1 00:00:06,548 --> 00:00:10,093 Bad girls, you're breaking my heart 2 00:00:10,719 --> 00:00:12,846 Never could get over you 3 00:00:14,222 --> 00:00:16,474 Marriage is about love. I don't wanna waste time. 4 00:00:16,558 --> 00:00:19,060 You're it. Let's do this. Either you wanna marry me or you don't. 5 00:00:21,479 --> 00:00:24,357 I'm very ready to get married, and my partner is not, 6 00:00:24,441 --> 00:00:27,485 so I'm open to seeing how someone else 7 00:00:27,569 --> 00:00:30,572 can show that they are willing to choose me 100%. 8 00:00:31,156 --> 00:00:32,907 I think I'm falling in love 9 00:00:32,991 --> 00:00:34,868 At the end of this experience, 10 00:00:34,951 --> 00:00:38,121 I'll either leave here engaged to my partner, 11 00:00:38,204 --> 00:00:39,706 I'll leave here alone, 12 00:00:39,789 --> 00:00:42,417 or I could even leave here with someone else. 13 00:00:46,546 --> 00:00:47,839 Let's go 14 00:00:47,922 --> 00:00:49,382 Go ahead, get nasty 15 00:00:52,385 --> 00:00:54,387 Get the mound wet. 16 00:00:54,471 --> 00:00:58,099 -Your eyes are literally piercing my soul. -Thank you. 17 00:00:58,183 --> 00:01:00,310 Where would you like me to put my dirty fingers? 18 00:01:01,811 --> 00:01:04,272 Tell me 19 00:01:05,231 --> 00:01:07,317 This is all it has to be 20 00:01:07,400 --> 00:01:09,611 This experience has changed my life. 21 00:01:10,195 --> 00:01:13,698 First time in my life… to feel understood. 22 00:01:15,867 --> 00:01:17,744 You are literally exactly what I prayed for. 23 00:01:18,620 --> 00:01:22,123 We know there's a connection between us. We know there's something there. 24 00:01:22,749 --> 00:01:25,752 It's definitely possible to fall in love with two different people. 25 00:01:28,338 --> 00:01:30,548 How can you be in love with somebody else? 26 00:01:31,216 --> 00:01:33,259 My heart is shattered! 27 00:01:33,343 --> 00:01:35,678 You put words in my mouth. 28 00:01:35,762 --> 00:01:36,846 What!? 29 00:01:36,930 --> 00:01:39,182 There's proof that you and Dayna 30 00:01:39,265 --> 00:01:40,183 are fucking. 31 00:01:40,683 --> 00:01:42,185 Lesbians are fucking brutal. 32 00:01:42,268 --> 00:01:44,854 I can't believe I wanted to marry you. 33 00:01:44,938 --> 00:01:46,314 I want romance. 34 00:01:47,816 --> 00:01:49,734 My worst fear was that I was ready 35 00:01:49,818 --> 00:01:52,237 and you were falling in love with someone else. 36 00:01:52,320 --> 00:01:53,321 Now it's happening. 37 00:01:53,988 --> 00:01:55,615 Can we be done? 38 00:01:58,785 --> 00:02:01,454 Take me up 39 00:02:01,538 --> 00:02:04,541 Everything looks better From the top, yeah 40 00:02:04,624 --> 00:02:07,544 I could be getting engaged or leaving here alone 41 00:02:07,627 --> 00:02:08,920 and starting all over. 42 00:02:09,003 --> 00:02:12,298 This will change the course of our lives forever. 43 00:02:12,382 --> 00:02:14,217 It's all come down to right now. 44 00:02:22,308 --> 00:02:26,479 Lost in the world Didn't know what I was looking for 45 00:02:26,563 --> 00:02:30,650 It is so frustrating that AJ is not jumping 46 00:02:30,733 --> 00:02:32,402 at the idea of marrying me. 47 00:02:32,485 --> 00:02:34,612 I've been showing up. I've been that partner. 48 00:02:34,696 --> 00:02:37,323 It does bother me. I'm not gonna lie. 49 00:02:39,576 --> 00:02:42,996 I would like to be married. I want a family. 50 00:02:43,079 --> 00:02:44,998 Hi. It's us. 51 00:02:45,081 --> 00:02:49,294 It feels pretty black-and-white. Marry me or I move on. 52 00:02:49,961 --> 00:02:52,505 No matter what I do 53 00:02:52,589 --> 00:02:56,050 I do think an ultimatum is pretty extreme, 54 00:02:56,134 --> 00:02:57,719 but giving this ultimatum 55 00:02:57,802 --> 00:03:00,013 is going to give me the answers that I need. 56 00:03:00,597 --> 00:03:01,598 Hello. 57 00:03:01,681 --> 00:03:02,974 -Hi. -How's it going? 58 00:03:03,057 --> 00:03:07,770 I am JoAnna Garcia Swisher, and this is The Ultimatum. 59 00:03:08,354 --> 00:03:10,481 You all came here as couples. 60 00:03:10,565 --> 00:03:12,650 One of you is ready for marriage 61 00:03:12,734 --> 00:03:16,070 and the other one of you… maybe not so ready yet. 62 00:03:16,696 --> 00:03:18,781 Britney, you issued AJ the Ultimatum. 63 00:03:18,865 --> 00:03:21,284 Yeah, I'm ready to get married. 64 00:03:21,367 --> 00:03:25,371 I feel like I've always been a very goal-oriented person in my life, 65 00:03:25,455 --> 00:03:28,374 and I'm at the point where I met most of them. 66 00:03:28,458 --> 00:03:30,960 -I love that. Congratulations. -I feel like… thank you. 67 00:03:32,003 --> 00:03:35,632 So, yeah, marriage is honestly the next step. 68 00:03:35,715 --> 00:03:39,385 I tell Britney all the time, it's like, her beauty is just so radiant. 69 00:03:40,178 --> 00:03:43,806 I feel like the stars literally try to combust just trying to compare with you. 70 00:03:43,890 --> 00:03:47,101 I love everything about you, 71 00:03:47,769 --> 00:03:50,730 but I do have a lot of hesitation. 72 00:03:50,813 --> 00:03:53,399 Britney has done a lot in her life. 73 00:03:53,483 --> 00:03:57,445 Putting herself through school, getting her degrees, house, car. 74 00:03:57,528 --> 00:04:03,201 Pushing herself beyond bounds and limits that anybody has ever placed on her. 75 00:04:04,369 --> 00:04:07,288 So someone like this deserves everything. 76 00:04:07,914 --> 00:04:09,499 Before I take the next step, 77 00:04:10,625 --> 00:04:13,086 I just want to be in a position to give her that. 78 00:04:14,045 --> 00:04:19,008 Even though we're in two different places individually… I don't care. 79 00:04:19,092 --> 00:04:20,802 To me, marriage is more about love 80 00:04:20,885 --> 00:04:23,638 and being ready to commit ourselves to each other 81 00:04:23,721 --> 00:04:26,849 versus checking all these boxes and having everything in order. 82 00:04:26,933 --> 00:04:28,226 I feel we can grow with that. 83 00:04:28,309 --> 00:04:31,187 I just deserve someone who's ready to just go all in 84 00:04:31,271 --> 00:04:36,150 regardless of whatever is going on, and I am willing to walk away. 85 00:04:38,569 --> 00:04:41,114 Haley, you issued Pilar the Ultimatum. 86 00:04:41,781 --> 00:04:44,701 I love everything about Pilar. 87 00:04:44,784 --> 00:04:47,412 I love that we can look at each other from across the room 88 00:04:47,495 --> 00:04:50,623 and just one glance and I'm like, "I was thinking the same thing." 89 00:04:51,332 --> 00:04:52,208 Aw. 90 00:04:52,292 --> 00:04:54,794 It's more than a third of our lives together. 91 00:04:55,753 --> 00:04:59,132 There's just no one that knows each other like we know each other. 92 00:04:59,716 --> 00:05:03,011 But I do know that there is one more deeper step that we could take, 93 00:05:03,094 --> 00:05:04,679 and I want it. 94 00:05:07,807 --> 00:05:09,183 There's a lot of emotions. 95 00:05:09,267 --> 00:05:11,060 We got together when we were 18. 96 00:05:11,144 --> 00:05:13,813 You know, I hid my relationship for eight years, 97 00:05:14,397 --> 00:05:18,484 and when I came out to my family, our relationship's never been the same. 98 00:05:18,568 --> 00:05:20,528 And my mother hasn't talked to me since. 99 00:05:21,112 --> 00:05:24,991 I always pictured that wedding, you know, your dad walks you down the aisle, 100 00:05:25,074 --> 00:05:26,284 your family's there. 101 00:05:29,954 --> 00:05:31,956 I don't know if I can give that to you. 102 00:05:35,209 --> 00:05:38,796 If you're not ready, I would be willing to walk away. 103 00:05:42,342 --> 00:05:45,470 I will say, I've lost both my parents in the past couple of years. 104 00:05:45,553 --> 00:05:49,098 The one thing that has, like, resonated with me in my grief 105 00:05:49,182 --> 00:05:53,353 is that the family that I've built, my husband and my children, 106 00:05:53,436 --> 00:05:55,438 is really actually what carries you through. 107 00:05:57,231 --> 00:05:59,942 I'm not in a queer relationship, but I understand 108 00:06:00,026 --> 00:06:02,528 that there are different complications. 109 00:06:02,612 --> 00:06:04,197 The conversations are different. 110 00:06:04,280 --> 00:06:06,741 But at the end of the day, I am an old married woman. 111 00:06:08,701 --> 00:06:12,705 And I do believe in love in every form. 112 00:06:13,581 --> 00:06:14,707 Thank you. 113 00:06:15,291 --> 00:06:18,753 Okay. The terms of the Ultimatum are very clear. 114 00:06:19,462 --> 00:06:21,255 You will either leave here engaged, 115 00:06:21,839 --> 00:06:23,049 alone, 116 00:06:23,132 --> 00:06:25,968 or possibly find love with someone new. 117 00:06:28,471 --> 00:06:30,681 Tonight is your last night together as a couple. 118 00:06:31,724 --> 00:06:35,728 Tomorrow, you will accept the Ultimatum. 119 00:06:36,896 --> 00:06:40,441 You will break up, and you will be exes. 120 00:06:42,068 --> 00:06:45,947 Over the next week, you will date all of your new potential partners, 121 00:06:46,906 --> 00:06:49,659 and that is everyone in this room. 122 00:06:53,663 --> 00:06:56,499 There's gonna be a lot of excitement, a lot of new things happening. 123 00:06:56,582 --> 00:06:59,752 So really focus and really concentrate on the qualities 124 00:06:59,836 --> 00:07:01,587 that you are looking for in a spouse. 125 00:07:01,671 --> 00:07:03,881 Because at the end of the week, 126 00:07:03,965 --> 00:07:06,467 we are all going to meet again at The Choice 127 00:07:06,551 --> 00:07:08,428 and you will each choose a new partner 128 00:07:09,220 --> 00:07:12,682 and you will move in together for three weeks in a trial marriage. 129 00:07:12,765 --> 00:07:15,393 And then at the end of that, you will do it all over again 130 00:07:15,476 --> 00:07:17,270 with the person that you came here with. 131 00:07:18,312 --> 00:07:21,899 Bridget, I looked at your face and I'm like, I need to know what is going on? 132 00:07:21,983 --> 00:07:24,777 I think it's just kind of hitting me and washing over me 133 00:07:24,861 --> 00:07:28,281 that we're living with someone we're meeting tonight for the first time. 134 00:07:34,328 --> 00:07:36,789 We have provided a selection of engagement rings 135 00:07:36,873 --> 00:07:41,377 that you may use if you choose to propose when the Ultimatum comes to term. 136 00:07:42,462 --> 00:07:46,090 It's pretty crazy. Yeah. It's, like, very real. 137 00:07:47,216 --> 00:07:49,886 Take a deep breath because 138 00:07:49,969 --> 00:07:53,306 your lives will forever be changed by this experience. 