1 00:00:21,980 --> 00:00:24,691 I feel the walls 2 00:00:25,442 --> 00:00:27,277 Caving in 3 00:00:28,737 --> 00:00:34,034 But I stood tall Didn't let them win 4 00:00:36,786 --> 00:00:38,079 Um… 5 00:00:39,164 --> 00:00:41,207 I spoke to Dayna, 6 00:00:41,791 --> 00:00:45,628 and she is so happy to have you as her trial wife. 7 00:00:46,421 --> 00:00:50,508 And she's saying that you guys… all you do is think about your exes, 8 00:00:50,592 --> 00:00:53,511 and I'm sitting here, I'm like, "Fuck yeah," like, 9 00:00:53,595 --> 00:00:55,430 good, you guys have each other. 10 00:00:56,848 --> 00:01:01,811 And then, after this… lovely conversation… 11 00:01:03,938 --> 00:01:08,818 Haley comes up to me, and she tells me that there's proof 12 00:01:09,569 --> 00:01:12,072 that you and Dayna are fucking. 13 00:01:14,574 --> 00:01:16,868 I can only hear this shit from you. 14 00:01:18,453 --> 00:01:20,038 So I'm asking you, 15 00:01:20,580 --> 00:01:22,040 have you guys fucked? 16 00:01:23,374 --> 00:01:24,209 Are you lying? 17 00:01:31,966 --> 00:01:35,303 Are you really saying no? That didn't happen? 18 00:01:36,513 --> 00:01:37,472 I'm saying no. 19 00:01:38,890 --> 00:01:42,727 So where is that coming from? Because I am so fucking triggered. 20 00:01:44,145 --> 00:01:47,107 I'll talk to Haley. I don't know anything. I don't know. 21 00:01:47,607 --> 00:01:51,486 How would she know anything about proof of what's going on in my apartment? 22 00:01:52,654 --> 00:01:53,488 I don't know. 23 00:01:54,864 --> 00:01:59,619 She has always been very, um… transparent. 24 00:02:00,578 --> 00:02:01,496 So have I. 25 00:02:02,580 --> 00:02:03,540 So have you. 26 00:02:05,625 --> 00:02:07,710 Is this going to soil everything? 27 00:02:08,503 --> 00:02:11,089 Because I don't know if I believe any of this. 28 00:02:11,172 --> 00:02:13,383 I don't know what I believe, I'm so… 29 00:02:14,217 --> 00:02:15,218 Hm… 30 00:02:21,307 --> 00:02:22,851 We do have a connection. 31 00:02:23,643 --> 00:02:25,812 Okay. What does that mean? 32 00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:28,898 Dayna and I have kissed. 33 00:02:31,359 --> 00:02:33,570 And I was going to tell you when I was with you. 34 00:02:34,779 --> 00:02:36,447 And that's the extent of it. 35 00:02:40,285 --> 00:02:42,370 If you're telling me, looking me in the eye, 36 00:02:42,453 --> 00:02:45,373 I will back you until the fucking end of time. 37 00:02:45,456 --> 00:02:48,293 But do not make me look like a fucking fool. 38 00:02:48,376 --> 00:02:49,711 -Don't. -I hear you. 39 00:02:51,171 --> 00:02:53,715 Do not make me look like an idiot. Please. 40 00:02:55,174 --> 00:02:57,468 Stop my heart 41 00:02:57,552 --> 00:03:03,683 Flow for a second 42 00:03:03,766 --> 00:03:10,481 Is this love or Something I forgot hurts me now? 43 00:03:15,111 --> 00:03:17,655 I've been around taking off 'Cause I never waste a day 44 00:03:17,739 --> 00:03:20,408 When I want what I want So you gotta go and work hard 45 00:03:20,491 --> 00:03:22,035 Keep my attention 46 00:03:24,829 --> 00:03:27,332 So how'd it go? Did you talk to Dayna? 47 00:03:27,916 --> 00:03:29,209 I sure did. 48 00:03:29,292 --> 00:03:31,210 It was a lot of narrative spinning. 49 00:03:31,294 --> 00:03:35,089 She admitted you two had a conversation and she was like, "We did talk." 50 00:03:35,173 --> 00:03:38,760 "I just, like, don't recognize the person that I see in front of me." 51 00:03:38,843 --> 00:03:42,347 And that's when Dayna was like, "And I just expected from you, Haley, 52 00:03:42,430 --> 00:03:45,433 that you were going to support her, and you were gonna do this and do that." 53 00:03:45,516 --> 00:03:48,186 I don't understand how she has this opinion on you 54 00:03:49,228 --> 00:03:51,397 when we literally don't even talk to them. 55 00:03:51,481 --> 00:03:53,942 First of all, Mel, you're not going to come at me 56 00:03:54,025 --> 00:03:56,986 and say, oh, I'm not there for Dayna in her time of need. 57 00:03:57,070 --> 00:04:00,239 How am I supposed to know when it's Dayna's time of need 58 00:04:00,323 --> 00:04:03,743 when she's literally calling me saying she doesn't want to marry me, 59 00:04:03,826 --> 00:04:06,537 and, like, she can't believe that I did this to her? 60 00:04:06,621 --> 00:04:08,206 She's literally pushing me away from her. 61 00:04:08,289 --> 00:04:10,083 I think that what I'm hearing from you 62 00:04:10,166 --> 00:04:11,793 and what I heard from Dayna the whole night 63 00:04:11,876 --> 00:04:15,296 is that it almost sounds like they came in ready to protect each other 64 00:04:15,380 --> 00:04:17,423 -because they know they've done wrong. -Yes. Yeah. 65 00:04:17,507 --> 00:04:23,137 Because in hearing what Dayna was saying to Marie, she basically was like, 66 00:04:23,221 --> 00:04:25,265 "I've been crying every single night." 67 00:04:25,348 --> 00:04:27,350 "We've been holding each other, and blah…" 68 00:04:27,433 --> 00:04:29,769 Yeah, holding each other or humping each other. I don't know… 69 00:04:31,271 --> 00:04:35,692 But honestly, I'm not going to sit here and listen to somebody tell me 70 00:04:35,775 --> 00:04:39,195 the way that I'm seeing it is not really what's happening. 71 00:04:39,279 --> 00:04:41,531 You're not gonna tell me that. Nobody's gonna tell me that. 72 00:04:41,614 --> 00:04:44,534 It's always the person that is mistreating the other one 73 00:04:44,617 --> 00:04:45,660 that speaks the loudest. 74 00:04:45,743 --> 00:04:47,078 Yeah, absolutely. 75 00:04:47,662 --> 00:04:49,789 I can work on our differences, 76 00:04:49,872 --> 00:04:53,501 but you are going to take accountability for your actions, 77 00:04:53,584 --> 00:04:54,836 or I'm not talking to you. 78 00:04:54,919 --> 00:04:56,629 She was like, "I'm just so upset 79 00:04:56,713 --> 00:04:59,507 because I'm seeing the person in front of me regress." 80 00:04:59,590 --> 00:05:00,675 I'm not doing that. 81 00:05:02,218 --> 00:05:04,512 But I was like, "You're not going to slander my wife." 82 00:05:04,595 --> 00:05:06,556 -Period! Period! -Period! 83 00:05:06,639 --> 00:05:09,225 Tell her! Trial wife, tell her! No, I'm joking. 84 00:05:09,308 --> 00:05:11,894 I was like, "One thing I will not have you do is slander my wife." 85 00:05:11,978 --> 00:05:14,480 -Don't slander my ass! -Don't slander my wife. 86 00:05:15,606 --> 00:05:19,527 What was interesting is that as Dayna was, like, having that with me, 87 00:05:19,610 --> 00:05:22,447 Kyle was like, "Pilar feels the same way about you and Magan." 88 00:05:22,530 --> 00:05:23,698 And I was like, 89 00:05:24,782 --> 00:05:25,992 "What do you mean?" 90 00:05:26,826 --> 00:05:29,954 If Pilar is concerned, our relationship is never going to be the same. 91 00:05:30,538 --> 00:05:33,750 If Pilar doesn't like the way that I've changed, 92 00:05:33,833 --> 00:05:38,588 I'm holding space for the fact that Pilar and I can come out of this not engaged. 93 00:05:39,922 --> 00:05:43,509 But marriage is not a milestone anymore. 94 00:05:43,593 --> 00:05:47,555 It's a sense of security, and, like, if my partner can't give that to me, 95 00:05:47,638 --> 00:05:49,766 I don't think you can be my partner. 96 00:05:49,849 --> 00:05:52,268 I'm not going back to the way that I was. 97 00:05:52,352 --> 00:05:53,394 So proud of you. 98 00:05:53,478 --> 00:05:55,646 You know who you are, but now, 99 00:05:55,730 --> 00:05:59,192 you're, like, expressing yourself more. 100 00:05:59,275 --> 00:06:03,279 You know, you're kind of, like, showing yourself to the world more. 101 00:06:03,363 --> 00:06:04,364 And why not? 102 00:06:04,447 --> 00:06:07,909 You have so many things to offer to the world. 