hell?
What's the most romantic thing you've done?
Well, I'm an MC, and one of the songs that we kind of, like,
melted over, I guess,
I had it redone, like a rendition, through an Orlando R&B artist.
We went to dinner, after dinner I took her to a spot, downtown Orlando,
and he sang it to her.
I asked her to be my girlfriend. After that I took her to a hotel.
Run upstairs really quick, get the bath running,
get the petals going, get the lights lit.
-Stop it! -I swear to you.
Wine, champagne, all that, so…
-Goodness gracious! -Yeah.
I just had ten dates with beautiful women,
and everyone was so individual and their own person.
There was some chemistry and a little bit of sparks with AJ.
Her romantic side aligned with what I'm looking for, so…
we'll see how it goes.
I definitely feel flirty and thriving at this point.
I want you always to have butterflies.
I never want those butterflies to turn into roaches.
That's exactly what I'm looking for.
New dress on, new dress on
I take what I want and I take it all
Who could do right When I feel so wrong?
I take what I want With my new dress on
I just take what I want when I want it
-Hello there. -Hi! You look so good.
You look gorgeous.
I came in this process with Britney, but I'm digging everybody.
Dayna looks hot as shit.
Bridget looks phenomenal, killing it.
Marita's killing it in her brown dress.
She's white chocolate. Giving chocolate vibes.
Pilar looks like the golden ticket you just found out the chocolate bar.
And yeah, I'm a hoochie daddy without the shorts.
I take what I want With my new dress on
I just take what I want…
Here's to finding happiness no matter where it's at.
Lesbians!
Time out. Celebrity crush?
What's yours? Tell us first.
Teyana Taylor. I would throw her around like a rag doll.
I swear to you.
I'd let her throw me around like a rag doll if she wanted.
Reneé Rapp does it for me. I love a big-titty bitch.
Okay, well, I'm definitely not your type.
Lauren Sanderson, definitely there.
-Fletcher. -I just think Fletcher is messy.
Fletcher is messy, but she's still hot. You can't deny that.
-Yeah. -She's just the right amount of gay.
I love it.
I like open the arms.
I know, that's me claiming you right now.
-I'm like… -Yeah.
I'm not mad at it.
Don't hate the player,
-hate the game, baby. -Yeah.
I'm trying to be in the moment with you. I appreciate you and who you are
and how you really tried to get to know me.
I'm just trying to be genuine. I'm trying to be myself.
So, I know at some point you're gonna be the villain in somebody's story. So…
Very true. Great quote.
I'm just trying to be me.
-People take that as they will. -All you really can do. Yeah.
Absolutely.
Oh my God.
Yeah, so… it's just so weird. We're all dating the same people.
And it's okay…
I feel like I'm at some big-ass lesbian, like…
I think the fact that we're all doing this,
like, we're all so brave.
It shows that we really are mature enough to, like, want clarity and want answers.
What I fear most is a little bit of confusion.
Marie and I were together four years before we broke up when we got here.
So, you know, obviously, we all came here with our person
and like we knew what we wanted and we knew, like…
Especially you, like, as the Ultimatum giver,
-it's like… -Yeah, yeah.
…the more that I connect with other people, I get scared.
My favorite movie ever is The Bronx Tale
and they say you get three great loves in your life.
Marie is my second great love.
So it kind of worries me while I'm having all these connections,
and I'm learning about myself, I could leave with someone else.
-Hi, love. -Hey, Boo.
-How are you guys? -We're chilling.
-Want to talk? -Yeah, want to talk?
-Yeah! -Absolutely.
Come on.
Where would you like to go?
-Uh, we can go on these chairs over here. -Okay.
We're gonna take the long way around?
Tonight is pretty wild.
I was the one that was given the Ultimatum from Ashley,
but AJ is a hopeless romantic, and that's exciting to me.
I… I just want to explore that further.
-How are you feeling about us? -I don't know, you make me giddy.
-I'm excited. -Giddy? That's great.
You kind of do.
How are you feeling about us?
I get excited about us.
I get really excited, like, I think that we have a lot to offer each other.
It'd be dangerous to play with some type of fire like this.
But I don't ever want to come out of something with regret.
Yeah. I agree.
If somebody can show me an ounce of romance…
I've been asking for that for three years, and that speaks volumes to me,
and I honestly would be happy to either leave alone
or leave with that person.
With you, I'm, like, blown away. Already.
I don't know if it's the way you say things or the way you look at me.
-I kind of want to see where it goes. -Mm-hmm.
I'm super attracted to you. So I think at the end of day,
it's really what you want to do and how you want to pursue that, so…
Seeing Marita make connections,
it's kind of tough.
The insecurities are coming in. I don't think I'm fully mentally here.
Just kind of having like a rough night tonight.
Okay, so what's going on?
I think I'm just having a hard time opening up.
You just have to be patient with yourself. You're just overthinking it.
I know it's not fun.
It's not fun for me either, I hope you know that.
See, but I don't know, sometimes I feel like I don't know.
You think I'm enjoying seeing you date other people?
It's not that. It's like, I don't know, sometimes I just, like, worry about us.
I worry about us too. But that's why we're here.
-I gave the Ultimatum, you know? -Yeah.
I came here for somebody to choose me.
I just think, with what my insecurities are, I worry about stuff.
I get it, like, it's not normal to experience, like, your partner,
-like, holding hands with someone else. -I know.
I know you, I see you. You're being quiet. You're not talking.
You're making me nervous.
-Want to give me a hug? -What are you drinking?
-I love you. -I love you too.
Something I'm curious about--
Finger guns. What's that? That's weird.
Sorry, you're really funny.
I don't know where that came from.