139 00:07:56,476 --> 00:07:57,435 Here we go. 140 00:07:58,269 --> 00:08:01,105 I will see you all back here in one week 141 00:08:01,189 --> 00:08:02,815 for a very important decision 142 00:08:04,066 --> 00:08:05,067 at The Choice. 143 00:08:06,068 --> 00:08:09,197 Cheers to each of you, and cheers to love. 144 00:08:09,280 --> 00:08:11,073 -Cheers. -Cheers! 145 00:08:11,157 --> 00:08:12,992 -Cheers, guys. -Cheers. 146 00:08:14,535 --> 00:08:17,997 It's time to step outside And introduce yourself 147 00:08:18,080 --> 00:08:20,124 I issued the Ultimatum to Magan but… 148 00:08:20,208 --> 00:08:21,918 if someone's not willing to give you 149 00:08:22,001 --> 00:08:25,755 what someone else is willing to offer, who wouldn't take that instead? 150 00:08:25,838 --> 00:08:28,382 You're thinking all these things, who is my partner gonna like, 151 00:08:28,466 --> 00:08:30,051 who am I gonna like, who'll like me? 152 00:08:30,134 --> 00:08:31,177 It's so weird. 153 00:08:32,261 --> 00:08:33,512 Mel caught my attention. 154 00:08:33,596 --> 00:08:36,182 I do feel like there is, like, a attraction between us. 155 00:08:36,265 --> 00:08:38,267 This is who we are 156 00:08:38,351 --> 00:08:42,271 Come on, let's celebrate 157 00:08:43,940 --> 00:08:45,691 This is who we are 158 00:08:46,400 --> 00:08:50,238 Come on, let's celebrate 159 00:08:51,781 --> 00:08:53,658 This is who we are 160 00:08:54,408 --> 00:08:58,162 Yeah, we were born this way 161 00:08:58,246 --> 00:09:00,206 This is who we are 162 00:09:02,917 --> 00:09:04,001 I know. 163 00:09:04,502 --> 00:09:05,419 Sit with me. 164 00:09:08,923 --> 00:09:11,092 I need to take my shoes off so bad. 165 00:09:12,218 --> 00:09:13,594 My feet are killing me. 166 00:09:14,345 --> 00:09:17,014 -I've been in these for hours. -I can get 'em off. 167 00:09:17,098 --> 00:09:17,932 Thanks. 168 00:09:18,015 --> 00:09:19,976 So what'd you think? 169 00:09:20,059 --> 00:09:21,978 -Um… -Did you think anyone was cute? 170 00:09:24,814 --> 00:09:26,190 How you gonna ask me that? 171 00:09:26,274 --> 00:09:27,650 I can't ask you that? Why? 172 00:09:27,733 --> 00:09:29,610 No, you can ask me that. I mean, I don't think… 173 00:09:30,903 --> 00:09:32,488 Honestly, I don't think anyone's my type. 174 00:09:32,572 --> 00:09:36,826 Do you know who, like, reminded me of you was Pilar and Haley. 175 00:09:36,909 --> 00:09:40,079 I feel like Pilar was in the same, like, scenario as you. 176 00:09:40,162 --> 00:09:42,248 I almost started crying when she was talking. 177 00:09:42,331 --> 00:09:44,041 I feel I've been ready to marry you 178 00:09:44,125 --> 00:09:46,502 like six months after knowing you, honestly. 179 00:09:47,003 --> 00:09:49,338 I come from an Arab household. 180 00:09:49,422 --> 00:09:50,423 I'm Lebanese. 181 00:09:50,506 --> 00:09:51,966 My family doesn't want me with a woman. 182 00:09:52,049 --> 00:09:55,553 In the community, portraying yourself in a certain way is very important. 183 00:09:55,636 --> 00:09:56,971 Nobody's out and proud. 184 00:09:57,763 --> 00:09:59,765 I'm giving Magan the Ultimatum 185 00:09:59,849 --> 00:10:03,894 because I need security that we have a future together. 186 00:10:03,978 --> 00:10:07,231 I want you to take into consideration, we come from different places. 187 00:10:07,315 --> 00:10:10,359 I think it's hard for me because it's like a reality check for me, 188 00:10:10,443 --> 00:10:15,114 like the things that were leading you to an Ultimatum with me… 189 00:10:15,197 --> 00:10:16,657 -Straight up saying like… -Yeah. 190 00:10:16,741 --> 00:10:17,867 "This isn't enough for me, 191 00:10:17,950 --> 00:10:19,619 -I will walk away." -Do you take it serious? 192 00:10:19,702 --> 00:10:21,370 Yes, of course I take it seriously. 193 00:10:22,288 --> 00:10:24,498 -So it's hard. -Do you want to, like, end this together? 194 00:10:24,582 --> 00:10:27,209 Like, do you feel like that's a point you can, like… 195 00:10:27,293 --> 00:10:28,252 -Of course. -…reach? 196 00:10:28,336 --> 00:10:29,253 Of course. 197 00:10:29,337 --> 00:10:32,006 I'm gonna try my hardest because I do want to be with you. 198 00:10:32,089 --> 00:10:34,425 My whole life changed since dating you. 199 00:10:34,508 --> 00:10:37,053 It's been literally the best thing that's ever happened to me. 200 00:10:37,136 --> 00:10:41,057 But I also, like, have my own set of circumstances, and it's like… 201 00:10:41,140 --> 00:10:44,977 while I do want to 100% change where I'm at 202 00:10:45,603 --> 00:10:51,067 in a family perspective, I also want to know, like… how fast the change is. 203 00:10:51,150 --> 00:10:53,527 What I come up with and then I present to you 204 00:10:54,111 --> 00:10:57,531 is gonna be honest and then, you know, you can decide whether 205 00:10:58,074 --> 00:11:00,409 that's enough for you. And if not, like, I respect it. 206 00:11:00,493 --> 00:11:03,579 I feel like I've put you first a lot in my life, 207 00:11:03,663 --> 00:11:04,664 like since I met you. 208 00:11:04,747 --> 00:11:07,458 You've always, like, trumped everything and everyone. 209 00:11:07,541 --> 00:11:09,460 So, like, I want to feel the same. 210 00:11:10,044 --> 00:11:12,922 I don't want to feel I should question myself because you do. 211 00:11:13,005 --> 00:11:14,382 I just want you to be brave. 212 00:11:14,465 --> 00:11:17,718 You're so confident in so many areas of your life, you're overly confident. 213 00:11:17,802 --> 00:11:23,849 So it's like I want you to have that behavior, like "F you," in this. 214 00:11:25,393 --> 00:11:26,977 -I love you. -I know. I love you. 215 00:11:27,478 --> 00:11:32,191 If she can't stand up to her parents and demand respect, 216 00:11:32,274 --> 00:11:33,776 I will absolutely walk away. 217 00:11:35,152 --> 00:11:37,279 Beautiful 218 00:11:40,491 --> 00:11:43,077 Beautiful 219 00:11:43,160 --> 00:11:45,371 What do you want to drink? 220 00:11:45,454 --> 00:11:46,414 -Champagne. -Okay. 221 00:11:47,415 --> 00:11:49,458 Wow. Unexpected. 222 00:11:50,209 --> 00:11:52,378 We met on a dating app. 223 00:11:52,461 --> 00:11:54,463 I'd just moved to LA. 224 00:11:54,547 --> 00:11:56,757 My first weekend there, we went on our first date. 225 00:11:56,841 --> 00:11:58,759 We hung out about five times that week. 226 00:11:58,843 --> 00:11:59,927 Yeah, we did. 227 00:12:00,010 --> 00:12:04,014 I remember, when we left each other on Saturday, 228 00:12:04,098 --> 00:12:05,850 -we made plans immediately for Tuesday… -Yeah. 229 00:12:05,933 --> 00:12:08,060 …but then the next day you texted me and you were like, 230 00:12:08,144 --> 00:12:11,105 "Tuesday feels really far away." I was like, "I was thinking the same." 231 00:12:11,188 --> 00:12:14,191 So we saw each other the next day and then again on Tuesday 232 00:12:14,275 --> 00:12:16,527 -and pretty much the rest of the week. -Yeah. 233 00:12:16,610 --> 00:12:18,070 And so on. 234 00:12:19,697 --> 00:12:21,949 You know, we've talked about what I see in the future, 235 00:12:22,032 --> 00:12:24,285 and you know that marriage is… 236 00:12:26,203 --> 00:12:30,833 an important part of that, so… I am issuing you an ultimatum. 237 00:12:32,376 --> 00:12:35,546 This is something that I realized that I wanted. 238 00:12:35,629 --> 00:12:37,256 Being with you helped that. 239 00:12:38,174 --> 00:12:40,426 And so it sucks that you're not there. 240 00:12:41,802 --> 00:12:48,017 I don't want to do something that I'm not totally behind. 241 00:12:51,145 --> 00:12:53,355 If it were just up to my heart, I would do it. 242 00:12:53,439 --> 00:12:57,985 I know, and that's, I think, why… we're here. 243 00:12:58,861 --> 00:12:59,737 Because… 244 00:13:00,905 --> 00:13:04,366 -I just think you want me to just jump… -Your mind is getting in the way. 245 00:13:05,075 --> 00:13:07,077 I'm not asking for that. 246 00:13:07,161 --> 00:13:09,997 I just feel like you're not even open to the idea. 247 00:13:10,080 --> 00:13:13,042 It's hard for me to see how the level of commitment 248 00:13:13,125 --> 00:13:15,002 I've already given you isn't enough. 249 00:13:15,586 --> 00:13:18,881 I love Kyle, and I can't imagine my life without her. 250 00:13:18,964 --> 00:13:20,800 She adds so much to it. 251 00:13:20,883 --> 00:13:25,930 But marriage, it was never something that I thought was super important to me. 252 00:13:26,013 --> 00:13:28,224 I don't ever want to do it just to do it, 253 00:13:28,307 --> 00:13:30,893 and I just feel like I'm already showing up 254 00:13:30,976 --> 00:13:32,978 and I'm already really committed. 255 00:13:33,062 --> 00:13:35,773 I don't really know what marriage would add to that. 256 00:13:36,398 --> 00:13:40,194 I think I want to understand better, like, why it's so important to you. 257 00:13:41,487 --> 00:13:44,114 If it matters that much to you, it must be pretty different 258 00:13:44,198 --> 00:13:46,492 than just being… girlfriends. 259 00:13:46,575 --> 00:13:51,038 I want you to realize, like, how serious I take our relationship. 260 00:13:51,121 --> 00:13:54,291 It's something that I picture in my future. 261 00:13:54,375 --> 00:13:56,585 I want to, like, show my family 262 00:13:56,669 --> 00:13:59,547 that I have a partner that I'm committed to. 263 00:14:12,935 --> 00:14:16,397 I just hope you realize how, like, important this is to me 264 00:14:16,480 --> 00:14:19,483 and how important… you are to me. 265 00:14:19,567 --> 00:14:20,401 Yeah. 266 00:14:21,318 --> 00:14:22,152 I know. 267 00:14:24,280 --> 00:14:30,286 If this experience can't really shift my perspective, 268 00:14:30,369 --> 00:14:33,330 then… I don't know what can. 269 00:14:34,582 --> 00:14:39,962 But I know this won't last long 270 00:14:40,838 --> 00:14:42,089 I'm on the outside 271 00:14:42,172 --> 00:14:46,010 Why're you following me down? 272 00:14:46,093 --> 00:14:48,929 I want to break out 273 00:14:49,013 --> 00:14:55,102 You were the one who overcome 274 00:14:55,185 --> 00:14:57,104 I feel like nothing set in 'til tonight. 