103 00:06:07,992 --> 00:06:10,745 You know? The world could use more of you. 104 00:06:10,828 --> 00:06:12,080 That's for damn sure. 105 00:06:13,414 --> 00:06:14,457 She's a poet. 106 00:06:14,540 --> 00:06:16,417 I don't even know it. 107 00:06:18,503 --> 00:06:19,712 You ready? Watch this. 108 00:06:22,215 --> 00:06:29,222 Ah! 109 00:06:31,641 --> 00:06:33,684 Get caught up in the madness 110 00:06:33,768 --> 00:06:35,853 Slow dancing in the magic 111 00:06:36,604 --> 00:06:38,898 Yeah, anything can happen 112 00:06:38,981 --> 00:06:41,734 Under city lights 113 00:06:47,698 --> 00:06:51,035 Haley went up to Marie and said that 114 00:06:51,702 --> 00:06:54,205 there's proof that you and I are fucking. 115 00:06:54,288 --> 00:06:56,958 Who the fuck does this bitch Haley think she is? 116 00:06:57,041 --> 00:06:59,377 I swear to God, give me her phone number right now. 117 00:06:59,460 --> 00:07:01,921 Let's go to her room. Let's hear it. Where's the receipts, babe? 118 00:07:02,004 --> 00:07:03,548 Say it to my face too next time. 119 00:07:03,631 --> 00:07:05,758 You had multiple opportunities to talk to me. 120 00:07:06,926 --> 00:07:07,927 Slimy bitch. 121 00:07:08,428 --> 00:07:10,221 Were they spying on us? 122 00:07:10,304 --> 00:07:12,849 They hacked the cameras? What do they think they know? 123 00:07:12,932 --> 00:07:14,350 I don't want to talk about it. 124 00:07:14,433 --> 00:07:15,560 Melly… 125 00:07:19,063 --> 00:07:21,941 Let's just never leave this apartment ever again. 126 00:07:42,879 --> 00:07:45,548 -Hi. -Oh, my gosh. It's so good to see you. 127 00:07:45,631 --> 00:07:46,924 So good to see you. 128 00:07:47,008 --> 00:07:49,969 -Hi, I'm Pilar. Very nice to meet you. -Looking good. 129 00:07:50,052 --> 00:07:51,053 -How are you? -Good. 130 00:07:51,762 --> 00:07:54,932 I can't wait to ask you a bunch of questions. 131 00:07:55,016 --> 00:07:56,809 -Please. -So much to ask. 132 00:07:56,893 --> 00:07:59,312 -Yes. Oh my gosh. -Yeah. 133 00:07:59,395 --> 00:08:00,730 It's my trial wife. 134 00:08:01,314 --> 00:08:04,025 I gave the Ultimatum, and she received the Ultimatum. 135 00:08:04,692 --> 00:08:08,488 -From your partner? -I came in with my partner, Haley. 136 00:08:08,571 --> 00:08:10,323 We've been together ten years. 137 00:08:10,823 --> 00:08:14,035 Wow. So, what kinds of things 138 00:08:14,118 --> 00:08:17,538 are you being challenged to grow in? 139 00:08:18,039 --> 00:08:19,749 There's just so many facets. 140 00:08:19,832 --> 00:08:22,585 We've been working on a lot of, like, our communication. 141 00:08:22,668 --> 00:08:23,586 I internalize… 142 00:08:23,669 --> 00:08:25,463 Yeah. We've been working through them… 143 00:08:25,546 --> 00:08:26,964 What's that look for? 144 00:08:27,048 --> 00:08:29,467 I… Yeah. Well… 145 00:08:29,550 --> 00:08:32,220 -Part of it's her upbringing. -Yeah. 146 00:08:32,303 --> 00:08:35,264 When I was out with my friends, I was in fifth or sixth grade, 147 00:08:35,348 --> 00:08:38,893 and they all called their parents because we were changing locations. 148 00:08:38,976 --> 00:08:40,436 I was like, I guess I'll call my mom. 149 00:08:40,520 --> 00:08:42,521 She's like, "Why're you telling me?" 150 00:08:42,605 --> 00:08:44,190 It's funny 'cause Pilar was talking about 151 00:08:44,273 --> 00:08:47,485 sometimes I just get up and leave and don't say where I'm going. 152 00:08:47,568 --> 00:08:49,654 -I'm like, "Because no one cares." -Yeah. 153 00:08:49,737 --> 00:08:53,324 I don't need to know where you're going, but I'm like, where are you going? 154 00:08:53,407 --> 00:08:55,159 -She leaves. -You need to change that. 155 00:08:55,243 --> 00:08:58,913 -I am. I'm going to. I'm realizing that. -I was like, "Oh, she left." 156 00:08:58,996 --> 00:09:02,416 Okay, but be careful that you don't become her therapist 157 00:09:02,500 --> 00:09:04,043 and not her wife. 158 00:09:04,126 --> 00:09:05,461 Yeah. 159 00:09:06,128 --> 00:09:08,798 -I've got the açai bowl. -Yes, I had it right here. 160 00:09:08,881 --> 00:09:10,216 -There you go. -Thank you. 161 00:09:11,425 --> 00:09:14,762 Are there things, now that you're with Pilar, 162 00:09:14,845 --> 00:09:17,014 about your relationship 163 00:09:17,098 --> 00:09:20,560 that you just see coming up again and again? 164 00:09:21,143 --> 00:09:23,312 Yeah, I see with Bridget and I, 165 00:09:24,689 --> 00:09:28,150 our, like, inability to, like, have real conflict, 166 00:09:28,234 --> 00:09:33,364 because we're, I think, both so afraid of hurting the other person 167 00:09:33,447 --> 00:09:37,076 that we will diffuse any situation, 168 00:09:37,159 --> 00:09:41,289 but maybe in a way that, like… doesn't fix things. 169 00:09:41,372 --> 00:09:43,374 You probably can't relate to that. 170 00:09:43,958 --> 00:09:44,875 Not at all. 171 00:09:44,959 --> 00:09:47,211 I mean, yeah, I learned it from you guys, so… 172 00:09:49,463 --> 00:09:51,716 Hey, we're not the subject here. 173 00:09:54,969 --> 00:09:59,390 What kind of things do you and Haley keep bumping up against 174 00:09:59,473 --> 00:10:01,517 in your ten years together? 175 00:10:02,101 --> 00:10:04,395 My family is not accepting. 176 00:10:04,478 --> 00:10:07,356 It took me, like, eight years to come out to them, 177 00:10:07,440 --> 00:10:08,774 and when I did… 178 00:10:08,858 --> 00:10:11,444 Eight years after you dated Haley? 179 00:10:11,527 --> 00:10:12,361 -Yes. -Wow. 180 00:10:12,445 --> 00:10:15,156 That had to be a load of bricks. 181 00:10:15,239 --> 00:10:16,157 -Yeah. -Wow. 182 00:10:16,240 --> 00:10:20,995 And after telling them, my mom doesn't speak to me anymore, 183 00:10:21,078 --> 00:10:23,956 and so, you know, I feel, like, stuck a little bit, 184 00:10:24,040 --> 00:10:25,583 and I become weary of marriage. 185 00:10:26,167 --> 00:10:28,336 It feels like I'm saying goodbye to my family. 186 00:10:29,003 --> 00:10:32,715 I'm realizing through this, like, how present, like, Kyle is. 187 00:10:32,798 --> 00:10:35,718 It's just your outlook on life, it's like you love this person, 188 00:10:35,801 --> 00:10:37,887 it's healthy, "Let's do this, let's commit," 189 00:10:37,970 --> 00:10:41,182 and I'm like, when you say it like that, it's so simple. 190 00:10:43,476 --> 00:10:45,936 I gave Gary an ultimatum. 191 00:10:46,020 --> 00:10:48,105 -No, you did not. -Yes, I did. 192 00:10:48,189 --> 00:10:49,482 That's so cute. 193 00:10:49,565 --> 00:10:51,525 I knew that you were the guy, 194 00:10:51,609 --> 00:10:54,737 but once we were engaged, I thought, 195 00:10:54,820 --> 00:10:58,366 "Wait a second, what does it even mean?" 196 00:10:58,449 --> 00:10:59,784 What are we doing? 197 00:10:59,867 --> 00:11:05,081 This is forever, and you think, "I can't do that." 198 00:11:05,164 --> 00:11:08,000 But my sister said, 199 00:11:08,084 --> 00:11:11,128 "Don't ask if you can live with him." 200 00:11:11,212 --> 00:11:13,881 "Ask if you can live without him." 201 00:11:13,964 --> 00:11:14,840 Aw. 202 00:11:14,924 --> 00:11:17,968 And can you see your life without him? 203 00:11:18,052 --> 00:11:22,139 And the key is that you make each other better. 204 00:11:22,223 --> 00:11:23,224 Yeah. 205 00:11:23,307 --> 00:11:25,643 And my heart kind of breaks 206 00:11:25,726 --> 00:11:31,482 that your parents don't get to see that Haley makes you better, 207 00:11:32,066 --> 00:11:34,276 and that you make Haley better. 208 00:11:34,360 --> 00:11:36,695 So the key, Pilar, 209 00:11:36,779 --> 00:11:41,951 is that you don't hold non-forgiveness in your heart. 210 00:11:42,827 --> 00:11:45,704 Just let your parents work through it. 211 00:11:46,539 --> 00:11:48,416 Just let them work through it. 212 00:11:50,209 --> 00:11:55,005 And know that their love is still holding you up. 213 00:11:55,089 --> 00:11:56,215 It is. 214 00:11:56,298 --> 00:11:59,385 Through all the darkest nights 215 00:11:59,468 --> 00:12:02,972 I'll be there for you 216 00:12:04,515 --> 00:12:08,227 I'll be there for you 217 00:12:08,936 --> 00:12:12,314 If you need me to 218 00:12:13,190 --> 00:12:15,401 What's your favorite, a sunset or a sunrise? 219 00:12:15,484 --> 00:12:18,237 Normally, if I see the sunrise, it means I've been up all night… 220 00:12:18,320 --> 00:12:19,155 Mm. 221 00:12:19,238 --> 00:12:21,532 …and that's never good, so I'll say the sunset. 