I'm realizing that Bridget is making connections
with maybe some of the same people that I am.
It's a strange feeling because I want her to find someone that treats her well,
but at the same time I'm jealous of her finding that.
I feel like we relate on so much and we're so similar.
Even Kyle said that.
We'd be good together. But I could really see you with Kyle.
I know that sounds weird to say and I, like, shouldn't say that, but…
What is it that you're looking for intentions-wise?
All my communication that I learned was with Kyle,
so now I want to apply that to something else and see what happens.
But I also want to hear from people like you
-and others who've been in relationships. -Yeah.
We talked a lot about how we're both kind of spontaneous.
-Yeah. -And Kyle's like a creature of routine.
-Of course. -So I feel like in another relationship,
or moving forward, I just want to know
that that spontaneity will still be there and it'll still be alive and all of that.
Yes, yeah, I feel the same way.
Being the way that I am,
you know, we're so similar and then Haley being so logical,
I want to experience what it is to live with someone who's just like me.
I could talk to you forever.
-I know, that's why it's so easy. -I know, it's so easy. Yeah.
I never expected to be in a little love triangle
between Kyle and Bridget.
I could see a trial marriage with either of them.
You're from New York?
-Born in New York. -That blew my mind.
Born in Flatbush, Brooklyn.
That was my stomping ground. Yeah. I was born and raised in Brooklyn.
The J train was my life. You were three stops away from me.
I don't really know the boroughs as much as I should,
but that's only because my parents were really big on "Let's get out of New York,
this is not a breeding ground
-to raise children." -It's not, yeah.
I think I would be a different person if I was raised there.
Yeah, I don't think you would be as lover-y.
Lover-y?
How have you been doing with everything? Are you okay?
I'm okay. It is strange seeing my ex, AJ, a few feet away from me.
I can feel it.
AJ has game, like, she's definitely a flirt.
Something about you caters to a piece of me that I really enjoy.
You definitely make me feel the most comfortable.
I feel like there's a huge dynamic between us.
Clearly.
It's weird to see your partner dating other people.
-It's so weird. -Yeah.
More than anything, I did want to talk to you.
I feel like, out of everyone here, you are my favorite person.
Mel. Come on. I want to talk to you.
What will you use for the spice? Tajín?
You don't like spicy? When I say spicy, I think Tajín.
-I'm sick… that you just said that. -Stop.
It's like a chili liqueur.
Like a chili, okay.
I'm done with you!
Hi, trouble. How are you? How's your night?
Good. How's your night?
It's going. I'm having conversations with people I didn't think I would, so…
I feel really weird.
Especially with my ex two feet away and I have connection with other people.
A lot of it is me getting in my head,
and I'm like, "I'm into this person, but I don't know if they're into me."
I'm gonna do that up until The Choice.
So, I'm into you.
Okay, straightforward.
I think you and I, together, I think you're a challenge,
but I know I'm up for the challenge. So it's like…
Are you, though?
Like, I want to know if you feel like
we can, like, actually learn and grow together.
I gave the Ultimatum because I want to spend the rest of my life with Magan,
but I do have this connection to Mel.
She's confident in who she is.
She knows where she stands with her sexuality and all that.
Magan has struggled in that area. I think that's what like draws me to Mel.
For some reason, I'm stuck on you. So it makes me want to keep trying.
Here's the thing. I'm not playing a game. I'm into you, yes, but…
But that's the first time you said that, just so you know.
I wanna get to know you more.
I want to get to know you more too. You're very intriguing to me.
-How are you doing? -I think I'm just having a hard time.
Yeah. I feel that. Me too. I'm still digesting everything.
-This shit is a lot. -It is a lot. It is a lot.
I'm emotionally fried.
I'm feeling kind of sad.
I feel I don't have a romantic connection with anybody,
but Dayna and Mel are flirting, so it's very triggering.
Man.
Hey.
What's going on?
I could tell there's a lot on your mind.
Even though you're my ex, I still miss you.
Why don't you make it known?
You want to talk?
-I feel so stupid. -Why?
I brought you here, and, like, here I am, like…
Ugh.
I'm trying to be strong, and I'm trying to, like, focus.
-It's just hard, like… -I know.
Hurtin' on the bathroom floor All alone
Look at me. I know you're my ex. I know this is tough.
Pull myself together See the color in my face
-You make it look so easy. -No.
I don't know where this will lead,
and I'm trying to figure out, like, what it is that I need.
If moving forward is an option.
Okay?
So let's just take it day by day, baby. Okay?
-Okay. -Day by day.
My ex making this Ultimatum towards me comes with risk.
If I did answer Britney's Ultimatum without clarity,
then I honestly would have resentment later.
I still don't have answers, so I can't cater to Britney.
If I cater to Britney, I might as well accept the Ultimatum and marry her.
Okay, well enjoy… the experience.
Okay.
Ready to take me down
A shadow of myself taking over me
Shadow of a doubt
Creeping back around The midnight hour
A shadow of myself taking over me
I can't wait a moment longer
My tears, they fall
For you, baby It's a memory
Hey.
What's going on?
You're scaring me. What's going on?
I'm having a hard time
letting you go and saying that I'm single.
Why are we going through this, like, trial marriage?
Why are we going through this dating period? Like…
I just don't know if it's something that I can handle or I want to go through.
Why are you so willing to back out when it's hard?
You want to go through three weeks with somebody?
Yeah.
Here's the thing though. They're not just your roommate.
They are your trial partner.
-Yeah. -Marriage.
So you're gonna be doing marriage things with them.
What are you saying?
I don't know if I can get past certain things
if they were to happen.
-You just want to walk away now? -I'm walking away.
This might be too much for me.
I can't undo your fears
or me.