275 00:14:58,355 --> 00:14:59,189 I know. 276 00:15:00,024 --> 00:15:02,192 You know, I'm giving you this Ultimatum 277 00:15:02,276 --> 00:15:04,945 -because I want to marry you. I really do. -Aw. 278 00:15:05,029 --> 00:15:07,364 You're like a rare find in the world. 279 00:15:09,408 --> 00:15:12,369 But you just have, like, wandering eyes all the time. 280 00:15:12,911 --> 00:15:14,830 I don't understand it. 281 00:15:16,540 --> 00:15:18,459 My wandering eyes are only because, like, 282 00:15:18,542 --> 00:15:20,628 I'm trying to figure out what's best for me 283 00:15:20,711 --> 00:15:24,423 and, like, if staying in this relationship means I feel empty, 284 00:15:24,506 --> 00:15:26,342 then I am curious. 285 00:15:26,425 --> 00:15:28,886 I mean, it's normal to be curious about… 286 00:15:30,971 --> 00:15:31,972 Well, I know, but… 287 00:15:32,056 --> 00:15:35,684 Other relation… Like, I'm not getting the love that I need. 288 00:15:38,729 --> 00:15:42,608 I feel like I've given my entire heart and soul to you, 289 00:15:42,691 --> 00:15:47,029 and for you… to not really see that 290 00:15:47,112 --> 00:15:48,489 or feel it… 291 00:15:48,572 --> 00:15:51,200 -Honey, I do. -Or appreciate it, like, I just… 292 00:15:51,283 --> 00:15:54,578 -You know I love you, you know I'm-- -I know. 293 00:15:54,662 --> 00:16:00,250 You have a huge heart, and I do appreciate and love everything that you give me. 294 00:16:01,418 --> 00:16:04,755 I think that there's more that you could do. 295 00:16:05,506 --> 00:16:09,635 You know, I reach for the stars and, like, you know me, I overdo everything. 296 00:16:09,718 --> 00:16:11,220 I know, that's where it's tough. 297 00:16:11,303 --> 00:16:14,306 And that's what I want from you before we get married. 298 00:16:16,225 --> 00:16:20,187 It's just hard sometimes, like, I feel like I'm doing enough. 299 00:16:20,270 --> 00:16:26,944 Okay, baby. Well, I mean, we're just gonna have to… see how it goes individually. 300 00:16:27,027 --> 00:16:30,906 You do know and realize, like, what's at stake, right? 301 00:16:31,573 --> 00:16:32,574 Yeah. 302 00:16:32,658 --> 00:16:38,831 If you feel like you can't marry me, I am ready to just… walk away from this. 303 00:16:40,207 --> 00:16:44,878 My heart is breaking We've gotta face it 304 00:16:44,962 --> 00:16:48,132 I'm asking one last time 305 00:16:48,215 --> 00:16:50,300 What would you do for love? 306 00:16:52,720 --> 00:16:55,055 What would you do for love? 307 00:16:55,639 --> 00:16:56,473 Love 308 00:16:56,557 --> 00:17:01,311 I am issuing you this Ultimatum, but the anxiety is real. 309 00:17:03,522 --> 00:17:05,023 I'm hoping everyone's nice. 310 00:17:08,110 --> 00:17:10,070 -You know? -So you're excited to date? 311 00:17:10,154 --> 00:17:12,614 I'm excited to… mingle. 312 00:17:12,698 --> 00:17:14,992 I feel like that's where I'm at right now. 313 00:17:15,075 --> 00:17:16,076 Dating to marry. 314 00:17:17,911 --> 00:17:20,164 You helped me pick my bathing suits out so… 315 00:17:20,914 --> 00:17:23,333 That's the worst part. You'll be three feet away from me 316 00:17:23,417 --> 00:17:25,002 in the bathing suit I picked. 317 00:17:25,085 --> 00:17:27,379 -Like… -Oh, goodness. 318 00:17:35,095 --> 00:17:37,598 Can you believe yesterday was our four years? 319 00:17:37,681 --> 00:17:39,767 No shit. Four years. 320 00:17:39,850 --> 00:17:41,101 Four years! 321 00:17:41,185 --> 00:17:44,855 I honestly… I had never seen myself with anybody for four years, 322 00:17:44,938 --> 00:17:48,776 so the fact that it's you and the fact that it's us, it made me really happy. 323 00:17:48,859 --> 00:17:52,112 But also I think that the past few years, 324 00:17:52,196 --> 00:17:55,908 being that our food truck shares our anniversary, 325 00:17:55,991 --> 00:17:58,327 it's something that we've overlooked a little bit. 326 00:17:58,410 --> 00:18:00,621 It overshadows. It absolutely does, like… 327 00:18:01,497 --> 00:18:05,626 And maybe that's, like, a big part of why I feel so 328 00:18:05,709 --> 00:18:08,462 put… to the side. 329 00:18:08,545 --> 00:18:11,131 -Is that why this is so important to you? -For sure. 330 00:18:11,215 --> 00:18:12,758 That you have the title and the… 331 00:18:12,841 --> 00:18:15,886 For sure. I want to start a family and… 332 00:18:17,054 --> 00:18:19,264 have the finality of it all. 333 00:18:21,892 --> 00:18:26,230 In the back of my head, I have this, "She gave me an Ultimatum, 334 00:18:26,313 --> 00:18:29,691 like this is, it's now or never. It's do or die." 335 00:18:31,485 --> 00:18:33,695 And then it's like, at the same time… 336 00:18:35,155 --> 00:18:40,369 I feel like I'm so strong-minded and so willed as to what I want 337 00:18:40,452 --> 00:18:44,832 that it's just hard to fight… Like, the two are always clashing in my head. 338 00:18:45,332 --> 00:18:49,962 I don't want marriage, and I don't want kids, 339 00:18:50,045 --> 00:18:55,175 mostly because I have a really big fear of just fucking it all up. 340 00:18:55,259 --> 00:18:59,596 When I grew up, I didn't really see around me a successful, happy marriage. 341 00:19:00,305 --> 00:19:02,850 I had four different women in my life that I called Mom. 342 00:19:02,933 --> 00:19:05,185 As soon as the relationship ended or something went wrong, 343 00:19:05,269 --> 00:19:06,562 they were never heard from again. 344 00:19:07,354 --> 00:19:13,193 Separating is very scary and very real, but I… would leave. 345 00:19:13,777 --> 00:19:16,738 Will I be able to work with you at the food truck anymore? 346 00:19:16,822 --> 00:19:19,992 Everything will change. Will I have to get a different job? 347 00:19:22,119 --> 00:19:25,455 Today could be the start of me building a history with somebody else. 348 00:19:30,627 --> 00:19:31,753 Right? 349 00:19:34,506 --> 00:19:38,260 And never again will I Give it away like I did 350 00:19:38,343 --> 00:19:40,053 Give you my heart like I did 351 00:19:40,137 --> 00:19:41,638 Yeah, totally absurd. 352 00:19:51,190 --> 00:19:52,441 -Mm. -I love you. 353 00:19:56,904 --> 00:19:58,864 This is really happening. 354 00:20:00,032 --> 00:20:03,035 Is there anything that makes you scared to marry me? 355 00:20:04,161 --> 00:20:05,454 I don't have fear. 356 00:20:05,537 --> 00:20:08,957 I feel like I could marry you tomorrow and I'd be completely okay with that. 357 00:20:12,002 --> 00:20:16,215 I'm afraid of not being, like, a knight in shining armor, like… 358 00:20:17,841 --> 00:20:19,801 That one day you'll wake up 359 00:20:21,094 --> 00:20:25,474 and not see me as the person that you love anymore. 360 00:20:27,017 --> 00:20:30,395 As you know, my parents have been married for 30 plus years. 361 00:20:31,396 --> 00:20:36,485 And… watching their love… grow 362 00:20:36,568 --> 00:20:39,613 and just all, like, the love that they show, 363 00:20:40,280 --> 00:20:43,367 it's always everything that I've always wanted in a partner. 364 00:20:44,826 --> 00:20:48,080 Whoever I marry, it has to be the right one. 365 00:20:53,418 --> 00:20:59,007 I guess this is a very concentrated way of figuring out what's best for us. 366 00:21:02,177 --> 00:21:04,846 Do you think you can fall for someone else? 367 00:21:05,889 --> 00:21:10,310 There is a chance that you or I could fall in love with someone else. 368 00:21:16,316 --> 00:21:18,277 Like, I brought us here because I want you, 369 00:21:18,360 --> 00:21:21,446 and now I'm losing you to hopefully gain you forever. 370 00:21:23,448 --> 00:21:28,370 Listen, do you miss me Do you miss me at all? 371 00:21:29,121 --> 00:21:32,332 I just hope that me bringing you here wasn't a mistake. 372 00:21:33,792 --> 00:21:34,626 Yeah. 373 00:21:40,382 --> 00:21:45,220 Me and AJ live together. We have fur babies, our families are merged. 374 00:21:46,013 --> 00:21:49,808 I am scared. There is a lot to lose in this experience. 375 00:21:50,309 --> 00:21:51,810 But then there is a lot to gain. 376 00:21:51,893 --> 00:21:54,855 I deserve someone who's ready now to get married. 377 00:21:54,938 --> 00:21:58,692 I want that assertiveness. I want that sureness. 378 00:21:59,318 --> 00:22:01,528 -You have everything? -I got everything. 379 00:22:02,112 --> 00:22:04,281 -Are you okay? Yeah? -Yeah. I will be. 380 00:22:04,364 --> 00:22:05,198 Yeah. 381 00:22:06,241 --> 00:22:07,367 I love you so much. 382 00:22:07,451 --> 00:22:11,330 See Promise I can almost see 383 00:22:11,830 --> 00:22:14,624 Tell me that you'll never leave 384 00:22:14,708 --> 00:22:15,542 I love you. 385 00:22:19,338 --> 00:22:23,550 Oh 386 00:22:23,633 --> 00:22:26,470 Here we go 387 00:22:26,553 --> 00:22:29,014 It's just begun 388 00:22:29,598 --> 00:22:31,975 The best is yet to come 389 00:22:32,059 --> 00:22:34,603 I just hope that we don't necessarily lose each other. 390 00:22:34,686 --> 00:22:35,687 But if that happens, 391 00:22:37,272 --> 00:22:39,566 it better be for a damn good reason. 392 00:22:40,317 --> 00:22:41,693 Five, six, seven, eight 393 00:22:41,777 --> 00:22:45,280 H-O-T-T-O-G-O 394 00:22:45,364 --> 00:22:48,658 You can take me hot to go 395 00:22:48,742 --> 00:22:52,662 H-O-T-T-O-G-O 396 00:22:52,746 --> 00:22:55,832 You can take me hot to go 397 00:22:55,916 --> 00:22:59,086 It's pretty crazy to think on my first day being single in ten years, 398 00:22:59,169 --> 00:23:01,463 I'm gonna be going on ten different dates. 399 00:23:01,546 --> 00:23:02,756 -What's up? -I will say, 400 00:23:02,839 --> 00:23:04,341 you are my most handsomest date… 401 00:23:04,925 --> 00:23:06,510 Back at you, baby. 402 00:23:06,593 --> 00:23:09,805 Baby, don't you like this beat? 403 00:23:09,888 --> 00:23:13,183 I made it so you'd sleep with me 404 00:23:13,266 --> 00:23:15,060 -Nice to meet you. -You are gorgeous. 405 00:23:15,143 --> 00:23:17,771 You are gorgeous as well. Oh my goodness. 406 00:23:17,854 --> 00:23:19,147 H-O-T-T-O-G-O 407 00:23:19,231 --> 00:23:21,274 Snap and clap and touch your toes 408 00:23:21,358 --> 00:23:22,442 H-O-T-T-O-G-O 409 00:23:22,526 --> 00:23:25,362 I am in this thong-kini. 410 00:23:25,445 --> 00:23:26,571 My whole booty is out. 411 00:23:26,655 --> 00:23:29,241 There's a bunch of single women around me, so I'm excited! 