222 00:12:23,409 --> 00:12:24,326 Yeah. 223 00:12:24,410 --> 00:12:27,747 It is crazy to think that Saturday night is our last night. 224 00:12:28,456 --> 00:12:30,166 How are you feeling about that? 225 00:12:31,709 --> 00:12:32,543 I'm sad. 226 00:12:32,626 --> 00:12:36,172 Like, I've enjoyed spending time with you and getting to know you, and… 227 00:12:36,922 --> 00:12:39,508 whether it was good times or challenging times. 228 00:12:39,592 --> 00:12:42,428 -Yeah. -But I've enjoyed it. 229 00:12:43,429 --> 00:12:44,388 Same. 230 00:12:44,472 --> 00:12:47,099 You go from sleeping with someone that you know for four years 231 00:12:47,183 --> 00:12:48,934 to someone new for three weeks. 232 00:12:49,018 --> 00:12:52,396 -Back to the person you were with. -But they're not the same person. 233 00:12:52,480 --> 00:12:53,772 Absolutely not. 234 00:12:54,440 --> 00:12:55,524 Does that scare you? 235 00:12:56,192 --> 00:12:57,109 No. 236 00:12:58,194 --> 00:13:01,655 Because change is inevitable. It happens whether we want it to or not. 237 00:13:02,656 --> 00:13:05,117 You can't stop yourself from growing. So… 238 00:13:06,952 --> 00:13:08,621 Mel is incredibly adamant 239 00:13:08,704 --> 00:13:12,208 that she didn't have any intercourse with Dayna. 240 00:13:12,291 --> 00:13:15,461 I do believe that Mel and Dayna 241 00:13:15,544 --> 00:13:19,965 both considered the persons… 242 00:13:20,049 --> 00:13:21,884 that they came here with 243 00:13:21,967 --> 00:13:25,429 and didn't further that relationship. 244 00:13:25,513 --> 00:13:27,890 They didn't consummate that marriage 245 00:13:27,973 --> 00:13:30,643 because it would only complicate things. 246 00:13:30,726 --> 00:13:36,524 We sit and talk for hours And listen to the waves 247 00:13:37,149 --> 00:13:42,947 I'd tell you all my secrets And you would do the same 248 00:13:43,030 --> 00:13:45,741 You really do have such a knack for, like, making 249 00:13:45,824 --> 00:13:50,037 really, really, really shit circumstances not terrible. 250 00:13:50,621 --> 00:13:51,872 Thank you for laughing. 251 00:13:51,956 --> 00:13:52,957 It's hard not to. 252 00:13:54,875 --> 00:13:58,504 You've given me a lot of space to, like, make it safe, 253 00:13:59,505 --> 00:14:01,924 where I can talk to you, 254 00:14:02,591 --> 00:14:04,093 and it not be scary. 255 00:14:05,844 --> 00:14:09,056 Conversations can be hard, but they shouldn't be scary. 256 00:14:09,139 --> 00:14:11,600 All of these conversations are scary. 257 00:14:12,393 --> 00:14:16,605 Getting scary is when you just generally don't want to have the conversation. 258 00:14:17,231 --> 00:14:20,860 I told you earlier, like, the topic of marriage with Britney 259 00:14:20,943 --> 00:14:21,944 is really scary. 260 00:14:22,903 --> 00:14:25,489 But I'm learning that I can do those things, 261 00:14:25,573 --> 00:14:27,950 because you've made it easier for me to actually have a space 262 00:14:28,033 --> 00:14:29,535 where I can express myself. 263 00:14:30,035 --> 00:14:31,954 Not to be gay or cheesy. 264 00:14:32,913 --> 00:14:35,374 You're going to be the gayest and the cheesiest. 265 00:14:35,457 --> 00:14:36,834 We'll call you Gouda. 266 00:14:40,087 --> 00:14:41,589 -Gayda. -Gayda! 267 00:14:41,672 --> 00:14:43,924 Yeah. 268 00:14:46,677 --> 00:14:48,679 I promise you, no one's going to stand up 269 00:14:48,762 --> 00:14:51,056 and be like, "My marriage was perfect." 270 00:14:51,140 --> 00:14:52,641 No marriage is perfect. 271 00:14:53,142 --> 00:14:56,103 Like, I was scared for this trial marriage. 272 00:14:56,186 --> 00:14:57,062 Mm. 273 00:14:57,146 --> 00:15:00,524 I mean, it's a lot to be expected, right? It's somebody new. 274 00:15:01,525 --> 00:15:03,736 It's the same feeling I have for my next one. 275 00:15:03,819 --> 00:15:04,653 Mm. 276 00:15:08,449 --> 00:15:12,202 Crash like waves We collide 277 00:15:12,911 --> 00:15:19,877 So ride those silver lights 278 00:15:21,086 --> 00:15:22,171 Mel… 279 00:15:22,254 --> 00:15:23,756 What are we going to do? 280 00:15:28,302 --> 00:15:29,553 You don't know what I want? 281 00:15:30,137 --> 00:15:31,639 You don't know that I love you? 282 00:15:31,722 --> 00:15:34,475 -You don't know that I want this? -I know you want me but… 283 00:15:34,558 --> 00:15:36,769 So then why the fuck do you act like you don't? 284 00:15:37,394 --> 00:15:40,939 I've told Dayna I have feelings for her, more than friend feelings. 285 00:15:41,023 --> 00:15:44,652 I need Dayna to come to terms with what she's feeling, 286 00:15:44,735 --> 00:15:48,155 because I think that she really could see a future with me. 287 00:15:48,238 --> 00:15:51,784 And I know that it scares her, 288 00:15:51,867 --> 00:15:53,410 but I need answers. 289 00:15:53,953 --> 00:15:56,121 I just want you in my life. A lot. 290 00:15:57,289 --> 00:16:00,084 More than anyone I probably wanted in my life. 291 00:16:01,168 --> 00:16:02,211 I want you. 292 00:16:02,878 --> 00:16:04,254 What does that mean for us? 293 00:16:04,338 --> 00:16:05,214 I don't know. 294 00:16:06,423 --> 00:16:09,802 Turn on a dime Call it a crime 295 00:16:09,885 --> 00:16:11,762 I can't forget you, babe 296 00:16:11,845 --> 00:16:13,722 I'll be honest for a change 297 00:16:20,270 --> 00:16:22,523 I just want to know what the fuck we're doing. 298 00:16:23,691 --> 00:16:26,402 Because at first it was, let's get to know this person, right? 299 00:16:28,070 --> 00:16:30,406 Then it's, okay, now we know each other, we like each other. 300 00:16:30,489 --> 00:16:33,534 Then I just question myself with, like, what am I feeling? 301 00:16:33,617 --> 00:16:34,660 What am I doing? 302 00:16:35,786 --> 00:16:36,620 Yeah. 303 00:16:37,746 --> 00:16:39,415 But, like, what are we doing? 304 00:16:41,417 --> 00:16:46,005 There is a connection between us. We want to be in each other's lives. 305 00:16:47,256 --> 00:16:48,090 Right. 306 00:16:49,216 --> 00:16:52,469 But the problem is you want answers that I can't really give you 307 00:16:52,553 --> 00:16:54,430 because there's so much unknown still. 308 00:16:54,513 --> 00:16:55,347 Yeah. 309 00:16:56,974 --> 00:16:59,017 I think the answers that you're asking of me 310 00:16:59,101 --> 00:17:01,687 are not something I can answer without speaking to Magan. 311 00:17:02,521 --> 00:17:04,732 I can't figure things out with Magan right now. 312 00:17:05,607 --> 00:17:06,775 It's not all about me. 313 00:17:07,359 --> 00:17:08,235 Mm-hmm. 314 00:17:13,198 --> 00:17:15,576 All I keep asking is what you're thinking, feeling, 315 00:17:15,659 --> 00:17:16,994 and I guess you're giving me that. 316 00:17:17,077 --> 00:17:18,495 What do you want me to say? 317 00:17:19,079 --> 00:17:21,540 I want you to say what you feel, and you've done that. 318 00:17:22,249 --> 00:17:23,333 Ugh. 319 00:17:25,085 --> 00:17:27,546 I feel like if I don't tell you what you want to hear right now, 320 00:17:27,629 --> 00:17:29,506 you're just going to shut down on me more. 321 00:17:29,590 --> 00:17:32,593 -I just want what's real. That's all. -Okay. 322 00:17:32,676 --> 00:17:35,345 Do you feel like that's not what you're getting? 323 00:17:35,429 --> 00:17:36,889 Are you giving me real? 324 00:17:36,972 --> 00:17:38,515 Why do you not feel like I am? 325 00:17:38,599 --> 00:17:41,351 I'm your person and I want to hear everything you're feeling 326 00:17:41,435 --> 00:17:46,106 no matter what, but the more that you talk about Magan with me, 327 00:17:46,190 --> 00:17:51,278 it just makes me feel like… you're not focusing on this. 328 00:17:51,862 --> 00:17:56,742 I don't think the breakup part with Magan has really hit me until recently. 329 00:17:56,825 --> 00:17:57,993 Like, holy shit. 330 00:18:02,623 --> 00:18:05,584 It's important to me that you're sure of things because… 331 00:18:07,961 --> 00:18:10,339 Here's the thing, like, for me and for you both, 332 00:18:10,422 --> 00:18:13,425 we both know it's gonna be a fight to stay in each other's lives. 