412 00:23:29,324 --> 00:23:31,785 -You're single! So am I! -I know! 413 00:23:32,369 --> 00:23:35,622 What's it take to get your number? What's it take to bring you home? 414 00:23:35,705 --> 00:23:38,250 Ashley gave me the Ultimatum, and it's gonna be weird 415 00:23:38,333 --> 00:23:40,377 to see Ashley talk to other women, 416 00:23:40,460 --> 00:23:43,630 but I'm just excited to be dating again. 417 00:23:43,713 --> 00:23:46,341 H-O-T-T-O-G-O 418 00:23:46,425 --> 00:23:49,636 -You're a hopeless romantic, right? -I am a hopeless romantic. 419 00:23:49,719 --> 00:23:51,346 Tell me your perfect date. 420 00:23:51,429 --> 00:23:53,723 I think there should be a little scavenger hunt. 421 00:23:53,807 --> 00:23:57,436 I feel like my brain is so scattered that I would have to leave notes for myself 422 00:23:57,519 --> 00:23:59,938 to remember where I put them for you. 423 00:24:00,021 --> 00:24:02,732 I'm looking for someone to show me the love and romance 424 00:24:02,816 --> 00:24:05,652 that I've given to the girls that I've loved in the past. 425 00:24:05,735 --> 00:24:08,113 The romantic antics that I do for my partners. 426 00:24:08,196 --> 00:24:10,574 Like, I feel like it's a cry for help. 427 00:24:10,657 --> 00:24:12,993 -Like, I want that. -Yeah. I'm not that kind of person. 428 00:24:13,076 --> 00:24:16,621 I… think I deserve more. 429 00:24:17,205 --> 00:24:21,042 I woke up this morning just, like, optimistic and happy. 430 00:24:21,126 --> 00:24:23,795 So, just excited to get to know the other women. 431 00:24:24,296 --> 00:24:26,339 Ooh, hello, who's there? 432 00:24:26,423 --> 00:24:28,925 Magan's gonna be pissed when she sees this swimsuit. 433 00:24:29,509 --> 00:24:32,179 When we were packing, she was like, "None of those." 434 00:24:32,262 --> 00:24:35,056 I'm gonna pretend she's not there. I don't even know that girl. 435 00:24:35,140 --> 00:24:37,309 -I'm Mel. -Nice to meet you. I'm Dayna. 436 00:24:37,392 --> 00:24:38,894 -Dayna? That sounds scary. -Yeah. 437 00:24:38,977 --> 00:24:41,480 -Why? -Daynas are trouble! 438 00:24:41,563 --> 00:24:42,981 I've never heard that in my life. 439 00:24:43,064 --> 00:24:44,983 That's 'cause you're a Dayna. They can't tell you. 440 00:24:45,609 --> 00:24:48,153 Okay. So is your full name Melanie? 441 00:24:48,236 --> 00:24:51,114 Oh! Close. Mel is short for, obviously Melissa, 442 00:24:51,198 --> 00:24:53,783 but also melodrama, 'cause I'm just so dramatic all the time. 443 00:24:53,867 --> 00:24:54,868 -Really? -Yeah. 444 00:24:54,951 --> 00:24:58,079 Are you, like, sensitive dramatic or are you, like, sassy dramatic? 445 00:24:58,163 --> 00:24:59,539 No, I'm like the, 446 00:24:59,623 --> 00:25:03,084 if you stand me in the sun for 10 minutes, I'll be like, "I'm gonna die here." 447 00:25:03,168 --> 00:25:05,837 -Oh, cry baby. Oh, okay. -Shut up! No. Okay. 448 00:25:05,921 --> 00:25:08,548 -So your ex is… Magan? -Magan. 449 00:25:08,632 --> 00:25:11,384 -Okay. And you issued? Right? -I issued the Ultimatum. Yeah. 450 00:25:11,468 --> 00:25:13,803 Yeah, what are you looking for with that? Like, what are you… 451 00:25:13,887 --> 00:25:17,933 I need the security that, like, you are like 100% like ready 452 00:25:18,016 --> 00:25:20,227 -to go all the way there with me. -Okay. 453 00:25:20,310 --> 00:25:24,189 She comes from a family that, being who she is, being gay, 454 00:25:24,272 --> 00:25:26,942 being out, being proud, is just not okay. 455 00:25:27,025 --> 00:25:33,198 And I don't know that she's ever gonna get the ability to truly commit to this life 456 00:25:33,281 --> 00:25:36,534 without, you know, sacrificing her family. 457 00:25:36,618 --> 00:25:39,204 -So, like, I need to know. -Right. You would make her choose? 458 00:25:39,287 --> 00:25:41,831 I want her to choose between herself and being who she is 459 00:25:41,915 --> 00:25:43,708 -and the people holding her back. -Right. 460 00:25:43,792 --> 00:25:46,336 What's your family like? Is your family supportive? 461 00:25:46,419 --> 00:25:47,837 I'm not close with my family at all. 462 00:25:47,921 --> 00:25:50,674 I have my chosen family who I am very close with. 463 00:25:50,757 --> 00:25:53,301 And you're okay with… that? 464 00:25:53,385 --> 00:25:56,471 Yeah, I've been… I lived on my own since I'm 16. So… 465 00:25:56,554 --> 00:25:58,723 Oh my God. I know you were issued the Ultimatum. 466 00:25:58,807 --> 00:25:59,641 I was. 467 00:25:59,724 --> 00:26:02,978 My ex is in the same boat where she wants the commitment, 468 00:26:03,061 --> 00:26:05,313 but for me, I'm scared of that. 469 00:26:05,397 --> 00:26:06,439 What are you scared of? 470 00:26:06,523 --> 00:26:08,483 Everything you say when you get married. 471 00:26:09,234 --> 00:26:11,361 "In sickness and health. For rich or for poor." 472 00:26:11,444 --> 00:26:13,280 That's all the shit that scares me. 473 00:26:13,363 --> 00:26:15,073 But I definitely bring security. 474 00:26:15,156 --> 00:26:17,075 -I'm a realist. Like, I'll be like… -Same. 475 00:26:17,158 --> 00:26:18,660 I'm so like real about everything. 476 00:26:18,743 --> 00:26:21,162 I feel like you remind me of myself. 477 00:26:21,246 --> 00:26:22,664 -Really? -I don't know why. 478 00:26:22,747 --> 00:26:25,250 Mel has a lot of the qualities I desire. 479 00:26:25,333 --> 00:26:28,378 She gives me the, like, confident, 480 00:26:28,461 --> 00:26:31,840 real person that, like, I kind of feel like I would go for. 481 00:26:32,591 --> 00:26:34,759 And I think Magan's so different in that aspect 482 00:26:34,843 --> 00:26:37,262 where she cares so much more about how other people 483 00:26:37,345 --> 00:26:38,555 are gonna feel about her. 484 00:26:38,638 --> 00:26:40,432 -How are you? -How's it going? I'm Pilar. 485 00:26:40,515 --> 00:26:42,726 -I'm Magan, nice to meet you. -Magan, nice to meet you. 486 00:26:42,809 --> 00:26:47,230 I just refuse to stay in this waiting game of expecting people 487 00:26:47,314 --> 00:26:51,234 to accept her or us when she hasn't demanded that. 488 00:26:51,318 --> 00:26:53,737 Like, I know what I came here for. 489 00:26:53,820 --> 00:26:56,865 Something's got to be worth it for me to, like, make a change. 490 00:26:56,948 --> 00:26:58,950 I've never really been without Dayna. 491 00:26:59,492 --> 00:27:02,412 So like, breaking up is just a weird concept for me to grasp. 492 00:27:03,163 --> 00:27:08,043 I feel like I do have a bit of jealousy with Dayna dating other people. 493 00:27:08,126 --> 00:27:10,420 Like, I'm just trying to feel everything out, 494 00:27:10,503 --> 00:27:12,464 and it's hard to do that right now. 495 00:27:12,547 --> 00:27:14,341 I know you have family stuff going on. 496 00:27:14,924 --> 00:27:17,135 I'm half Nicaraguan, half Filipino. 497 00:27:17,218 --> 00:27:19,554 -Very conservative, very Catholic. -Oh. 498 00:27:19,638 --> 00:27:21,848 Yeah, and no one's gay. 499 00:27:21,931 --> 00:27:23,266 Yeah, I know how it is. It's hard. 500 00:27:23,350 --> 00:27:26,519 Going here and, you know, being issued the Ultimatum, like, I… 501 00:27:26,603 --> 00:27:28,772 -Feel like it's a double whammy? -Yeah, exactly. 502 00:27:28,855 --> 00:27:31,441 It's like, you're trying and, boom, you got slapped with… 503 00:27:31,524 --> 00:27:35,028 Sometimes I feel like Dayna is pressuring me to make a decision. 504 00:27:35,111 --> 00:27:36,029 A hundred percent. 505 00:27:36,112 --> 00:27:38,323 I'm constantly trying to please everyone. 506 00:27:38,406 --> 00:27:40,241 -Trying to please my partner, my family. -Yes. 507 00:27:40,325 --> 00:27:42,369 -No, yeah. -It's like, what do you do? 508 00:27:42,452 --> 00:27:44,996 It took me eight years to come out to my family. 509 00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:46,998 It's been three years they haven't spoken to me. 510 00:27:47,082 --> 00:27:48,083 -Really? -Yeah. 511 00:27:48,750 --> 00:27:50,251 Do you feel like, with marriage, 512 00:27:50,335 --> 00:27:53,254 -it's the publicity of the marriage? -Yeah, 100%. 513 00:27:53,338 --> 00:27:56,132 -That's how you feel? -Yeah. I feel like I'm very committed. 514 00:27:56,216 --> 00:28:00,345 We have a dog, you know, we live together… that next step… 515 00:28:00,428 --> 00:28:04,349 You know, I just feel I don't want to take this baggage with me into a marriage, 516 00:28:04,432 --> 00:28:07,477 and it's not that I don't love her, obviously, you know. 517 00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:09,187 It's just I feel right now I need to… 518 00:28:09,270 --> 00:28:11,231 -It's also not fair for her too. -Yeah. 519 00:28:11,314 --> 00:28:12,732 -That's how I feel. -Yeah. 520 00:28:13,358 --> 00:28:15,902 Then I feel more guilty that I'm not brave enough 521 00:28:16,653 --> 00:28:18,655 to be that person. 522 00:28:21,741 --> 00:28:24,077 I just like, I don't know why, I just feel like… 523 00:28:24,786 --> 00:28:26,121 I feel like I'm gonna cry. 524 00:28:27,122 --> 00:28:27,997 Yeah. 525 00:28:29,916 --> 00:28:31,209 Yeah, no, it's a lot. 526 00:28:31,292 --> 00:28:32,127 Yeah. 527 00:28:39,926 --> 00:28:41,177 Ah. 528 00:28:41,261 --> 00:28:42,637 Yeah, it's just a lot. 529 00:28:44,472 --> 00:28:47,183 Definitely like a breath of fresh air was with Pilar. 530 00:28:47,267 --> 00:28:48,601 We go through the same stuff, 531 00:28:48,685 --> 00:28:51,521 so it's just nice to know that I'm not the only one. 532 00:28:52,856 --> 00:28:53,982 So good to meet you. 533 00:28:54,065 --> 00:28:56,317 I just feel like I'm really overwhelmed. 534 00:28:56,401 --> 00:28:58,653 So, yeah. Sorry. 535 00:28:58,736 --> 00:28:59,988 -You're okay. -Yeah. 536 00:29:01,906 --> 00:29:06,953 -So you issued the Ultimatum? -Issued the Ultimatum to my ex. Yeah. 537 00:29:07,036 --> 00:29:10,206 -You guys have been together… -Two and a half years. Yeah. 538 00:29:10,290 --> 00:29:12,542 -It's like the best relationship ever. -Yeah. 539 00:29:12,625 --> 00:29:15,795 Um… But I've started to think about the future more than she has. 540 00:29:15,879 --> 00:29:17,630 Bridget, for some reason, 541 00:29:17,714 --> 00:29:20,592 it's hard for her to make that level of commitment. 