333 00:18:13,509 --> 00:18:14,676 -It's gonna be a fight. -Yeah. 334 00:18:14,760 --> 00:18:18,430 And I need to know that it's worth the fight, 335 00:18:18,514 --> 00:18:21,433 so I push for you to find answers in yourself, 336 00:18:21,517 --> 00:18:23,477 because I don't want to be the only one. 337 00:18:26,772 --> 00:18:30,526 This has been such a positive, amazing, fun experience. 338 00:18:33,320 --> 00:18:35,489 I think you do know how happy I am. 339 00:18:35,572 --> 00:18:37,407 Part of who I am is now because of you. 340 00:18:38,408 --> 00:18:40,577 I would never take that for granted. 341 00:18:44,623 --> 00:18:47,334 You take me higher 342 00:18:50,003 --> 00:18:51,380 Higher 343 00:18:51,463 --> 00:18:52,589 Are you excited? 344 00:18:52,673 --> 00:18:54,633 I think I'm probably… 345 00:18:55,592 --> 00:18:57,219 most excited to see your dad, 346 00:18:57,302 --> 00:18:59,596 but I'm terrified to meet your sister, 'cause it's like-- 347 00:18:59,680 --> 00:19:00,722 -Really? -Yeah. 348 00:19:00,806 --> 00:19:04,726 I don't have a sister, but, like, I can feel… 349 00:19:04,810 --> 00:19:07,437 -The energy. The sister energy is real. -Yeah, the energy. Yes. Yes. 350 00:19:07,521 --> 00:19:09,773 And my niece is kind of like a sister to me. 351 00:19:09,857 --> 00:19:12,067 Now you made me even more nervous! 352 00:19:17,698 --> 00:19:18,907 Does this look okay? 353 00:19:19,491 --> 00:19:20,909 -You look great. -Okay. 354 00:19:21,451 --> 00:19:22,327 Okay. 355 00:19:26,123 --> 00:19:27,583 -Hello! -Hello! 356 00:19:27,666 --> 00:19:30,002 -Hi! -Long time no see. 357 00:19:30,085 --> 00:19:31,420 This is Magan. 358 00:19:31,503 --> 00:19:32,379 Hi. I'm Dave. 359 00:19:32,462 --> 00:19:34,882 -Very nice to meet you. -Nice to meet you guys. 360 00:19:34,965 --> 00:19:36,383 Oh my gosh, this is it. 361 00:19:36,466 --> 00:19:38,635 -This is it. -Fabulous! Oh my gosh. 362 00:19:38,719 --> 00:19:41,471 Our little apartment. You three can sit on that side. 363 00:19:41,555 --> 00:19:44,141 All right, well, you guys can grill us. 364 00:19:44,224 --> 00:19:46,059 -Yeah. All the questions. -We're open. 365 00:19:46,143 --> 00:19:49,396 I mean, my first question is just, like, how has it been so far? 366 00:19:49,479 --> 00:19:53,692 So, you guys know, Pilar and I are so different. 367 00:19:53,775 --> 00:19:57,404 We have very different personalities, different interests. 368 00:19:57,487 --> 00:19:59,531 With Magan, it's been the complete opposite. 369 00:20:00,115 --> 00:20:02,409 We are so similar. 370 00:20:02,492 --> 00:20:03,952 -Freakishly. -Freaky similar. 371 00:20:04,036 --> 00:20:06,663 We agree on every single thing. 372 00:20:07,331 --> 00:20:09,875 What we want for our futures, how we want to show up as partners. 373 00:20:09,958 --> 00:20:12,878 We did the work in the first week to make that safe space, 374 00:20:12,961 --> 00:20:16,256 so we felt super comfortable, like, just really diving deep. 375 00:20:16,340 --> 00:20:17,382 We've been very honest. 376 00:20:17,466 --> 00:20:19,509 Even if it's something that we don't want to hear, 377 00:20:19,593 --> 00:20:22,137 I wanted to learn how I can do better in life. 378 00:20:22,221 --> 00:20:25,515 And she just tells me that very gently and, like, respectfully. 379 00:20:25,599 --> 00:20:27,267 I always knew it's coming from a good place. 380 00:20:27,851 --> 00:20:31,188 I know you wanted to get married. How was your situation before you came here? 381 00:20:31,271 --> 00:20:33,398 -I received the Ultimatum. -You did? 382 00:20:33,482 --> 00:20:37,110 This is, like, an experience that I've never had with anybody. 383 00:20:37,194 --> 00:20:40,113 Like, I've never lived so easily with somebody. 384 00:20:40,614 --> 00:20:43,992 And it's just very interesting to have a glimpse of, like, 385 00:20:44,618 --> 00:20:46,787 what life is like, like this. 386 00:20:47,371 --> 00:20:51,667 So, I am dying to know, where do you stand on children? 387 00:20:51,750 --> 00:20:54,336 I know where Haley stands on children. 388 00:20:54,419 --> 00:20:56,505 We talked about this on our first date. 389 00:20:56,588 --> 00:20:59,258 -Okay. -I do want to have children one day. 390 00:20:59,341 --> 00:21:02,427 I'm Lebanese, and just in the culture, everybody's really, really close. 391 00:21:02,511 --> 00:21:03,720 So, I'm big on family. 392 00:21:03,804 --> 00:21:08,141 I feel like it would be really special for me to have, like, a family of my own. 393 00:21:08,225 --> 00:21:09,726 -Yeah. -It's amazing. 394 00:21:09,810 --> 00:21:12,729 Well, Magan did say that she would carry a child. 395 00:21:12,813 --> 00:21:13,647 Yeah. 396 00:21:14,231 --> 00:21:17,484 And that is one of my biggest things about not wanting a kid. 397 00:21:17,567 --> 00:21:19,194 You know, it definitely sweetens the deal. 398 00:21:21,280 --> 00:21:24,574 Magan has kind of shifted my perspective. I don't want this to be misconstrued. 399 00:21:24,658 --> 00:21:26,451 Not that Pilar wouldn't be an equal partner, 400 00:21:26,535 --> 00:21:30,497 but having someone who's also equally excited to have that journey with you, 401 00:21:30,580 --> 00:21:32,624 it makes it much less scary. 402 00:21:34,960 --> 00:21:38,630 It's just funny, because it's, like, totally not the, um… 403 00:21:38,714 --> 00:21:41,341 -Not the Haley you know? -Not the Haley that I know. But I… 404 00:21:41,425 --> 00:21:43,093 -A big step, Haley. -Yes. 405 00:21:43,677 --> 00:21:45,012 What changed your mind? 406 00:21:45,971 --> 00:21:46,805 You. 407 00:21:48,473 --> 00:21:50,600 Is it going to be hard to separate? 408 00:21:50,684 --> 00:21:52,394 -Yeah. -At the end of three weeks? 409 00:21:52,477 --> 00:21:55,772 We actually were, like, really sad about it a few days ago. 410 00:21:55,856 --> 00:21:58,984 It really feels like you're building something with somebody, 411 00:21:59,568 --> 00:22:01,653 and then after three weeks, it's, like, gone. 412 00:22:01,737 --> 00:22:04,322 -Yep. -That life just, like, stops right there. 413 00:22:04,406 --> 00:22:07,826 And then it's a hard transition into something different. 414 00:22:07,909 --> 00:22:09,995 Yeah, it's sad, for sure. 415 00:22:10,912 --> 00:22:13,457 -You're making me sad! -It's worth talking about. 416 00:22:13,540 --> 00:22:14,708 Yeah. It is. 417 00:22:14,791 --> 00:22:16,168 -No, you're right. -Yeah. 418 00:22:16,251 --> 00:22:19,296 If you had to make a decision right now, 419 00:22:19,379 --> 00:22:21,131 tell us where you're leaning. 420 00:22:21,214 --> 00:22:25,010 I'm just going into the next three weeks, like, fully open-minded. 421 00:22:25,093 --> 00:22:28,096 It's really about seeing if the work you've done on yourself 422 00:22:28,180 --> 00:22:30,932 and the person you've become, and the person they've become, 423 00:22:31,016 --> 00:22:32,934 if it still, like, meshes together 424 00:22:33,018 --> 00:22:34,895 or if it, like, tears you apart. 425 00:22:35,854 --> 00:22:37,814 There's just so many possibilities. 426 00:22:37,898 --> 00:22:39,733 I really can't predict it as of now. 427 00:22:41,818 --> 00:22:43,487 I definitely think… 428 00:22:45,489 --> 00:22:46,698 things. 429 00:22:48,575 --> 00:22:50,327 I'm surprised that it went so easy. 430 00:22:51,578 --> 00:22:54,998 I mean, sometimes it's harder maybe for her to actually open up 431 00:22:55,082 --> 00:22:59,294 and be super trusting with someone on a deep level. 432 00:22:59,378 --> 00:23:01,671 I can see that she's growing, yes. 433 00:23:01,755 --> 00:23:05,675 You're so compatible, like, with Haley, but also, like, with our family. 434 00:23:05,759 --> 00:23:07,302 -You guys are cool. -Thanks. 435 00:23:07,886 --> 00:23:11,098 I'm just glad she found someone, and you're really genuine and kind, 436 00:23:11,181 --> 00:23:12,224 and I can see that. 437 00:23:12,724 --> 00:23:14,559 -Thank you. -I just like your dynamic. 438 00:23:15,519 --> 00:23:17,521 I really do like Pilar, though, obviously. 439 00:23:17,604 --> 00:23:21,191 -Obviously. Pilar's not going anywhere. -She'll always be part of my life. Yeah. 440 00:23:21,274 --> 00:23:24,778 Haley is my sister, but Pilar is also, like, my sister. 441 00:23:25,821 --> 00:23:27,531 Obviously, at the end of this, 442 00:23:27,614 --> 00:23:29,616 even if we don't come out of here together, 443 00:23:29,699 --> 00:23:31,243 Pilar will always be in my life. 444 00:23:31,326 --> 00:23:33,328 -And Magan's been open to that. -Absolutely. 445 00:23:36,915 --> 00:23:39,876 It's weird. It's like, this is an experience, right? 446 00:23:39,960 --> 00:23:42,129 But it's been, like, a huge eye-opener. 447 00:23:42,212 --> 00:23:46,466 Like, I honestly feel like I've had questions for years. 448 00:23:47,384 --> 00:23:49,886 I feel like, for me, there's a lot that's going to change. 449 00:23:50,470 --> 00:23:53,223 Show you my true colors 450 00:23:53,807 --> 00:23:56,476 Show you, show you 451 00:23:56,560 --> 00:23:59,521 Exposed and uncovered 452 00:23:59,604 --> 00:24:02,649 Show you, show you 453 00:24:03,942 --> 00:24:05,861 Open your eyes 454 00:24:06,903 --> 00:24:08,864 Don't run and hide 455 00:24:08,947 --> 00:24:12,325 Show you my true colors 456 00:24:13,535 --> 00:24:17,581 Am I going to have to change your name from Wifey to Divorcée? 457 00:24:20,375 --> 00:24:22,919 It's just going to, like, be different 458 00:24:23,003 --> 00:24:26,131 not being with you anymore, 459 00:24:26,214 --> 00:24:28,216 Miss Wonderful Wifey. 460 00:24:28,300 --> 00:24:29,301 It is. 461 00:24:29,384 --> 00:24:32,721 And I will never forget all of our moments together. 462 00:24:32,804 --> 00:24:34,139 Aw. 463 00:24:35,182 --> 00:24:38,018 Don't make me cry! 464 00:24:40,645 --> 00:24:42,981 I mean, shit, I want you at my wedding. 465 00:24:43,064 --> 00:24:45,192 I'd love to be there. 466 00:24:45,275 --> 00:24:47,777 Whether you're the girl that's up there or… 467 00:24:47,861 --> 00:24:48,904 I'm just kidding. 468 00:24:48,987 --> 00:24:50,697 Like-- You know what I mean. 469 00:24:51,781 --> 00:24:55,452 All the things that you say at the altar is, like, how I felt. 470 00:24:56,036 --> 00:24:59,080 And you've shown me so much growth and grace 471 00:24:59,164 --> 00:25:02,167 and joy and passion and life. 472 00:25:02,250 --> 00:25:06,755 Like, what I would want out of a wife, what I would want out of a marriage. 473 00:25:06,838 --> 00:25:10,342 Ashley, you got big shoes to fill. 474 00:25:10,926 --> 00:25:13,094 Wow, you're gonna make me cry. 475 00:25:13,178 --> 00:25:15,514 That just genuinely means the world to me. 476 00:25:18,225 --> 00:25:22,312 Like, it's just weird and, like, crazy that this is all, like, coming to an end. 477 00:25:22,896 --> 00:25:24,814 What are you hoping to see from AJ? 478 00:25:25,857 --> 00:25:28,735 Do you think you can put yourself right back to where you were? 479 00:25:28,818 --> 00:25:31,988 I really can't tell. I don't want to say she feels like a stranger, 480 00:25:32,072 --> 00:25:34,574 but even though I've already lived with this person, 481 00:25:34,658 --> 00:25:37,327 I just don't know what to expect. 482 00:25:39,579 --> 00:25:41,873 We have a lot to talk about, a lot to discuss. 483 00:25:41,957 --> 00:25:43,083 And I got questions. 484 00:25:43,166 --> 00:25:45,877 When it's our first night, should we just go with the flow, 485 00:25:45,961 --> 00:25:48,046 with the energy and just be happy in the moment 486 00:25:48,129 --> 00:25:50,006 and then dig into shit in the morning? 487 00:25:50,715 --> 00:25:52,968 I don't know. This is going to be weird. 488 00:25:53,927 --> 00:25:56,304 I can feel it in my soul 489 00:25:56,930 --> 00:25:59,099 And deep in my bones 490 00:25:59,683 --> 00:26:02,018 Yeah, I'm ready to explode 491 00:26:05,355 --> 00:26:10,235 You can tell me that it's wrong But you want to come along 492 00:26:10,318 --> 00:26:12,487 This is our second to last night together. 493 00:26:12,571 --> 00:26:15,323 -We have one more night together tomorrow? -Yeah. 494 00:26:15,407 --> 00:26:17,909 Let me see. Oh! 495 00:26:17,993 --> 00:26:20,662 Girl, we're moving until dawn 496 00:26:20,745 --> 00:26:23,873 I don't know who came up with the idea to get tattoos today. 497 00:26:23,957 --> 00:26:25,875 I think the fact that they're matching, 498 00:26:25,959 --> 00:26:27,377 for us, was kind of like, 499 00:26:27,460 --> 00:26:30,547 "I'll always be in your life. You'll always be in my life." 500 00:26:30,630 --> 00:26:32,632 I know it's probably not the best idea, 501 00:26:32,716 --> 00:26:35,343 but I'm not really, like, a good idea type of person. 502 00:26:35,427 --> 00:26:37,846 Magan, we've talked about getting matching tattoos, 503 00:26:37,929 --> 00:26:40,807 so she's not going to be happy at all, but I don't care. 504 00:26:42,309 --> 00:26:45,562 Do you think anyone's going to have anything to say about these tattoos? 505 00:26:47,063 --> 00:26:48,773 I mean, I'm sure. 506 00:26:49,858 --> 00:26:53,486 You should come on strong And we can get it on 507 00:26:54,070 --> 00:26:59,326 Mmm. 508 00:27:02,495 --> 00:27:03,830 What are you-- Don't! 509 00:27:03,913 --> 00:27:05,832 That's how we cuddle. 510 00:27:12,464 --> 00:27:15,800 For me, it's imperative that I use toys, 511 00:27:15,884 --> 00:27:18,553 because I like my shit to swang. It's imperative that I do that. 512 00:27:18,637 --> 00:27:19,929 You're TMI right now. 513 00:27:20,013 --> 00:27:22,182 I'm just saying, we supposed to be best friends one day. 514 00:27:22,265 --> 00:27:24,309 -I'm telling you. -I'm fucking with you! 515 00:27:24,392 --> 00:27:26,269 Take a real thing to impress me 516 00:27:26,353 --> 00:27:28,229 I've never had oxtail before. 517 00:27:30,774 --> 00:27:32,108 Here you go. 518 00:27:32,192 --> 00:27:33,234 Oh, my God! 519 00:27:35,570 --> 00:27:36,655 Mm! 520 00:27:36,738 --> 00:27:38,281 You look overwhelmed. 521 00:27:38,365 --> 00:27:40,617 With joy! In Flavortown. 522 00:27:40,700 --> 00:27:42,744 Bad little baby Running through the street 523 00:27:43,328 --> 00:27:46,331 I'm, like, really happy with our entire journey. 524 00:27:46,414 --> 00:27:51,419 You know, I feel like we really did have the ups and the downs of a marriage. 525 00:27:51,503 --> 00:27:53,046 Very eye-opening experience, 526 00:27:53,129 --> 00:27:56,591 and I really didn't expect a lot of the realizations I was going to have. 527 00:27:56,675 --> 00:27:58,009 I'm very grateful for you. 528 00:27:58,093 --> 00:27:59,719 I'm grateful for you too. 529 00:27:59,803 --> 00:28:03,139 You're always going to have, like, a little soft spot in my heart. 530 00:28:03,223 --> 00:28:04,349 Same. 531 00:28:08,561 --> 00:28:09,562 Come on, Benny. 532 00:28:10,063 --> 00:28:12,774 So what you gonna do to be last with me? 533 00:28:14,484 --> 00:28:16,820 Look at him. He just lays next to you. 534 00:28:16,903 --> 00:28:20,407 He is cock block. Look at him. He's just always in between us. 535 00:28:20,490 --> 00:28:23,368 He is always literally fully on my side. 536 00:28:23,451 --> 00:28:25,995 No, he never, like, cuddles with me anymore. 537 00:28:26,079 --> 00:28:29,040 Ever since I've been here with you, he does not cuddle with me. 538 00:28:29,124 --> 00:28:30,667 -Are you jealous? -Yeah. 539 00:28:30,750 --> 00:28:33,002 We only have one more night together. Are you sad? 540 00:28:33,086 --> 00:28:34,421 I'm really sad. 541 00:28:34,504 --> 00:28:36,089 I feel like we're having a good time, 542 00:28:36,172 --> 00:28:38,007 and my next trial marriage is gonna be like… 543 00:28:38,091 --> 00:28:40,635 -Are you nervous to go back? -What do we need to fix? 544 00:28:40,718 --> 00:28:42,303 -Yeah. -You are? 545 00:28:42,387 --> 00:28:44,180 -Yeah. I am. I… -Me too. 546 00:28:44,264 --> 00:28:47,225 I'm nervous to find out whatever the hell happened. 547 00:28:47,308 --> 00:28:49,936 -What do you think you're gonna find out? -I don't know. 548 00:28:50,478 --> 00:28:52,355 What do you think she's gonna find out? 549 00:28:53,356 --> 00:28:55,150 That's to be determined. 