542 00:29:20,675 --> 00:29:23,219 It seems like she's so afraid of things going wrong. 543 00:29:23,303 --> 00:29:25,096 -Yeah. -She wants things to be perfect. 544 00:29:25,180 --> 00:29:26,639 I feel like it's made us stuck. 545 00:29:26,723 --> 00:29:28,683 And you were issued the Ultimatum… 546 00:29:28,766 --> 00:29:32,979 I was issued the Ultimatum. We were together for a decade. 547 00:29:33,062 --> 00:29:34,230 That's so long. 548 00:29:34,314 --> 00:29:36,483 She was actually my first girl experience. 549 00:29:36,566 --> 00:29:38,318 -And so… yeah! -Wow. 550 00:29:38,401 --> 00:29:40,236 It was, like, one and done. 551 00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:43,823 I, yeah, I was dating men before. 552 00:29:43,907 --> 00:29:46,993 And it was her experience as well, first girl. 553 00:29:47,076 --> 00:29:47,911 First time. 554 00:29:47,994 --> 00:29:51,247 Is there any worry about like, "We've never been with other people"? 555 00:29:51,331 --> 00:29:52,874 Yeah, 100%. Yeah. 556 00:29:52,957 --> 00:29:54,542 She's all I've ever known, you know, 557 00:29:54,626 --> 00:29:56,669 -so is there this… -Don't know what else is out there. 558 00:29:56,753 --> 00:29:58,797 I don't know what's out there, you know? 559 00:29:58,880 --> 00:30:00,882 -Yeah. -And I'm kind of that personality. 560 00:30:00,965 --> 00:30:02,634 I'm very, like, free-spirited. 561 00:30:02,717 --> 00:30:03,551 -Adventurous. -Really? 562 00:30:03,635 --> 00:30:05,678 Wow. What kind of things do you like to do? 563 00:30:05,762 --> 00:30:08,014 Very much, like, a big hobbyist. 564 00:30:08,097 --> 00:30:10,099 That Haley, you know, sometimes will be like, 565 00:30:10,183 --> 00:30:13,019 "You need to not get another hobby." I'm like, "No, but it's exciting." 566 00:30:13,102 --> 00:30:15,355 "I want to take up glassblowing. I wanna do this." 567 00:30:15,438 --> 00:30:17,357 You'll get along with Bridget. She's the same way. 568 00:30:18,399 --> 00:30:20,401 Yeah, I'm definitely loosening up. 569 00:30:20,485 --> 00:30:22,654 I feel I was really nervous, like, at first, 570 00:30:22,737 --> 00:30:23,988 but honestly, every single date, 571 00:30:24,072 --> 00:30:27,283 it has been more natural, and doesn't feel awkward. 572 00:30:27,367 --> 00:30:28,785 -Hi. -Hi! I'm Pilar. 573 00:30:28,868 --> 00:30:30,870 -Nice to meet you. I'm Bridget. -Nice to meet you. 574 00:30:30,954 --> 00:30:33,831 I don't know what there is outside of Haley, 575 00:30:33,915 --> 00:30:38,169 and so having this experience of going out and spending this time 576 00:30:38,253 --> 00:30:41,297 with other people that are so different from me and our relationship 577 00:30:41,381 --> 00:30:45,718 will ultimately bring us to the path of being together or not. 578 00:30:45,802 --> 00:30:46,803 How old are you? 579 00:30:46,886 --> 00:30:49,389 -I just turned 29. How about you? -Okay. Yeah, 29. 580 00:30:50,181 --> 00:30:53,017 I… want to hear other people's… 581 00:30:53,101 --> 00:30:55,353 why they're either ready or not ready to commit… 582 00:30:55,436 --> 00:30:58,064 -Yeah. -…because I think there are some things 583 00:30:58,147 --> 00:30:59,649 that come with marriage 584 00:30:59,732 --> 00:31:02,235 that I think Kyle really likes the sound of it, 585 00:31:02,318 --> 00:31:05,113 -but maybe isn't sure of what those-- -Mm-hmm. Totally. Yeah. 586 00:31:05,196 --> 00:31:08,157 Nobody really knows what those requirements are until you're married. 587 00:31:08,241 --> 00:31:09,659 I'm also… almost like scared 588 00:31:09,742 --> 00:31:11,327 of the monotony of 589 00:31:11,411 --> 00:31:13,162 -what that looks like, you know? -Yeah, yeah. 590 00:31:13,246 --> 00:31:15,248 -I know, like, keeping things alive-- -Yeah. 591 00:31:15,331 --> 00:31:18,042 I don't know how you already, in such a long relationship, 592 00:31:18,126 --> 00:31:20,128 are able to do that. 593 00:31:20,712 --> 00:31:22,755 I want to still feel, like, that spontaneity… 594 00:31:22,839 --> 00:31:25,008 -Totally. -…and I want to feel, like, wanted, 595 00:31:25,091 --> 00:31:26,885 and I don't want to let those things… 596 00:31:26,968 --> 00:31:28,136 -No, never. -…slide. 597 00:31:28,219 --> 00:31:32,181 And I think, like, with a more routine, steady lifestyle, 598 00:31:32,265 --> 00:31:34,058 I worry that that would slip away. 599 00:31:34,142 --> 00:31:35,393 Yeah, what do you do for work? 600 00:31:35,476 --> 00:31:38,354 Um, I am, like, a creative. So I do freelance writing. 601 00:31:38,438 --> 00:31:40,440 -Dope. -I am an artist, and I work at a bar. 602 00:31:40,523 --> 00:31:42,525 -Oh, dope. -So, I'm cobbling everything together. 603 00:31:42,609 --> 00:31:45,361 It's not like I have like a… secure… 604 00:31:45,445 --> 00:31:47,155 Sometimes I'm rich, sometimes I'm poor. 605 00:31:47,238 --> 00:31:49,157 I can't… I'm not good at saving. 606 00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:50,992 -That's part of the issue. -Yeah, no. 607 00:31:51,075 --> 00:31:52,869 That was funny. When I was speaking to your ex, 608 00:31:52,952 --> 00:31:55,747 she was like, "You remind me of Bridget. You have the same energy." 609 00:31:55,830 --> 00:31:58,458 -I was like, "I'm also, I produce music…" -Yeah, really? 610 00:31:58,541 --> 00:31:59,584 I like side hobbies. 611 00:31:59,667 --> 00:32:03,087 I'm like, there's so much world to live out there, so many things to do. 612 00:32:03,171 --> 00:32:05,590 -I want to blow glass… -Oh my God, I want to do that too. 613 00:32:06,591 --> 00:32:08,509 -I'm down for it. -That's crazy. Me too! 614 00:32:08,593 --> 00:32:10,595 -I heard you do pottery in Glendale. -Yes, yeah. 615 00:32:10,678 --> 00:32:11,512 I'm from Glendale. 616 00:32:11,596 --> 00:32:12,430 Oh, you are! Okay. 617 00:32:12,513 --> 00:32:14,390 -I go to GCC and I do pottery there. -No way! 618 00:32:14,474 --> 00:32:15,558 -Yeah. -So crazy. 619 00:32:15,642 --> 00:32:17,435 I really want to take a ceramics class. 620 00:32:17,518 --> 00:32:19,103 -That's crazy. -Yeah. 621 00:32:19,187 --> 00:32:21,981 Bridget is just so opposite of Haley. 622 00:32:22,065 --> 00:32:23,816 I'd say, physically, Bridget is my type. 623 00:32:23,900 --> 00:32:24,859 She's super cute, 624 00:32:24,943 --> 00:32:27,862 and I wasn't expecting myself to feel, like, nervous. 625 00:32:27,946 --> 00:32:29,447 It was definitely a new feeling. 626 00:32:29,530 --> 00:32:32,116 But then like Kyle is a really attractive girl, 627 00:32:32,200 --> 00:32:35,244 and she's a really vibey person and it was easy to talk to her. 628 00:32:35,328 --> 00:32:40,291 I never thought I would find myself torn between a couple. 629 00:32:40,375 --> 00:32:42,835 So it's definitely like, "Ah, what am I doing?" 630 00:32:42,919 --> 00:32:44,420 -Haley. -Hey. 631 00:32:44,504 --> 00:32:48,091 -How are you? Nice to meet you. -How are you? Nice to meet you. AJ. 632 00:32:49,801 --> 00:32:51,469 -How's it going? -It's going good. 633 00:32:51,552 --> 00:32:53,429 I have to say, your eyes are absolutely gorgeous. 634 00:32:53,513 --> 00:32:54,347 Thank you so much. 635 00:32:54,430 --> 00:32:59,018 I'm having the most fun. I am super excited right now. 636 00:33:00,895 --> 00:33:03,022 And your girl's getting it in right now. 637 00:33:03,523 --> 00:33:04,941 A bit about me, I'm a military brat. 638 00:33:05,024 --> 00:33:07,443 I've literally been to 22 public schools. 639 00:33:07,527 --> 00:33:09,278 -My God. -Two middle schools, one high school. 640 00:33:09,362 --> 00:33:12,073 It definitely taught me how to be, like, a chameleon, 641 00:33:12,156 --> 00:33:13,533 how to be adaptable 642 00:33:13,616 --> 00:33:15,076 -in certain situations. -Yeah. 643 00:33:15,159 --> 00:33:17,787 That's so funny that we're talking and our exes are talking. 644 00:33:17,870 --> 00:33:18,871 No way-- 645 00:33:20,206 --> 00:33:22,625 That's wild. I just looked over and I noticed. 646 00:33:22,709 --> 00:33:25,712 Had to pull single AJ out the closet, dust her off a little bit. 647 00:33:25,795 --> 00:33:27,171 -You look great. -Thank you. 648 00:33:27,255 --> 00:33:28,548 -So do you. Here… -Thank you. 649 00:33:28,631 --> 00:33:29,966 Now I'm ready to rock. 650 00:33:30,049 --> 00:33:32,677 How many, like, serious relationships have you had? 651 00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:34,387 -This is the third. -Okay. 652 00:33:34,470 --> 00:33:37,932 I mean, I don't think I'm ugly, but like, at the end of the day… 653 00:33:38,015 --> 00:33:39,434 No, you're not. Definitely not. 654 00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:41,644 Thank you. 655 00:33:41,728 --> 00:33:45,523 But yeah, like, I'm so used to being somebody that jumps into something 656 00:33:45,606 --> 00:33:48,568 -super quick physicality-wise. -Yeah. I am kind of too. 657 00:33:48,651 --> 00:33:50,403 -Really? -Same way. Yeah. 658 00:33:50,486 --> 00:33:52,864 The odds look like they're really in my favor. 659 00:33:52,947 --> 00:33:55,324 I'm single as fuck right now! 660 00:33:55,408 --> 00:33:56,868 Gosh, you're gorgeous. 661 00:33:56,951 --> 00:33:59,370 Wow, thanks! Oh my God, you too! 662 00:33:59,454 --> 00:34:00,663 Super gorge. 663 00:34:00,747 --> 00:34:02,206 God. Don't play, don't start. 664 00:34:02,290 --> 00:34:04,375 So wait, where are you from? Where do you live now? 665 00:34:04,459 --> 00:34:05,293 I live in Orlando. 666 00:34:05,376 --> 00:34:07,170 -Oh! Wow. I live in Orlando. -Yeah. 667 00:34:07,253 --> 00:34:08,087 Really? 668 00:34:08,171 --> 00:34:09,130 -Swear to God. -You lie. 669 00:34:09,213 --> 00:34:11,215 -I swear to God. -Bought a house there. 670 00:34:11,299 --> 00:34:12,675 You bought a house? That seems-- 671 00:34:12,759 --> 00:34:15,053 -You were issued the Ultimatum? -I was issued the Ultimatum. 672 00:34:15,136 --> 00:34:17,430 -So you bought a house… -Well, she bought the house. 673 00:34:17,513 --> 00:34:19,474 -Mm. -She's the doer. 674 00:34:19,557 --> 00:34:20,808 It's not a competition. 