550 00:28:55,233 --> 00:28:56,943 TBD. 551 00:28:57,026 --> 00:28:59,737 -It's like there's so much. -Mm-hmm. 552 00:28:59,821 --> 00:29:03,366 I just don't want to revert back to old habits. 553 00:29:03,450 --> 00:29:06,786 We both are like this where we see our exes, 554 00:29:06,870 --> 00:29:09,456 and we're like, "You're so sweet and innocent." 555 00:29:09,539 --> 00:29:11,124 -Yeah. -"Let me not upset you…" 556 00:29:11,207 --> 00:29:12,625 -We can't do that. -"…by my feelings. 557 00:29:12,709 --> 00:29:14,002 No, our feelings matter. 558 00:29:14,085 --> 00:29:17,338 I'm just worried that, like, I'm going to start to say my feelings, 559 00:29:17,422 --> 00:29:21,009 and she's just going to get upset. I won't be able to have that conversation. 560 00:29:21,092 --> 00:29:23,011 That's what Marita does. We ain't doing it. 561 00:29:23,094 --> 00:29:24,220 No, we can't. 562 00:29:24,304 --> 00:29:26,764 You're going to go back and put your foot down. 563 00:29:26,848 --> 00:29:27,724 Yeah. 564 00:29:27,807 --> 00:29:31,561 -And just be a bad bitch, that you are. -Yeah. I am gonna be a bad bitch. 565 00:29:32,812 --> 00:29:36,232 It makes me sad that I'm not going to live with her anymore. 566 00:29:36,816 --> 00:29:39,110 We just have it so easy. 567 00:29:39,194 --> 00:29:40,737 Like, I love my life with Bridget. 568 00:29:40,820 --> 00:29:44,616 It is something I wanted to experience in terms of the slower pace. 569 00:29:44,699 --> 00:29:47,410 I needed it. It was, like, such a breath of fresh air. 570 00:29:47,494 --> 00:29:50,997 And for once, to finally have that self-confidence again, 571 00:29:51,080 --> 00:29:54,250 because I do feel like, in a way, I've been living in Marita's shadow. 572 00:29:54,334 --> 00:29:58,922 So it's definitely a bummer to think about packing, and, like, I hate that. 573 00:29:59,005 --> 00:30:00,673 You have to come to St. Pete. 574 00:30:01,925 --> 00:30:03,635 -I definitely want to. -Yeah. 575 00:30:04,552 --> 00:30:06,888 I wish I could come just, like, right after this. 576 00:30:06,971 --> 00:30:09,557 Do it. Let's run away together. 577 00:30:09,641 --> 00:30:12,268 Just the two of us. With Marita's car. 578 00:30:15,104 --> 00:30:20,360 We'll be all that you're needing now 579 00:30:21,402 --> 00:30:26,241 I can't stop this beating of my heart 580 00:30:26,324 --> 00:30:29,077 This beating of my heart 581 00:30:29,661 --> 00:30:34,290 This time we will never be apart 582 00:30:34,374 --> 00:30:37,126 We'll never be apart 583 00:30:37,752 --> 00:30:40,171 Okay, girl. Stop. 584 00:30:44,551 --> 00:30:46,052 What would you like to talk about 585 00:30:46,135 --> 00:30:49,097 on our last night together as a married couple? 586 00:30:51,641 --> 00:30:54,185 Oh, my God. What is that little box? 587 00:30:54,269 --> 00:30:56,563 Nosy. Five in the morning, I wrote this. 588 00:30:57,772 --> 00:31:02,277 "Meeting you has been one of the most amazing, life-changing, 589 00:31:02,360 --> 00:31:08,116 scary, safe, comforting, and meaningful experiences of my entire life." 590 00:31:09,409 --> 00:31:11,661 "I will never forget our time together, 591 00:31:11,744 --> 00:31:14,872 and how amazing and caring of a wife you have been to me." 592 00:31:16,833 --> 00:31:19,544 "I never knew how much I needed you, 593 00:31:20,128 --> 00:31:22,755 nor have I let myself need someone like this 594 00:31:22,839 --> 00:31:24,299 in such a long time." 595 00:31:24,966 --> 00:31:27,552 "You are the most 596 00:31:28,511 --> 00:31:29,804 deserving…" 597 00:31:32,307 --> 00:31:33,349 That's so cute. 598 00:31:33,433 --> 00:31:35,977 "…and thoughtful person that I know." 599 00:31:37,145 --> 00:31:40,023 "I wish I could know you in all the phases of your life." 600 00:31:40,523 --> 00:31:43,109 "But if I can't be in your life forever, 601 00:31:43,192 --> 00:31:45,528 I know I will always be here for you, 602 00:31:45,612 --> 00:31:47,322 and think of you, 603 00:31:47,405 --> 00:31:48,990 and I'll miss you forever." 604 00:31:50,700 --> 00:31:53,036 "Always, Dayna." 605 00:31:53,911 --> 00:31:55,079 Always. 606 00:31:55,163 --> 00:31:56,497 Come here, butthead. 607 00:31:56,581 --> 00:31:58,708 Why did you write something so cute? 608 00:32:01,085 --> 00:32:02,712 -Do you mean that? -Mm-hmm. 609 00:32:03,212 --> 00:32:04,422 Of course I mean it. 610 00:32:06,591 --> 00:32:08,509 -Okay, it's your turn now. -Okay. 611 00:32:10,053 --> 00:32:11,929 -No, we're cheering. -Oh. Okay. 612 00:32:15,516 --> 00:32:17,101 "Thank you for being somebody 613 00:32:17,185 --> 00:32:19,979 who's shown me what it's like to be seen and heard." 614 00:32:20,063 --> 00:32:24,734 "You have truly impacted my life in more ways than I care to admit." 615 00:32:24,817 --> 00:32:27,654 "You have made me the happiest I've been in a long time." 616 00:32:27,737 --> 00:32:29,864 "I think that we talked about literally everything, 617 00:32:29,947 --> 00:32:33,952 but I feel like I need 100 more years just to learn everything about you." 618 00:32:34,035 --> 00:32:36,579 "Together, you and I can conquer anything." 619 00:32:36,663 --> 00:32:38,956 "I know I've said it before, but I'll say it again." 620 00:32:39,040 --> 00:32:42,418 "Some cosmic force brought us here to meet each other." 621 00:32:42,502 --> 00:32:44,629 "It was never up to us who we chose, 622 00:32:44,712 --> 00:32:47,423 and at that table, it was something more powerful 623 00:32:47,507 --> 00:32:48,883 which drew us together." 624 00:32:49,759 --> 00:32:52,553 "We were always meant to meet each other, to change each other, 625 00:32:52,637 --> 00:32:55,890 to grow with one another, and most importantly, to save each other." 626 00:32:56,432 --> 00:32:58,559 "Thank you for saving me from myself." 627 00:33:01,646 --> 00:33:03,314 "You made my heart full, 628 00:33:04,649 --> 00:33:06,859 and for that, I owe you forever." 629 00:33:09,404 --> 00:33:11,155 How could you say that to me? 630 00:33:13,408 --> 00:33:16,077 How can I say what to you? Which part? All of it? 631 00:33:16,160 --> 00:33:17,704 -Come here, butthead. -All of it. 632 00:33:17,787 --> 00:33:21,749 Some days I know The world is on my side 633 00:33:23,584 --> 00:33:27,672 Some days I feel it on my shoulders 634 00:33:29,215 --> 00:33:30,675 Don't be mad. I'm sorry. 635 00:33:30,758 --> 00:33:32,677 I'm not mad at you. 636 00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:33,594 I meant it. 637 00:33:34,387 --> 00:33:38,641 I know you meant it, but, like, why would you say that to me? 638 00:33:40,727 --> 00:33:44,605 -What if I never see you again? -I know you're going to see me again. 639 00:33:44,689 --> 00:33:45,648 You promise? 640 00:33:45,732 --> 00:33:47,525 Mm-hmm. I promise. 641 00:33:48,693 --> 00:33:53,114 I won't apologize for feeling 642 00:33:53,197 --> 00:33:56,242 I need to be sad right now 643 00:33:59,704 --> 00:34:02,707 Let all the tears dry out 644 00:34:10,173 --> 00:34:12,925 I don't know if I'm, like, happy or sad right now. 645 00:34:16,929 --> 00:34:19,974 I won't lie, I won't lie I won't say that I'm fine 646 00:34:20,058 --> 00:34:22,060 But I will be 647 00:34:23,728 --> 00:34:27,982 I won't apologize for feeling 648 00:34:28,858 --> 00:34:31,944 Like, I feel happy that I got a glimpse of, 649 00:34:32,028 --> 00:34:34,530 like, what my life could be. 650 00:34:36,824 --> 00:34:40,536 And I'm also sad because it's like, now what? 651 00:34:41,746 --> 00:34:42,663 It's hard. 652 00:34:45,374 --> 00:34:46,250 It's real. 653 00:34:48,669 --> 00:34:50,463 Who can say that, in three weeks, 654 00:34:50,546 --> 00:34:53,132 they could have an experience with someone like this? 655 00:34:53,216 --> 00:34:54,884 And it's, like, even more rare. 656 00:34:54,967 --> 00:34:59,222 It's like, the fact that, like, I can have it with you is just like, 657 00:34:59,305 --> 00:35:00,473 so amazing to me. 658 00:35:00,556 --> 00:35:01,849 Because it's like… 659 00:35:03,726 --> 00:35:06,437 It's just like a glimpse of something that I always wanted. 660 00:35:08,272 --> 00:35:09,357 Me too. 661 00:35:09,440 --> 00:35:12,777 And I'm happy that I get to have a taste of that, 662 00:35:12,860 --> 00:35:15,571 than always feeling like it could never happen. 663 00:35:16,697 --> 00:35:18,032 I want the same for you. 664 00:35:18,116 --> 00:35:21,828 Like, I want you to live the life that you want to have, you know? 665 00:35:22,411 --> 00:35:25,540 But it's like, you know, people fall into habits and… 666 00:35:27,041 --> 00:35:30,294 and just patterns, and just like, before you know it, 667 00:35:30,378 --> 00:35:31,546 time is ticking. 668 00:35:35,424 --> 00:35:36,717 It's just important. 669 00:35:36,801 --> 00:35:41,597 Like, I didn't realize how important it is to, you know, make decisions for yourself 670 00:35:41,681 --> 00:35:45,143 because, like, you can actually have the things that you want. 671 00:35:45,226 --> 00:35:47,770 It's possible. Like, this is proof. 672 00:35:54,902 --> 00:35:55,903 What are you thinking? 673 00:36:00,449 --> 00:36:01,325 I love you. 674 00:36:07,874 --> 00:36:08,958 I love you too. 675 00:36:18,759 --> 00:36:21,137 I was born with… 676 00:36:21,220 --> 00:36:22,096 Holy shit. 677 00:36:26,767 --> 00:36:31,105 Only waterfall from shallow… 678 00:36:31,189 --> 00:36:32,398 It's okay. 679 00:36:34,734 --> 00:36:39,822 All the odds were up against me 680 00:36:51,417 --> 00:36:53,169 I just didn't expect this. 681 00:36:57,048 --> 00:36:59,425 I just feel like we've seen each other 682 00:36:59,508 --> 00:37:02,470 in ways that, like, neither of us have felt seen. 683 00:37:03,971 --> 00:37:06,474 And it just feels like things will never be the same. 684 00:37:10,436 --> 00:37:14,690 How we fall is where I've gone 685 00:37:16,609 --> 00:37:17,777 It's heartbreaking. 686 00:37:18,569 --> 00:37:22,323 It's like, one of the first times in my life to feel understood. 687 00:37:31,165 --> 00:37:32,124 It was amazing. 688 00:37:33,250 --> 00:37:36,295 I've seen this road before 689 00:37:37,213 --> 00:37:39,799 I've never experienced this type of life with somebody. 690 00:37:40,675 --> 00:37:42,259 I'm a brand-new person from it, 691 00:37:42,343 --> 00:37:45,179 and I feel like my life is just getting started. 692 00:37:45,805 --> 00:37:49,433 Something incredible has happened. You know, it's very scary. 693 00:37:49,517 --> 00:37:52,687 Made it on my own 694 00:37:52,770 --> 00:37:56,148 So used to being alone 695 00:37:56,232 --> 00:37:57,400 I love you. 696 00:37:57,483 --> 00:38:02,530 Time to claim what's mine 697 00:38:05,700 --> 00:38:09,912 Raise me up from the ground 698 00:38:10,871 --> 00:38:13,874 So I can't hear a sound 699 00:38:14,542 --> 00:38:17,044 Thunder and lightning 700 00:38:17,128 --> 00:38:18,337 Hi. 701 00:38:23,134 --> 00:38:25,261 Energy's rising 702 00:38:26,429 --> 00:38:30,516 I'm nervous going into the Changeover. 703 00:38:30,599 --> 00:38:34,603 My worst fear in this is that I feel like I'm ready for marriage, 704 00:38:34,687 --> 00:38:36,689 and Haley's in love with someone else. 705 00:38:36,772 --> 00:38:39,525 It's almost like, too little, too late. 706 00:38:39,608 --> 00:38:43,321 And I might lose the person that I love the most. 707 00:38:44,405 --> 00:38:47,533 Like thunder and lightning 708 00:38:47,616 --> 00:38:50,619 This experience has been so unpredictable. 709 00:38:50,703 --> 00:38:53,539 Every step that I took with Haley was authentic. 710 00:38:53,622 --> 00:38:55,708 I did it for me. I was choosing myself. 711 00:38:56,292 --> 00:38:58,586 I don't want to shut the book with Dayna, 712 00:38:58,669 --> 00:39:01,130 but at the same time, where do we go from here? 713 00:39:02,548 --> 00:39:05,718 I'm like the chick from The Notebook where I'm one person when I'm with you, 714 00:39:05,801 --> 00:39:07,470 and one person when I'm with you. 715 00:39:07,553 --> 00:39:11,766 Mel has promised me things beyond what Magan has promised me. 716 00:39:11,849 --> 00:39:14,018 You know, Haley's got her claws in Magan. 717 00:39:14,101 --> 00:39:16,771 So… I don't know what's going to happen. 718 00:39:20,900 --> 00:39:24,070 I'm singular lightning 719 00:39:25,571 --> 00:39:27,323 Hello, everyone. 720 00:39:27,907 --> 00:39:29,617 Welcome to the Changeover. 721 00:39:30,242 --> 00:39:33,329 Every one of you arrived here as part of a couple 722 00:39:33,412 --> 00:39:35,039 thinking about marriage. 723 00:39:35,748 --> 00:39:37,083 You agreed to an Ultimatum. 724 00:39:37,166 --> 00:39:41,045 You broke up to decide if you were with the right person, 725 00:39:41,128 --> 00:39:44,382 or if someone else out there might be a better fit. 726 00:39:45,591 --> 00:39:48,135 When you arrived here, you met someone new. 727 00:39:48,761 --> 00:39:53,182 Someone that you thought embodied the qualities that you want in a spouse. 728 00:39:53,766 --> 00:39:56,811 You committed to one another and entered into a trial marriage. 729 00:39:57,395 --> 00:40:00,815 Tonight, the first trial marriages are coming to an end, 730 00:40:00,898 --> 00:40:03,234 and the second trial marriages are about to begin. 731 00:40:04,110 --> 00:40:07,321 The stakes are high, and we're not even halfway through. 732 00:40:09,323 --> 00:40:11,784 At the end of this, each of you will make a choice. 733 00:40:12,576 --> 00:40:16,580 Will you leave here engaged to the person that you arrived here with? 734 00:40:17,164 --> 00:40:19,291 Will you leave with the person you chose here? 735 00:40:20,501 --> 00:40:22,920 Or will you walk out of here alone? 736 00:40:24,046 --> 00:40:28,217 Now, there is a lot to get into tonight, so what do you say we get started? 737 00:40:28,300 --> 00:40:30,094 -Yeah, let's do it. -Sounds good. 738 00:40:30,678 --> 00:40:32,972 Okay. Britney and Marita. 739 00:40:35,307 --> 00:40:37,351 My trial marriage was amazing. 740 00:40:37,435 --> 00:40:40,688 Truly, I couldn't ask for a better wife, a better partner, a better person. 741 00:40:41,272 --> 00:40:45,985 You truly are, like, a huge cheerleader for me, 742 00:40:46,068 --> 00:40:48,362 and I think that's very impactful for me. 743 00:40:48,446 --> 00:40:50,072 It helps me understand my value. 744 00:40:50,739 --> 00:40:52,366 Like, "Girl, you should pop your shit." 745 00:40:52,450 --> 00:40:53,951 You're like, you know what I'm saying? 746 00:40:54,034 --> 00:40:56,954 Like, you don't say it like that, but you say it like that. 747 00:40:58,372 --> 00:41:01,292 So, I think God, like, works in mysterious ways. 748 00:41:01,375 --> 00:41:03,335 This is how it's supposed to be. Like… 749 00:41:03,419 --> 00:41:05,671 And we went with it, and I'm very happy. 750 00:41:06,297 --> 00:41:07,548 Me too. 751 00:41:08,757 --> 00:41:10,676 I know you weren't each other's first choice. 752 00:41:10,759 --> 00:41:12,136 -Yeah. -And I thought to myself, 753 00:41:12,219 --> 00:41:13,637 because I am the eternal optimist, 754 00:41:13,721 --> 00:41:15,347 "This just could be meant to be." 755 00:41:15,431 --> 00:41:16,515 Exactly! 756 00:41:17,016 --> 00:41:18,225 It truly was. 757 00:41:18,309 --> 00:41:21,812 I just think that, like, you radiate that you just care so much 758 00:41:21,896 --> 00:41:24,064 about everybody else around you. 759 00:41:24,148 --> 00:41:28,444 I also feel like positive qualities that I see in Britney 760 00:41:28,527 --> 00:41:31,197 that I don't necessarily see in my ex 761 00:41:31,280 --> 00:41:34,074 is that I don't have to ask 762 00:41:34,867 --> 00:41:38,579 for certain… romantic antics. 763 00:41:38,662 --> 00:41:40,748 You're kind of already there doing it. 764 00:41:40,831 --> 00:41:44,543 And, like, having you as a wife has shown me that, like, 765 00:41:44,627 --> 00:41:49,673 this little piece of my heart that I still can't quite fill 766 00:41:49,757 --> 00:41:53,552 until I know that it's full before I get married… 767 00:41:53,636 --> 00:41:56,096 I feel like you showed me exactly what I need. 768 00:41:56,680 --> 00:41:58,349 She cooked oxtail for me last night. 