675 00:34:20,892 --> 00:34:23,728 You know, she was at a place in her life where she didn't have it all, 676 00:34:23,811 --> 00:34:29,150 and when I came in, I just felt like, "Well, I have a lot to give. I can give." 677 00:34:29,233 --> 00:34:32,069 And, um, it got to a point where she was hitting milestones, 678 00:34:32,153 --> 00:34:33,905 and in hitting those milestones, 679 00:34:33,988 --> 00:34:36,157 I didn't really realize, like, I'm kind of… 680 00:34:37,074 --> 00:34:39,285 -Now I'm not the giver. -That's insane that you say that, 681 00:34:39,368 --> 00:34:41,245 and I'm probably gonna cry. Literally, my… 682 00:34:41,329 --> 00:34:43,915 -No, go for it, I'm here. No! -No, we're not crying, no. 683 00:34:43,998 --> 00:34:45,166 -My ex and I… -Talk to me. 684 00:34:45,249 --> 00:34:46,667 …Mel, we opened a business together. 685 00:34:46,751 --> 00:34:48,795 -Okay. -And the food truck was like… 686 00:34:48,878 --> 00:34:50,546 That was her dream, 687 00:34:50,630 --> 00:34:53,299 and it was very much like okay, like, "I love you." 688 00:34:53,382 --> 00:34:56,844 -"Like, I want to see you happy." Exactly. -Support you. Yeah. 689 00:34:56,928 --> 00:34:58,429 I don't know, it's like, at some point, 690 00:34:58,513 --> 00:35:01,098 I feel like it was just a very give, give, give kind of thing. 691 00:35:01,182 --> 00:35:03,726 -Mm. -Like I felt more like I had to be there… 692 00:35:03,810 --> 00:35:07,563 -Yeah. -…more so than like I… wanted to be there. 693 00:35:07,647 --> 00:35:10,650 It's very, um… one-sided. 694 00:35:11,234 --> 00:35:16,072 I feel like my biggest strength is trying to bring out what's the best in you, 695 00:35:16,155 --> 00:35:19,867 and if you can love the things that I love about you, 696 00:35:20,618 --> 00:35:23,788 then you will start to see yourself in how I see you. 697 00:35:23,871 --> 00:35:26,624 You meet me halfway, I promise it's definitely worth it. 698 00:35:27,834 --> 00:35:30,127 You're so sweet. That was very unexpected. 699 00:35:30,211 --> 00:35:33,339 AJ is quite awesome. 700 00:35:33,422 --> 00:35:36,634 See a lot of myself in terms of kind of helping their partner 701 00:35:36,717 --> 00:35:39,428 achieve their goals and kind of getting lost in that motion. 702 00:35:40,012 --> 00:35:42,640 And AJ made me feel very considered, 703 00:35:42,723 --> 00:35:45,685 which is something I personally feel like I lack from Mel. 704 00:35:45,768 --> 00:35:48,187 I would love to see AJ again 705 00:35:48,771 --> 00:35:51,440 and kind of just feed off of that vibe 706 00:35:51,524 --> 00:35:55,403 and that energy that was quite transparent. 707 00:35:55,486 --> 00:35:57,446 Come hug me! Oh my God. I'll see you later. 708 00:35:57,530 --> 00:35:59,824 -All right. You too. -My heart! 709 00:35:59,907 --> 00:36:02,827 -Don't break too many hearts out here. -No, please, no. No, no, no. 710 00:36:02,910 --> 00:36:04,912 Baby, stay a while 711 00:36:04,996 --> 00:36:11,252 It has been very weird seeing my ex, which is also the love of my life, 712 00:36:11,335 --> 00:36:13,629 just sitting there talking to other women. 713 00:36:13,713 --> 00:36:14,922 So tell me about you. 714 00:36:15,006 --> 00:36:16,924 I'm not liking it, to be honest. 715 00:36:17,008 --> 00:36:19,844 And I couldn't help but, like, just see who she's talking to, 716 00:36:19,927 --> 00:36:21,304 and how much fun are they having? 717 00:36:21,387 --> 00:36:25,600 I'm trying to block it out, so I don't focus on that too much. 718 00:36:25,683 --> 00:36:26,601 So, Orlando. 719 00:36:26,684 --> 00:36:29,020 Yeah, we both are from Orlando. 720 00:36:29,103 --> 00:36:30,021 -That's wild. -I know. 721 00:36:30,104 --> 00:36:31,898 This is weird. You live with AJ, right? 722 00:36:31,981 --> 00:36:32,982 -AJ? -Yeah. 723 00:36:33,065 --> 00:36:35,276 I can't believe we've never, like, crossed paths. 724 00:36:35,359 --> 00:36:38,404 -We gotta do the lesbian chart. -Who's your ex? That might be mine too. 725 00:36:38,487 --> 00:36:40,364 I don't know. Yeah. 726 00:36:41,365 --> 00:36:42,992 How did you and your ex meet? 727 00:36:43,075 --> 00:36:45,036 I went up to her. I was just being bold that day. 728 00:36:45,119 --> 00:36:48,080 -Hell yeah! A couple shots in you? -Yeah! 729 00:36:48,164 --> 00:36:49,916 I love that. I like your confidence. 730 00:36:49,999 --> 00:36:51,918 -Thank you. Thank you. -For sure. 731 00:36:52,543 --> 00:36:55,171 It took a while to get here. Um… 732 00:36:55,254 --> 00:36:57,590 -And you got issued the Ultimatum though. -I did. 733 00:36:57,673 --> 00:36:59,258 -Why is that? -I think I'm just nervous. 734 00:36:59,342 --> 00:37:02,803 I'm nervous to, like, once the title's on it, once all that's on it… 735 00:37:02,887 --> 00:37:04,472 -Mm-hmm. -…it might turn sour. 736 00:37:04,555 --> 00:37:05,514 Maybe it's my own fears. 737 00:37:05,598 --> 00:37:07,600 That's probably me talking to myself saying… 738 00:37:07,683 --> 00:37:11,354 So I'm basically here to… hopefully have my mind changed. 739 00:37:11,437 --> 00:37:15,149 My ex and I own a business together, which is… sticky right now. 740 00:37:15,232 --> 00:37:16,817 I am also a business owner. 741 00:37:16,901 --> 00:37:19,695 -Okay, wow, fire. I love this. -Thank you. Thank you. 742 00:37:19,779 --> 00:37:23,366 Are you, like, independent? Do you rely on your ex a lot? 743 00:37:23,866 --> 00:37:26,243 Very self-sufficient. Never needed anyone, 744 00:37:26,327 --> 00:37:27,954 and still don't, necessarily, 745 00:37:28,037 --> 00:37:30,373 but my ex wants to be able to provide 746 00:37:30,456 --> 00:37:32,959 and come to the plate with everything equal, 747 00:37:33,042 --> 00:37:34,710 if not more than what I currently have… 748 00:37:34,794 --> 00:37:36,170 -I understand. -…before marrying. 749 00:37:36,254 --> 00:37:38,422 -You think it's a pride thing, almost? -I think so. 750 00:37:38,506 --> 00:37:40,049 Pride's a big thing for a lot of people. 751 00:37:40,132 --> 00:37:41,592 -So I get that. -Yeah. 752 00:37:41,676 --> 00:37:43,844 Not me siding with your ex on a date with you. 753 00:37:45,388 --> 00:37:48,599 So, what would you say you're looking for in a trial marriage partner? 754 00:37:48,683 --> 00:37:52,353 It has to be somebody driven with work, which you very much described. 755 00:37:52,436 --> 00:37:54,355 I like that they want me but don't need me. 756 00:37:54,438 --> 00:37:57,191 Britney is gorgeous, for sure. 757 00:37:57,275 --> 00:38:00,403 And I think that she is independent, 758 00:38:00,486 --> 00:38:03,114 which is something that is important to me. 759 00:38:03,197 --> 00:38:06,450 Marie and I, it's like, we wake up together at the same time. 760 00:38:06,534 --> 00:38:08,536 We're together all day, we go to sleep together. 761 00:38:08,619 --> 00:38:11,580 Like, I don't like my partner all over me, on top of me at all times. 762 00:38:11,664 --> 00:38:14,208 I think that Britney and I found a lot of common ground. 763 00:38:14,292 --> 00:38:16,877 I feel like we connected. Hopefully she says the same. 764 00:38:17,712 --> 00:38:19,922 -Marita! -Hi! 765 00:38:20,464 --> 00:38:21,632 What's up? 766 00:38:22,133 --> 00:38:26,262 -Oh, not much. Just dating everyone here. -Right. 767 00:38:26,345 --> 00:38:29,557 And so you're in the same boat as me as far as the Ultimatum. 768 00:38:29,640 --> 00:38:32,018 -Yeah. Ashley wants to get married. -Okay. 769 00:38:32,101 --> 00:38:36,439 I just want to make sure the person I do marry is, like, the one for me. 770 00:38:36,522 --> 00:38:38,649 I think I deserve more, 771 00:38:38,733 --> 00:38:41,360 and romantically, I bring a lot to the table. 772 00:38:41,444 --> 00:38:42,945 -I am a hopeless romantic. -Like what? 773 00:38:43,029 --> 00:38:44,739 Like what? What do you bring to the table? 774 00:38:44,822 --> 00:38:46,657 You're talking to a hopeless romantic right now. 775 00:38:46,741 --> 00:38:52,204 I wrote a 98-page story of me and Ashley's relationship. 776 00:38:52,288 --> 00:38:55,291 -Handwritten with pictures. -Ninety-eight pages!? 777 00:38:55,374 --> 00:38:59,003 -I know. Yeah, I hand-wrote it. -That's not a story, girl, that's a novel! 778 00:38:59,086 --> 00:39:00,880 -I know! -Like, what the hell? 779 00:39:00,963 --> 00:39:02,923 What's the most romantic thing you've done? 780 00:39:03,007 --> 00:39:06,469 Well, I'm an MC, and one of the songs that we kind of, like, 781 00:39:06,552 --> 00:39:07,803 melted over, I guess, 782 00:39:07,887 --> 00:39:13,517 I had it redone, like a rendition, through an Orlando R&B artist. 783 00:39:13,601 --> 00:39:18,981 We went to dinner, after dinner I took her to a spot, downtown Orlando, 784 00:39:19,065 --> 00:39:20,274 and he sang it to her. 785 00:39:20,357 --> 00:39:24,445 I asked her to be my girlfriend. After that I took her to a hotel. 786 00:39:24,528 --> 00:39:26,364 Run upstairs really quick, get the bath running, 787 00:39:26,447 --> 00:39:28,449 get the petals going, get the lights lit. 788 00:39:28,532 --> 00:39:29,992 -Stop it! -I swear to you. 789 00:39:30,076 --> 00:39:31,619 Wine, champagne, all that, so… 790 00:39:31,702 --> 00:39:34,663 -Goodness gracious! -Yeah. 791 00:39:36,540 --> 00:39:39,835 I just had ten dates with beautiful women, 792 00:39:39,919 --> 00:39:43,547 and everyone was so individual and their own person. 793 00:39:43,631 --> 00:39:48,386 There was some chemistry and a little bit of sparks with AJ. 794 00:39:48,469 --> 00:39:53,516 Her romantic side aligned with what I'm looking for, so… 795 00:39:53,599 --> 00:39:56,227 we'll see how it goes. 796 00:39:56,310 --> 00:40:01,482 I definitely feel flirty and thriving at this point. 797 00:40:01,565 --> 00:40:03,609 I want you always to have butterflies. 798 00:40:03,692 --> 00:40:06,028 I never want those butterflies to turn into roaches. 799 00:40:06,112 --> 00:40:07,863 That's exactly what I'm looking for. 800 00:40:18,374 --> 00:40:20,668 New dress on, new dress on 801 00:40:20,751 --> 00:40:22,837 I take what I want and I take it all 802 00:40:22,920 --> 00:40:25,256 Who could do right When I feel so wrong? 