769 00:41:58,432 --> 00:41:59,433 I'm sorry? 770 00:41:59,517 --> 00:42:00,726 Oxtai… Oh. 771 00:42:01,310 --> 00:42:02,478 Oh no. 772 00:42:02,561 --> 00:42:04,438 She did. Sorry, AJ. 773 00:42:05,147 --> 00:42:08,067 Look, there was boundaries, and that was the boundary. 774 00:42:08,150 --> 00:42:10,569 -No oxtails to be made. -Oxtail was the boundary? 775 00:42:10,653 --> 00:42:11,987 Wait, actually? 776 00:42:12,071 --> 00:42:12,905 Yes. 777 00:42:13,405 --> 00:42:14,615 Ooh! 778 00:42:14,698 --> 00:42:15,699 There's leftovers. 779 00:42:16,283 --> 00:42:17,660 I can see Britney just… 780 00:42:19,245 --> 00:42:22,039 giving her everything that she says I don't. 781 00:42:22,623 --> 00:42:25,084 Britney and I talked about it at the group night out, 782 00:42:25,167 --> 00:42:26,794 and she was like, "It's so easy for me 783 00:42:26,877 --> 00:42:29,046 to do all these romantic gestures for Marita." 784 00:42:29,129 --> 00:42:30,714 I was like, "Why is it hard for me, 785 00:42:30,798 --> 00:42:34,468 but it's so easy for this girl she just met to do it?" You know? 786 00:42:34,551 --> 00:42:37,555 So I think they'd be a great couple, honestly. 787 00:42:41,976 --> 00:42:43,060 Okay. 788 00:42:44,186 --> 00:42:45,479 Ashley, Bridget, 789 00:42:45,563 --> 00:42:49,066 share with the group your experiences in the first trial marriage. 790 00:42:49,733 --> 00:42:51,777 Bridget, I think you're a catch, 100%. 791 00:42:51,860 --> 00:42:55,406 Number one, you're beautiful and have, like, the most unique, 792 00:42:55,489 --> 00:42:57,866 authentic style that's definitely you. 793 00:42:57,950 --> 00:43:00,035 I could never pull your clothes off, but… 794 00:43:00,119 --> 00:43:01,078 I bet you could. 795 00:43:02,204 --> 00:43:07,126 But, like, it's really how much you have made me feel seen and heard. 796 00:43:07,209 --> 00:43:10,629 That has been a huge thing that I've been wanting. 797 00:43:11,380 --> 00:43:14,133 This self-confidence that I've watched build in you, 798 00:43:14,216 --> 00:43:16,468 I'm so incredibly proud of you, 799 00:43:16,552 --> 00:43:18,220 -and how far you've come. -Thank you. 800 00:43:18,304 --> 00:43:19,805 Thank you. That's so sweet. 801 00:43:20,306 --> 00:43:22,099 I always feel considered with you. 802 00:43:22,182 --> 00:43:24,727 You literally come and check in before you leave 803 00:43:24,810 --> 00:43:26,604 to go somewhere for a long time, 804 00:43:26,687 --> 00:43:28,522 and it was really nice. 805 00:43:28,606 --> 00:43:31,358 I just have enjoyed, like, every moment with you, 806 00:43:31,442 --> 00:43:33,694 and I'm just going to miss being around you daily, 807 00:43:33,777 --> 00:43:35,195 so it's going to suck. 808 00:43:37,406 --> 00:43:40,117 Bridget, do you have any advice for Marita and Ashley 809 00:43:40,200 --> 00:43:41,660 as they come back together? 810 00:43:42,161 --> 00:43:45,998 I do think it's important to acknowledge your own faults. 811 00:43:46,540 --> 00:43:48,334 And I think I've seen Ashley do that. 812 00:43:48,417 --> 00:43:52,087 I haven't had a trial marriage with Marita, so I can't speak for that. 813 00:43:52,171 --> 00:43:57,509 But I just think in order for you guys to have a healthy relationship 814 00:43:57,593 --> 00:44:02,848 and get those feelings of, like, grand gestures, if that's what you need, 815 00:44:02,931 --> 00:44:06,727 I think you need to understand each other's feelings better, 816 00:44:06,810 --> 00:44:10,022 and, like, I do think you need to work on a few things. 817 00:44:11,190 --> 00:44:14,526 I understand that you've gotten to know Ashley, and I do, 818 00:44:14,610 --> 00:44:16,612 obviously, adore and love Ashley. 819 00:44:16,695 --> 00:44:19,990 She's my person, and we have a lot to work on, 820 00:44:20,074 --> 00:44:23,118 but you also don't know how our relationship has gone. 821 00:44:23,202 --> 00:44:25,788 That's everyone here. I think we can't sit here and-- 822 00:44:25,871 --> 00:44:28,332 But she is. She's prejudging how I feel about… 823 00:44:28,415 --> 00:44:30,667 I get it, but we're all probably doing that. 824 00:44:30,751 --> 00:44:32,086 Okay. 825 00:44:33,253 --> 00:44:36,006 Take a bit of a breath. Things are getting a little heated, 826 00:44:36,090 --> 00:44:40,386 and this dress is not that secure for me to have to break up anything, so… 827 00:44:41,220 --> 00:44:44,264 We are going to move on to Kyle and Pilar. 828 00:44:45,182 --> 00:44:50,145 I can't even begin to put into words, like, what this trial marriage has been. 829 00:44:50,229 --> 00:44:53,565 I feel we had a moment where, you know, things are hard, 830 00:44:53,649 --> 00:44:55,734 and everything's, like, emotionally intense, 831 00:44:55,818 --> 00:44:59,446 and I think we came out stronger than ever after that, 832 00:44:59,530 --> 00:45:01,156 just communicating, talking, 833 00:45:01,240 --> 00:45:03,701 and getting down to, like, the root of things. 834 00:45:04,284 --> 00:45:07,579 I'm just so grateful that I was able to do this with you by my side. 835 00:45:08,664 --> 00:45:13,752 Yeah. I think, overall, it was so positive for both of us. 836 00:45:13,836 --> 00:45:17,714 I'm so grateful for you for, like, sticking with me 837 00:45:17,798 --> 00:45:21,343 through the hard times and, like, helping me work through my emotions. 838 00:45:21,427 --> 00:45:25,055 I really appreciate how understanding you are 839 00:45:25,139 --> 00:45:27,891 and, like, mature through conflict. 840 00:45:28,392 --> 00:45:29,810 You just wanted to understand, 841 00:45:29,893 --> 00:45:32,354 like, where my strong emotions were coming from. 842 00:45:32,438 --> 00:45:35,899 I know that wherever life takes you, like, 843 00:45:35,983 --> 00:45:38,527 you'll be an amazing partner for someone. 844 00:45:39,069 --> 00:45:41,238 Whatever happens, you know what you deserve. 845 00:45:41,321 --> 00:45:44,116 I've told you so many times when you've been spiraling, 846 00:45:44,199 --> 00:45:47,745 like, you'll have so much time with Haley to work through things, 847 00:45:47,828 --> 00:45:51,165 and if it's meant to be, I'm rooting for you guys. 848 00:45:51,749 --> 00:45:57,296 The biggest thing for me is that I can be just really emotionally reactive. 849 00:45:57,379 --> 00:46:01,133 I feel like I've been, like, spiraling, even in this, where I'm focused, 850 00:46:01,216 --> 00:46:03,719 like, "What are they doing? What are they saying?" 851 00:46:03,802 --> 00:46:05,763 "Is she falling in love with someone else?" 852 00:46:06,638 --> 00:46:08,599 You go into this with your partner, 853 00:46:08,682 --> 00:46:10,642 and you feel like you'll be a team. 854 00:46:10,726 --> 00:46:12,352 I know you have had great growth, 855 00:46:12,436 --> 00:46:14,688 but then, you know, I see you post, like, stories, 856 00:46:14,772 --> 00:46:18,525 like, "Sometimes you want to disappear, but all you want to do is be found." 857 00:46:18,609 --> 00:46:20,486 I feel like I can read between the lines, 858 00:46:20,569 --> 00:46:23,739 and you're going to retreat in someone else and be seen? I don't know. 859 00:46:23,822 --> 00:46:26,825 To talk about stories, you posted Kyle with heart eyes 860 00:46:26,909 --> 00:46:28,035 and then you blocked me? 861 00:46:29,495 --> 00:46:32,456 -I didn't know about that. -Just curious, is that the story? 862 00:46:32,956 --> 00:46:36,210 I can post a quote and that's the reaction, but… 863 00:46:37,336 --> 00:46:38,337 I'm blocked. 864 00:46:38,420 --> 00:46:40,255 And there's not something more to you guys? 865 00:46:40,339 --> 00:46:41,924 We're very authentic. 866 00:46:42,007 --> 00:46:43,926 We'll tell you everything you want to know. 867 00:46:50,098 --> 00:46:51,225 I'm wide awake 868 00:46:53,310 --> 00:46:55,646 You'll never change 869 00:47:03,195 --> 00:47:06,532 You'll never change thing you want to know.