803 00:40:25,339 --> 00:40:27,383 I take what I want With my new dress on 804 00:40:27,466 --> 00:40:30,094 I just take what I want when I want it 805 00:40:30,177 --> 00:40:32,430 -Hello there. -Hi! You look so good. 806 00:40:32,513 --> 00:40:34,056 You look gorgeous. 807 00:40:36,392 --> 00:40:39,687 I came in this process with Britney, but I'm digging everybody. 808 00:40:40,312 --> 00:40:41,814 Dayna looks hot as shit. 809 00:40:41,897 --> 00:40:44,400 Bridget looks phenomenal, killing it. 810 00:40:44,483 --> 00:40:47,403 Marita's killing it in her brown dress. 811 00:40:47,486 --> 00:40:49,655 She's white chocolate. Giving chocolate vibes. 812 00:40:50,239 --> 00:40:53,534 Pilar looks like the golden ticket you just found out the chocolate bar. 813 00:40:53,617 --> 00:40:56,704 And yeah, I'm a hoochie daddy without the shorts. 814 00:40:57,288 --> 00:40:59,665 I take what I want With my new dress on 815 00:41:00,166 --> 00:41:01,250 I just take what I want… 816 00:41:01,333 --> 00:41:03,752 Here's to finding happiness no matter where it's at. 817 00:41:03,836 --> 00:41:05,004 Lesbians! 818 00:41:06,755 --> 00:41:08,215 Time out. Celebrity crush? 819 00:41:08,299 --> 00:41:09,383 What's yours? Tell us first. 820 00:41:09,467 --> 00:41:12,219 Teyana Taylor. I would throw her around like a rag doll. 821 00:41:12,303 --> 00:41:13,429 I swear to you. 822 00:41:13,512 --> 00:41:16,223 I'd let her throw me around like a rag doll if she wanted. 823 00:41:16,307 --> 00:41:19,852 Reneé Rapp does it for me. I love a big-titty bitch. 824 00:41:19,935 --> 00:41:22,521 Okay, well, I'm definitely not your type. 825 00:41:23,772 --> 00:41:25,983 Lauren Sanderson, definitely there. 826 00:41:26,066 --> 00:41:28,277 -Fletcher. -I just think Fletcher is messy. 827 00:41:28,360 --> 00:41:31,280 Fletcher is messy, but she's still hot. You can't deny that. 828 00:41:31,363 --> 00:41:33,741 -Yeah. -She's just the right amount of gay. 829 00:41:33,824 --> 00:41:35,284 I love it. 830 00:41:37,244 --> 00:41:39,538 I like open the arms. 831 00:41:39,622 --> 00:41:41,624 I know, that's me claiming you right now. 832 00:41:41,707 --> 00:41:42,541 -I'm like… -Yeah. 833 00:41:42,625 --> 00:41:44,043 I'm not mad at it. 834 00:41:44,126 --> 00:41:45,252 Don't hate the player, 835 00:41:45,336 --> 00:41:46,378 -hate the game, baby. -Yeah. 836 00:41:47,838 --> 00:41:50,799 I'm trying to be in the moment with you. I appreciate you and who you are 837 00:41:50,883 --> 00:41:52,885 and how you really tried to get to know me. 838 00:41:52,968 --> 00:41:55,221 I'm just trying to be genuine. I'm trying to be myself. 839 00:41:55,304 --> 00:41:59,892 So, I know at some point you're gonna be the villain in somebody's story. So… 840 00:41:59,975 --> 00:42:02,019 Very true. Great quote. 841 00:42:02,102 --> 00:42:03,604 I'm just trying to be me. 842 00:42:03,687 --> 00:42:06,023 -People take that as they will. -All you really can do. Yeah. 843 00:42:06,106 --> 00:42:06,982 Absolutely. 844 00:42:10,069 --> 00:42:12,196 Oh my God. 845 00:42:12,279 --> 00:42:16,242 Yeah, so… it's just so weird. We're all dating the same people. 846 00:42:16,325 --> 00:42:17,326 And it's okay… 847 00:42:17,409 --> 00:42:19,578 I feel like I'm at some big-ass lesbian, like… 848 00:42:20,621 --> 00:42:22,706 I think the fact that we're all doing this, 849 00:42:22,790 --> 00:42:24,041 like, we're all so brave. 850 00:42:24,124 --> 00:42:28,462 It shows that we really are mature enough to, like, want clarity and want answers. 851 00:42:28,546 --> 00:42:31,340 What I fear most is a little bit of confusion. 852 00:42:31,423 --> 00:42:35,302 Marie and I were together four years before we broke up when we got here. 853 00:42:35,386 --> 00:42:38,013 So, you know, obviously, we all came here with our person 854 00:42:38,097 --> 00:42:40,766 and like we knew what we wanted and we knew, like… 855 00:42:40,849 --> 00:42:42,768 Especially you, like, as the Ultimatum giver, 856 00:42:42,851 --> 00:42:44,061 -it's like… -Yeah, yeah. 857 00:42:44,144 --> 00:42:46,939 …the more that I connect with other people, I get scared. 858 00:42:47,022 --> 00:42:49,191 My favorite movie ever is The Bronx Tale 859 00:42:49,275 --> 00:42:51,652 and they say you get three great loves in your life. 860 00:42:51,735 --> 00:42:54,363 Marie is my second great love. 861 00:42:54,446 --> 00:42:57,992 So it kind of worries me while I'm having all these connections, 862 00:42:58,075 --> 00:43:00,578 and I'm learning about myself, I could leave with someone else. 863 00:43:00,661 --> 00:43:02,246 -Hi, love. -Hey, Boo. 864 00:43:02,329 --> 00:43:04,498 -How are you guys? -We're chilling. 865 00:43:04,582 --> 00:43:06,250 -Want to talk? -Yeah, want to talk? 866 00:43:06,333 --> 00:43:07,626 -Yeah! -Absolutely. 867 00:43:08,419 --> 00:43:09,253 Come on. 868 00:43:09,336 --> 00:43:10,754 Where would you like to go? 869 00:43:10,838 --> 00:43:13,549 -Uh, we can go on these chairs over here. -Okay. 870 00:43:13,632 --> 00:43:15,467 We're gonna take the long way around? 871 00:43:17,428 --> 00:43:19,805 Tonight is pretty wild. 872 00:43:19,888 --> 00:43:23,726 I was the one that was given the Ultimatum from Ashley, 873 00:43:23,809 --> 00:43:28,731 but AJ is a hopeless romantic, and that's exciting to me. 874 00:43:29,315 --> 00:43:31,900 I… I just want to explore that further. 875 00:43:31,984 --> 00:43:34,486 -How are you feeling about us? -I don't know, you make me giddy. 876 00:43:34,570 --> 00:43:37,114 -I'm excited. -Giddy? That's great. 877 00:43:37,197 --> 00:43:39,158 You kind of do. 878 00:43:39,950 --> 00:43:42,036 How are you feeling about us? 879 00:43:42,119 --> 00:43:43,245 I get excited about us. 880 00:43:43,329 --> 00:43:47,625 I get really excited, like, I think that we have a lot to offer each other. 881 00:43:47,708 --> 00:43:50,336 It'd be dangerous to play with some type of fire like this. 882 00:43:51,795 --> 00:43:55,424 But I don't ever want to come out of something with regret. 883 00:43:55,507 --> 00:43:57,009 Yeah. I agree. 884 00:43:58,927 --> 00:44:02,681 If somebody can show me an ounce of romance… 885 00:44:02,765 --> 00:44:06,352 I've been asking for that for three years, and that speaks volumes to me, 886 00:44:06,435 --> 00:44:10,272 and I honestly would be happy to either leave alone 887 00:44:10,356 --> 00:44:11,815 or leave with that person. 888 00:44:11,899 --> 00:44:15,194 With you, I'm, like, blown away. Already. 889 00:44:16,070 --> 00:44:19,406 I don't know if it's the way you say things or the way you look at me. 890 00:44:22,076 --> 00:44:24,787 -I kind of want to see where it goes. -Mm-hmm. 891 00:44:25,996 --> 00:44:29,333 I'm super attracted to you. So I think at the end of day, 892 00:44:29,416 --> 00:44:32,961 it's really what you want to do and how you want to pursue that, so… 893 00:44:36,799 --> 00:44:39,718 Seeing Marita make connections, 894 00:44:39,802 --> 00:44:40,719 it's kind of tough. 895 00:44:41,553 --> 00:44:46,100 The insecurities are coming in. I don't think I'm fully mentally here. 896 00:44:47,434 --> 00:44:50,020 Just kind of having like a rough night tonight. 897 00:44:51,397 --> 00:44:53,273 Okay, so what's going on? 898 00:44:53,857 --> 00:44:55,984 I think I'm just having a hard time opening up. 899 00:44:56,068 --> 00:44:59,655 You just have to be patient with yourself. You're just overthinking it. 900 00:44:59,738 --> 00:45:00,989 I know it's not fun. 901 00:45:01,073 --> 00:45:03,450 It's not fun for me either, I hope you know that. 902 00:45:03,534 --> 00:45:06,120 See, but I don't know, sometimes I feel like I don't know. 903 00:45:06,203 --> 00:45:08,497 You think I'm enjoying seeing you date other people? 904 00:45:08,580 --> 00:45:13,168 It's not that. It's like, I don't know, sometimes I just, like, worry about us. 905 00:45:13,252 --> 00:45:16,213 I worry about us too. But that's why we're here. 906 00:45:16,296 --> 00:45:18,841 -I gave the Ultimatum, you know? -Yeah. 907 00:45:18,924 --> 00:45:21,218 I came here for somebody to choose me. 908 00:45:21,301 --> 00:45:24,638 I just think, with what my insecurities are, I worry about stuff. 909 00:45:24,721 --> 00:45:28,517 I get it, like, it's not normal to experience, like, your partner, 910 00:45:28,600 --> 00:45:30,561 -like, holding hands with someone else. -I know. 911 00:45:30,644 --> 00:45:33,564 I know you, I see you. You're being quiet. You're not talking. 912 00:45:33,647 --> 00:45:34,940 You're making me nervous. 913 00:45:39,027 --> 00:45:40,904 -Want to give me a hug? -What are you drinking? 914 00:45:43,657 --> 00:45:45,242 -I love you. -I love you too. 915 00:45:49,621 --> 00:45:51,081 Something I'm curious about-- 916 00:45:51,165 --> 00:45:53,667 Finger guns. What's that? That's weird. 917 00:45:53,750 --> 00:45:54,793 Sorry, you're really funny. 918 00:45:54,877 --> 00:45:56,754 I don't know where that came from. 919 00:45:57,337 --> 00:46:00,466 I'm realizing that Bridget is making connections 920 00:46:00,549 --> 00:46:03,218 with maybe some of the same people that I am. 921 00:46:03,302 --> 00:46:08,182 It's a strange feeling because I want her to find someone that treats her well, 922 00:46:08,265 --> 00:46:11,351 but at the same time I'm jealous of her finding that. 923 00:46:11,935 --> 00:46:14,396 I feel like we relate on so much and we're so similar. 924 00:46:14,480 --> 00:46:15,814 Even Kyle said that. 925 00:46:15,898 --> 00:46:18,609 We'd be good together. But I could really see you with Kyle. 926 00:46:18,692 --> 00:46:21,945 I know that sounds weird to say and I, like, shouldn't say that, but… 927 00:46:22,029 --> 00:46:25,365 What is it that you're looking for intentions-wise? 928 00:46:25,449 --> 00:46:28,118 All my communication that I learned was with Kyle, 929 00:46:28,202 --> 00:46:30,996 so now I want to apply that to something else and see what happens. 930 00:46:31,079 --> 00:46:33,040 But I also want to hear from people like you 931 00:46:33,123 --> 00:46:35,125 -and others who've been in relationships. -Yeah. 932 00:46:35,209 --> 00:46:37,669 We talked a lot about how we're both kind of spontaneous. 933 00:46:37,753 --> 00:46:39,505 -Yeah. -And Kyle's like a creature of routine. 934 00:46:39,588 --> 00:46:42,341 -Of course. -So I feel like in another relationship, 935 00:46:42,424 --> 00:46:44,551 or moving forward, I just want to know 936 00:46:44,635 --> 00:46:48,680 that that spontaneity will still be there and it'll still be alive and all of that. 937 00:46:48,764 --> 00:46:50,307 Yes, yeah, I feel the same way. 938 00:46:50,390 --> 00:46:51,642 Being the way that I am, 939 00:46:51,725 --> 00:46:54,228 you know, we're so similar and then Haley being so logical, 940 00:46:54,311 --> 00:46:58,941 I want to experience what it is to live with someone who's just like me. 941 00:46:59,024 --> 00:47:00,317 I could talk to you forever. 942 00:47:00,400 --> 00:47:04,696 -I know, that's why it's so easy. -I know, it's so easy. Yeah. 943 00:47:04,780 --> 00:47:07,825 I never expected to be in a little love triangle 944 00:47:07,908 --> 00:47:10,994 between Kyle and Bridget. 945 00:47:11,078 --> 00:47:12,996 I could see a trial marriage with either of them. 946 00:47:13,080 --> 00:47:14,665 You're from New York? 947 00:47:14,748 --> 00:47:17,000 -Born in New York. -That blew my mind. 948 00:47:17,084 --> 00:47:18,544 Born in Flatbush, Brooklyn. 949 00:47:18,627 --> 00:47:21,463 That was my stomping ground. Yeah. I was born and raised in Brooklyn. 950 00:47:21,547 --> 00:47:25,050 The J train was my life. You were three stops away from me. 951 00:47:25,133 --> 00:47:27,469 I don't really know the boroughs as much as I should, 952 00:47:27,553 --> 00:47:32,015 but that's only because my parents were really big on "Let's get out of New York, 953 00:47:32,099 --> 00:47:33,433 this is not a breeding ground 954 00:47:33,517 --> 00:47:34,977 -to raise children." -It's not, yeah. 955 00:47:35,060 --> 00:47:38,105 I think I would be a different person if I was raised there. 956 00:47:38,188 --> 00:47:40,941 Yeah, I don't think you would be as lover-y. 957 00:47:41,441 --> 00:47:42,734 Lover-y? 958 00:47:45,279 --> 00:47:47,865 How have you been doing with everything? Are you okay? 959 00:47:47,948 --> 00:47:53,203 I'm okay. It is strange seeing my ex, AJ, a few feet away from me. 960 00:47:53,287 --> 00:47:54,246 I can feel it. 961 00:47:54,329 --> 00:47:56,498 AJ has game, like, she's definitely a flirt. 962 00:47:56,582 --> 00:48:00,961 Something about you caters to a piece of me that I really enjoy. 963 00:48:01,044 --> 00:48:03,380 You definitely make me feel the most comfortable. 964 00:48:04,047 --> 00:48:07,759 I feel like there's a huge dynamic between us. 965 00:48:07,843 --> 00:48:08,677 Clearly. 966 00:48:08,760 --> 00:48:10,888 It's weird to see your partner dating other people. 967 00:48:10,971 --> 00:48:11,972 -It's so weird. -Yeah. 968 00:48:12,055 --> 00:48:14,433 More than anything, I did want to talk to you. 969 00:48:14,516 --> 00:48:19,479 I feel like, out of everyone here, you are my favorite person. 970 00:48:19,563 --> 00:48:21,773 Mel. Come on. I want to talk to you. 971 00:48:25,319 --> 00:48:27,779 What will you use for the spice? Tajín? 972 00:48:28,614 --> 00:48:31,950 You don't like spicy? When I say spicy, I think Tajín. 973 00:48:32,034 --> 00:48:34,536 -I'm sick… that you just said that. -Stop. 974 00:48:34,620 --> 00:48:36,413 It's like a chili liqueur. 975 00:48:36,496 --> 00:48:37,623 Like a chili, okay. 976 00:48:37,706 --> 00:48:38,874 I'm done with you! 977 00:48:40,459 --> 00:48:42,628 Hi, trouble. How are you? How's your night? 978 00:48:42,711 --> 00:48:44,004 Good. How's your night? 979 00:48:44,087 --> 00:48:48,550 It's going. I'm having conversations with people I didn't think I would, so… 980 00:48:48,634 --> 00:48:49,509 I feel really weird. 981 00:48:49,593 --> 00:48:53,013 Especially with my ex two feet away and I have connection with other people. 982 00:48:53,096 --> 00:48:54,973 A lot of it is me getting in my head, 983 00:48:55,057 --> 00:48:58,018 and I'm like, "I'm into this person, but I don't know if they're into me." 984 00:48:58,101 --> 00:48:59,937 I'm gonna do that up until The Choice. 985 00:49:00,020 --> 00:49:01,647 So, I'm into you. 986 00:49:02,898 --> 00:49:03,941 Okay, straightforward. 987 00:49:04,024 --> 00:49:06,777 I think you and I, together, I think you're a challenge, 988 00:49:06,860 --> 00:49:08,862 but I know I'm up for the challenge. So it's like… 989 00:49:08,946 --> 00:49:09,946 Are you, though? 990 00:49:10,030 --> 00:49:11,740 Like, I want to know if you feel like 991 00:49:11,823 --> 00:49:15,077 we can, like, actually learn and grow together. 992 00:49:15,160 --> 00:49:18,288 I gave the Ultimatum because I want to spend the rest of my life with Magan, 993 00:49:18,372 --> 00:49:20,540 but I do have this connection to Mel. 994 00:49:20,624 --> 00:49:22,167 She's confident in who she is. 995 00:49:22,250 --> 00:49:25,003 She knows where she stands with her sexuality and all that. 996 00:49:25,587 --> 00:49:30,592 Magan has struggled in that area. I think that's what like draws me to Mel. 997 00:49:30,676 --> 00:49:33,887 For some reason, I'm stuck on you. So it makes me want to keep trying. 998 00:49:33,971 --> 00:49:36,932 Here's the thing. I'm not playing a game. I'm into you, yes, but… 999 00:49:37,015 --> 00:49:39,226 But that's the first time you said that, just so you know. 1000 00:49:39,309 --> 00:49:40,686 I wanna get to know you more. 1001 00:49:40,769 --> 00:49:43,939 I want to get to know you more too. You're very intriguing to me. 1002 00:49:46,733 --> 00:49:49,361 -How are you doing? -I think I'm just having a hard time. 1003 00:49:49,444 --> 00:49:52,030 Yeah. I feel that. Me too. I'm still digesting everything. 1004 00:49:52,114 --> 00:49:54,282 -This shit is a lot. -It is a lot. It is a lot. 1005 00:49:54,366 --> 00:49:55,867 I'm emotionally fried. 1006 00:49:56,451 --> 00:49:57,494 I'm feeling kind of sad. 1007 00:49:58,912 --> 00:50:01,123 I feel I don't have a romantic connection with anybody, 1008 00:50:01,206 --> 00:50:05,627 but Dayna and Mel are flirting, so it's very triggering. 1009 00:50:09,256 --> 00:50:10,215 Man. 1010 00:50:16,722 --> 00:50:17,597 Hey. 1011 00:50:18,265 --> 00:50:19,516 What's going on? 1012 00:50:20,809 --> 00:50:22,644 I could tell there's a lot on your mind. 1013 00:50:23,437 --> 00:50:26,064 Even though you're my ex, I still miss you. 1014 00:50:26,148 --> 00:50:27,816 Why don't you make it known? 1015 00:50:30,819 --> 00:50:31,820 You want to talk? 1016 00:50:35,907 --> 00:50:37,743 -I feel so stupid. -Why? 1017 00:50:38,744 --> 00:50:41,913 I brought you here, and, like, here I am, like… 1018 00:50:44,124 --> 00:50:44,958 Ugh. 1019 00:50:46,793 --> 00:50:49,796 I'm trying to be strong, and I'm trying to, like, focus. 1020 00:50:51,173 --> 00:50:53,216 -It's just hard, like… -I know. 1021 00:50:53,300 --> 00:50:57,012 Hurtin' on the bathroom floor All alone 1022 00:50:57,095 --> 00:51:00,807 Look at me. I know you're my ex. I know this is tough. 1023 00:51:01,600 --> 00:51:04,770 Pull myself together See the color in my face 1024 00:51:06,271 --> 00:51:08,065 -You make it look so easy. -No. 1025 00:51:08,940 --> 00:51:10,609 I don't know where this will lead, 1026 00:51:10,692 --> 00:51:14,154 and I'm trying to figure out, like, what it is that I need. 1027 00:51:14,237 --> 00:51:16,990 If moving forward is an option. 1028 00:51:19,367 --> 00:51:20,202 Okay? 1029 00:51:21,703 --> 00:51:23,955 So let's just take it day by day, baby. Okay? 1030 00:51:24,039 --> 00:51:26,124 -Okay. -Day by day. 1031 00:51:27,709 --> 00:51:32,714 My ex making this Ultimatum towards me comes with risk. 1032 00:51:32,798 --> 00:51:35,884 If I did answer Britney's Ultimatum without clarity, 1033 00:51:35,967 --> 00:51:38,512 then I honestly would have resentment later. 1034 00:51:38,595 --> 00:51:42,641 I still don't have answers, so I can't cater to Britney. 1035 00:51:42,724 --> 00:51:46,061 If I cater to Britney, I might as well accept the Ultimatum and marry her. 1036 00:51:47,104 --> 00:51:49,940 Okay, well enjoy… the experience. 1037 00:51:51,149 --> 00:51:52,150 Okay. 1038 00:51:53,485 --> 00:51:57,197 Ready to take me down 1039 00:51:57,280 --> 00:52:00,867 A shadow of myself taking over me 1040 00:52:01,451 --> 00:52:04,871 Shadow of a doubt 1041 00:52:04,955 --> 00:52:08,834 Creeping back around The midnight hour 1042 00:52:08,917 --> 00:52:12,212 A shadow of myself taking over me 1043 00:52:15,590 --> 00:52:21,638 I can't wait a moment longer 1044 00:52:21,721 --> 00:52:24,057 My tears, they fall 1045 00:52:25,267 --> 00:52:28,353 For you, baby It's a memory 1046 00:52:36,027 --> 00:52:36,987 Hey. 1047 00:52:38,280 --> 00:52:40,073 What's going on? 1048 00:52:40,156 --> 00:52:40,991 What's going on? 1049 00:52:46,997 --> 00:52:48,957 You're scaring me. What's going on? 1050 00:52:55,463 --> 00:52:57,215 I'm having a hard time 1051 00:52:57,299 --> 00:53:00,510 letting you go and saying that I'm single. 1052 00:53:00,594 --> 00:53:03,388 Why are we going through this, like, trial marriage? 1053 00:53:03,471 --> 00:53:05,473 Why are we going through this dating period? Like… 1054 00:53:07,475 --> 00:53:10,854 I just don't know if it's something that I can handle or I want to go through. 1055 00:53:13,106 --> 00:53:15,192 Why are you so willing to back out when it's hard? 1056 00:53:15,275 --> 00:53:17,777 You want to go through three weeks with somebody? 1057 00:53:17,861 --> 00:53:18,695 Yeah. 1058 00:53:19,404 --> 00:53:21,823 Here's the thing though. They're not just your roommate. 1059 00:53:21,907 --> 00:53:23,783 They are your trial partner. 1060 00:53:23,867 --> 00:53:25,160 -Yeah. -Marriage. 1061 00:53:25,243 --> 00:53:27,412 So you're gonna be doing marriage things with them. 1062 00:53:27,996 --> 00:53:29,164 What are you saying? 1063 00:53:35,545 --> 00:53:37,923 I don't know if I can get past certain things 1064 00:53:38,006 --> 00:53:39,341 if they were to happen. 1065 00:53:40,717 --> 00:53:43,136 -You just want to walk away now? -I'm walking away. 1066 00:53:51,394 --> 00:53:52,979 This might be too much for me. 1067 00:54:00,195 --> 00:54:04,783 I can't undo your fears 1068 00:54:15,460 --> 00:54:19,214 I can't undo your fears or me.